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antoinette
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would you be hurt ?
If you were left out of your grandparents will if you were very close to them?
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Posted 3/7/08 4:35 PM  |
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Re: would you be hurt ?
maybe a lil bit...but was the money in the will donated to a charity or anything or just disturbed among other grandchildren? aunts & uncles? etc.
it all depends on the circumstance---if i was close to a grandparent and i had like 20 cousins and she gave $$ to 19 of them and not me--i'd feel a little hurt. but if the will was given to my aunts & uncles and no grandkids or to charity--i wouldn't be upset at all.
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| Posted 3/7/08 4:37 PM |
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Katie111806
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Re: would you be hurt ?
yes, unless they left it to my parents, to distribute to us grandkids
ETA - and I'd be upset about anything sentimental, not necessarily the $
Message edited 3/7/2008 4:39:37 PM.
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Kara
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Re: would you be hurt ?
It would depend on where the money went... If all the other grandchildren (or select grandchildren) got something, I would probably be hurt.
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| Posted 3/7/08 4:38 PM |
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Re: would you be hurt ?
It would depend on who they left the money too. I didn't get anything from my grandparents. It went to there kids.
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Christine
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Re: would you be hurt ?
Only if I was the only grandchild cut out of her will.
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Beth
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Re: would you be hurt ?
yes I would be....
I wasn't left out- but my sister was added in place on my Mother- she will divide everything in to 3s for us
but as the oldest I was annoyed- but I think some lawyers like to put the younger child-
as far as I know- I am in there also as a grandchild
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Re: would you be hurt ?
Posted by antoinette
If you were left out of your grandparents will if you were very close to them?
Yes I would. I would at least want to be remembered somehow, and know I was thought of. Not to "get" something, just to know I was thought of even in death.
I should add, that's if something was left to anyone other than my parents/aunts/uncles.
If it went to my parents directly, I would understand overall. Most parents then will say "I know grandma would have wanted you to have this" and give you something or let you choose something of your grandparents.
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antoinette
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Re: would you be hurt ?
my mom passed away before my grandparents so was left all to my moms brother. Its not about the money so much as the fact that I was left out I was her namesake and was extremely close I spent about every weekend with her for my whole life until college. I have chose to block this out of my mind for 4 yrs but it has resurfaced.
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lucyloo
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Re: would you be hurt ?
Depends on the situation and if they even have anything left. A lot of old people don't. My Grandma is 95 and I know she has nothing and probably whatever there is goes to my parents. I'm fine with that.
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Katie111806
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Re: would you be hurt ?
Posted by antoinette
my mom passed away before my grandparents so was left all to my moms brother. Its not about the money so much as the fact that I was left out I was her namesake and was extremely close I spent about every weekend with her for my whole life until college. I have chose to block this out of my mind for 4 yrs but it has resurfaced.
i'm sorry 
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Re: would you be hurt ?
Posted by Kara
It would depend on where the money went... If all the other grandchildren (or select grandchildren) got something, I would probably be hurt.
I agree.
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antoinette
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Re: would you be hurt ?
Posted by dita
Depends on the situation and if they even have anything left. A lot of old people don't.
They were pretty well off as is my uncle who recdthe inheritance. Although I reitorate that its not really the money per say as it is the acknowledgement of being an important person in their lives.
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Re: would you be hurt ?
Posted by antoinette
my mom passed away before my grandparents so was left all to my moms brother. Its not about the money so much as the fact that I was left out I was her namesake and was extremely close I spent about every weekend with her for my whole life until college. I have chose to block this out of my mind for 4 yrs but it has resurfaced.
I'm sorry but it sounds like it was very poor estate planning and was not done properly as opposed to being set up that way on purpose.
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Beth
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Re: would you be hurt ?
Posted by antoinette
my mom passed away before my grandparents so was left all to my moms brother. Its not about the money so much as the fact that I was left out I was her namesake and was extremely close I spent about every weekend with her for my whole life until college. I have chose to block this out of my mind for 4 yrs but it has resurfaced.
you should have been added in place of your Mother
my Grandma added my sister with in weeks of my Mom passing
I am so sorry you are dealing with this - it's not right or fair and I am sure your Mom would have felt the same way
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Re: would you be hurt ?
Either way, your uncle really SHOULD have given you each something and done the right thing. That's terrible. Esp since your mom passed away, if your mom was alive he would have likely had to split it with her so the reality is you and your siblings should have gotten what your mom would have gotten.
