What would you do?

My husband mentioned that his mom asked if my SIL could take Maddie & Joe down to FL for a week in July.

I'm completely not comfortable with this. I don't want my kids to be on a plane without me or my husband. I know this is silly - and that they would love to spend the week with Grandma. I would probably feel differently if we flew down & left them there for a few days. I don't want them down there & missing me. I don't want them on a plane. SIL would watch them like hawks, but the two of them are a handful. And to make matters worse, it will be right around the year anniversary of SIL's son's birthday/death.

Does this sound insane to anyone else but me? They'll only be 3 & 4 then.

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I really wouldn't be comfortable with that either......If it was me...i wouldn't want my daughter flying on a plane with someone else and I definitely don't think I could have her be that far away from me regardless if it was family or not. How about you and DH flying down with them and then making a mini vacation with just the two of you.

Message edited 4/29/2006 11:17:56 PM.

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Alot of people at work do this- (their kids go away with their family for a week or so- but I think they are older)

For me- My family or my inlaws would take great care of my child... but I wouldnt wanna be away from him, all I would think about is- if something happened, I wouldnt be there to make it all better-

I think alot has to do with what kinda kids your kids are- will they be able to handle being away from you for that long-

I remember not even being able to go to my grandfathers for the weekend- I got home sick so easily- (side not- I went to FL to visit family at 16- and couldnt make it past 5 days )


Im compltely overprotective, and obsessed with my child... so for me- I couldnt do it!


- I have no idea if any of my babbling made sense!

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Not at all. I would never leet my kids go without me.

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I would be very uncomfortable if another family member took my son so far for a week. I would miss him too much and worry the entire time. The tricky part is not making anyone angry or making them think you don't trust them. Is there any way you guys can make a family trip down there? Or maybe fly your MIL up to spend time with you?

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I don't have kids (yet) but I can't imagine I would be comfortable with this AT ALL!
There are a BAZILLION reasons why, I htink if you are honest your family will understand.
Stand your ground though.

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I wouldn't feel comfortable letting someon else take my daughter on a plane without me. Like you said if you went there and dropped them off. I don't blame you for not wanting to send them.

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I would not be comfortable with this at all. For me, I guess I am very over protective, but I wouldn't want my kids going anywhere without me for any period of time. Other than maybe one day of course.

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I would want to be on the plane with them for sure. The rest of the trip I would be fine with if my DS was staying with my SIL or in-laws/my parents but thats just me. But going on a plane wihtout me I would be a little nervous.

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Posted by Princessmaris

Alot of people at work do this- (their kids go away with their family for a week or so- but I think they are older)

For me- My family or my inlaws would take great care of my child... but I wouldnt wanna be away from him, all I would think about is- if something happened, I wouldnt be there to make it all better-

I think alot has to do with what kinda kids your kids are- will they be able to handle being away from you for that long-

I remember not even being able to go to my grandfathers for the weekend- I got home sick so easily- (side not- I went to FL to visit family at 16- and couldnt make it past 5 days )


Im compltely overprotective, and obsessed with my child... so for me- I couldnt do it!


- I have no idea if any of my babbling made sense!

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I am pretty laid back and this would bother me immensely. I think they are way too young.

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I understand what you mean, I wouldnt do it myself until they were a little older.
I think its one thing to completely trust family but who knows how they are going to be without you and DH and they are to far away to just go and get if they arent handling it well.

Can you take them down yourself for a few days?
Dont feel guilty about whatever choice you make, just go with your gut.

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I wouldnt feel comfortable either. I would feel to guilty if something were to happen weather they got hurt or sick and I couldnt be their to console them. My son is only 2 weeks old and my DH keeps telling me that he cant wait until he is 4/5 and send him to Croatia with my inlaws or my parents for the summer. I tell him no way that I am going to go with him because I couldnt deal with him being away from me for that long.

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No, I just wouldn't feel comfortable letting them go with out me. I think they are too young. Maybe if they were 6 or 7, I might consider it.

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I could never do this. I think you are completely normal for not feeling comfortable doing this.

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I coudn't do it and I know dh would def not go for this either, and I am pretty laid back. I even feel uncomfortable when someone else has to drive him somewhere and I am not there.

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I don't think I would be okay with this, especially since they are still quite young. I don't blame you, especially the part about them being on a plane without you.

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Nope I wouldn't be ok with it at all. Not that you don't trust them but God forbid something happened. I would rather my immediate family be on a plane all together.....

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I wouldnt even consider it at all. I am very overprotective, so there are many reasons I would be uncomfortable. Maybe when they are around 10-12 years old it might be different.

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I'm with you on this. There's NO way I'd be comfortable with it...