Re: would you move in with in laws?

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Posted by nancygrace

NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!not if u paid me lOL

Re: would you move in with in laws?

Posted by nancygrace

NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!not if u paid me lOL

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That would be a big fat NO

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I used to laugh and say a BIG NNNNNOOOOOOOO way is that ever going to happen in this lifetime.

But we did just that a month ago. My desire to own vs. rent became my deciding factor in this one. Everytime MIL gets on my nerves, I just breathe and realize that my piece of he!l on earth right now is going to be worth it for me when I put that down payment on a place that is too far out for her to come visit too often (since they don't have a car )

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no way

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It depends on your relationship. I would never do it. I think everyone needs space and privacy. Inevitable when you live in the same house, there's a lack of privacy there and the in laws may feel the need to get involved more than they would if you were across town.

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I'd have to say No. I get along with my inlaws but I wouldn't do it. There would be no privacy, someone would always be in your business.

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NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

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only if it was temporary! My hubby on the other hand would NEVER, he would never ask anyone to help us out financially, he thinks it's obnoxious, I on the other hand would take any help offered to us since we have never gotten ANY help from anyone and we're always working so hard to make ends meet. My hubby just thinks once you're an adult you should be independent, I agree somewhat, but a little finacial help would be apprciated.

Message edited 3/29/2006 8:46:43 AM.

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Yes, if it was temporary. I know they'd respect our privacy.

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We're living with my IL's right now. Have been for the last 6 months. We're looking at approximately another 18-24 months of living there.

Saving for a house, financing an album for DH and paying down Student Loans were our number one priority in deciding to do this. There was no way we could do all 3 and pay rent.

We never expected it to be as easy as it has been. Hopefully the next 18 months go as smoothly. I feel lucky that I get along so well with my IL's.

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We are thinking this road possibly by the end of the summer Dh will be student teaching and out of work for a few months so we might just move in with my parents!! I think for a short term I don't see it being a problem my parents are pretty cool and I enjoy being around them. But I would NEVER move in with my IN LAWS!!!

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Nope!

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i get along good with the ils. i know there's no room to do it. if we had to, i think i would.

my sister is living with hers to save for a house. i think she's ungrateful for it. if she didn't want to do it, then she shouldn't have. i also think she could be ungrateful at times

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I currently live in a 2-family house. My MIL is on the first floor and DH & I are on the second floor. Separate entrances - in fact she uses the entrance in the back of the house and we use the front of the house so we don't even park near each other.
Like another poster said, my desire to own a house versus pay a ridulous amount of rent each month and have a hard time saving was the deciding factor. DH and I are able to bank my entire salary and part of his each month.
My MIL gives us our privacy, although at times she can get in the way. But that is expected, she is a widow and is lonely and she means well. It doesn't bother me that much. She never comes upstairs unless invited and always telephones if she needs something (never calls us from the hallway or anything).
I happen to like her as a person also, so that helps because the little things that do bother me tend to roll off my back.

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I would ONLY do it as a temporary measure, like if we were gutting our house and needed to move out for a bit. I could never do it for more then a few months.

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No way in hell.

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We lived with DH's (FH at the time) parent's right out of college. If it weren't for that we would have never had the good financial start that we did. We lived there for a year and were able to afford our coop because of it. However, it was difficult for all of us. As much as we love each other, it's hard to have someone stay with you in your space and vice versa to live in someone else's space.

We really did appreciate that they took us both in like that but as far as doing it again, unless it was a dire situation I think I'd like to spare ALL of us from having to live together again.

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Posted by KristenNYC

HELL




NO

I would rather clean the toilets in Grand Central Station.

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I couldn't do it. I love my MIL but she's kind of bossy and very opinionated. I feel like she would constantly be telling me what to do and how to do it. As it is, she tells us she doesn't like the names we like for our baby and tells us what she wants the baby to be named. Considering I can leave and go to my own house, it's funny, but if I had to live with her full time I think I would go nuts.

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NEVER.

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It depends. I already live next door to my parents. They are my landlords as well...LOL The beginning was rough because my mother always came up whenever she felt like it, even when we weren't home. And she is the landlord so always has that right to come up, but I had a talk with her and now thank god she doesn't do it anymore. So we do have our privacy.

Now as for in-laws I don't know. It all depends on what kind of people they are and the relationship you have with them. DH's parents are divorced so we would not live with both of them. But they have their own lives and my MIL's apt. is a small shoebox so we could never live with her. It's funny cuz my brother lives in the upstairs apt. of my parents house and they are currently looking for a house in Jersey. So DH said that if they move that maybe his mom can move into that apt. Sometimes I think "woah my mom and my MIL both next door"...but then again there are positive sides to that as well and situations where it might even help us out to have my MIL next door to us.

Besides my MIL is not the would drop by unannounced all the time. She's got her own life, she likes to go out and to go away.