That is really unfair and I find it very greedy that your uncle did not find a way to honor each of you as grandchildren (esp those of you, who probably paid just as much attention to grandma as your uncle did maybe)?
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Re: would you be hurt ?
Posted by Kara
It would depend on where the money went... If all the other grandchildren (or select grandchildren) got something, I would probably be hurt.
me too.
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Beth
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Re: would you be hurt ?
Posted by Shelly
Posted by Kara
It would depend on where the money went... If all the other grandchildren (or select grandchildren) got something, I would probably be hurt.
me too.
I don't think it has to do with other Grandchildern being in the will
She should have been added in place of her late Mother
my sister is listed as getting an equal share as my aunt and uncle when my Grandmother passes
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Katie111806
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Re: would you be hurt ?
Posted by Goobster
Either way, your uncle really SHOULD have given you each something and done the right thing. That's terrible. Esp since your mom passed away, if your mom was alive he would have likely had to split it with her so the reality is you and your siblings should have gotten what your mom would have gotten.
That is really unfair and I find it very greedy that your uncle did not find a way to honor each of you as grandchildren (esp those of you, who probably paid just as much attention to grandma as your uncle did maybe)?
I agree. Is there a chance that everything hasn't been settled yet and it's something he might do? When my aunt passed it took an extremely long time to settle her estate - it was years before we got what we were each left
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antoinette
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Re: would you be hurt ?
Posted by Beth1210
Posted by Shelly
Posted by Kara
It would depend on where the money went... If all the other grandchildren (or select grandchildren) got something, I would probably be hurt.
me too.
I don't think it has to do with other Grandchildern being in the will
She should have been added in place of her late Mother
my sister is listed as getting an equal share as my aunt and uncle when my Grandmother passes
neither me nor my brother were in the will. my uncle has 2 sons but they havent been part of the family for 30+ yrs due to my uncles divorce.
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Beth
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Re: would you be hurt ?
have you spoken with your Uncle?
If your Mom was anything like mine- she would have wanted you to get her share for you and your brother
My Aunt just told me that my Mom told her to make sure we were taken care of - and I sure you Mom felt the same way
FM me if you need to talk to someone
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| Posted 3/7/08 4:59 PM |
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antoinette
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Re: would you be hurt ?
Posted by Beth1210
have you spoken with your Uncle?
If your Mom was anything like mine- she would have wanted you to get her share for you and your brother
My Aunt just told me that my Mom told her to make sure we were taken care of - and I sure you Mom felt the same way
FM me if you need to talk to someone
THank you!
I just wrote my uncle an email about how Im hurt, I have not called him out on this until today. I was hoping that he would come forth with something when I had my child but he has not. He is know to be somewhat of a selfish person. I have finallly found the stregnth to confront him. My mom was supposed to get half and she would not be happy that this took place.My dad has also tried to get thru to no resolve. My uncle keeps saying sorry this is what they wanted. It makes me  to think that my grandma really felt this way. In my heart I really feel that my grandparents told my uncle to do the right thing and HE didnt not them becuase I cant bear to think otherwise 
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Re: would you be hurt ?
try not to be sad about the intent of the will.... it obviously was written before your mom passed on.... likely your grandparents didn't have the emotional strength to re-write it (becuase it means coming to terms with their own child going before they did).
your uncle is selfish.... that's the only thing to be sad about...
rest assured, your grandparents loved your mom and you dearly.....
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antoinette
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Re: would you be hurt ?
Posted by wannabemom
try not to be sad about the intent of the will.... it obviously was written before your mom passed on.... likely your grandparents didn't have the emotional strength to re-write it (becuase it means coming to terms with their own child going before they did).
your uncle is selfish.... that's the only thing to be sad about...
rest assured, your grandparents loved your mom and you dearly.....
Thats the thing I know they rewrote it because my mom's name was not on it and it DEFINITELY was before she passed away. They said so because I remeber my mom discussing it with them before she was sick. She never thought she would pass before them. her ilness was sudden and fast.
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Re: would you be hurt ?
I am not a trusts and estate lawyer but I do recall in lawschool and it is possible i am remembering it wrong that if youf grandparentswill stated that their estate be left to their children and your mother died prior to them that her children woudl be entitled to her half--meaning you and your siblings woudl split it. It really depends though how it was worded in the will. I don't see how you got completely cut out. Your father wouldn't be entitled to anything but again you and your siblings would be.
That being said I am so sorry that your uncle has been so selfish and wouldn't do the right thing knowing how close you were with them. And to answer your question yes I would be very hurt.
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