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Shelly
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What are your expectations on LIF?
I was just wondering.
Do people expect others to behave as they would in real life, or is there a different set of etiquette here since its an anonymous chat board?
As for me, I don't expect the same etiquette as I do in RL. I am the first to admit that I am not the best at following up and such, and apologize to anyone whom I have disappointed.
I view LIF as a great fun and informative chat board. There are some people here I feel closer to- and others I don't. I do however always try to treat people with respect and courtesy- I know I may fail (we are all human), but overall I try. I love to help people if I can and definitely give my support. There are certain stories that people have posted that have captured my heart and certain people I admire for their strength and courage and the things they have done.
OK- I am going off on a tangent... Just wondering...
ETA: I believe that everyone should be treated with respect and courtesy- that goes without saying. All I am asking is do people cut others some slack for not following proper etiquette, like following up, because this is a
chat board.
I certainly do not beleive that this is a place to be rude, mean or cruel.
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GenLCSW
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
I feel that people on LIF should be respectful of other people's feelings and give the same courtesy as they would to someone in real life. I know that its a chatboard but its just nice to have respect and courtesy.
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| Posted 10/20/05 4:34 PM |
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
In some ways I think it's a little more important to think before speaking on a chat board, since you don't have the additional input from body language, etc. I know I am sometimes sarcastic and I have worried that it's misinterpreted- if you were in the room with me you'd definitely know where I was coming from, online I am not so sure.
Otherwise, I think I pretty much expect the same courtesy as IRL- but if someone gets caught up and does not have time to respond I understand.
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| Posted 10/20/05 4:39 PM |
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luvsbob4603
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
i dont have expectations of LIF I just like to come on here and chat with everyone. sometimes i might post something and yes i can be a person who does not make sense when she posts something but its not that i am doing it to be silly I sometimes dont know how to word my words sometimes i can say i am going to write it this way and it ends up sounding stupid. yes i would like everyone to answer my post but like i have been told not everyone has a thought or respond to my post because its not something they are interested in or does not concern them and i need to respect that and not get all sensitive. I am sorry if i ever upset anyone on here but i am just a person who likes to get along with everyone and sometimes i jump to the wrong conclusions and if that makes me a bad person I am sorry! ok i lied the only expectation i expect from lif is that we all get along and treat everyone with the respect that we would want. and thats all i have to say. thank you.
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
i always expect the unexpected 
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| Posted 10/20/05 5:00 PM |
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FeliciaDP
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
I think if this were another "type" of chat board, I would not expect much at all.. I have seen the way other boards operate, and people really do NOT have any respect or consideration for each other. But in certain cases on those boards, its just general topics for conversation, the boards are not strictly moderated, and people hardly know the other person , etc...
Since I find this chat board unique (in the fact that we really do get to know each other .. as much as you can within the context of a chat board I suppose...and there are bonds and certain friendships established ) I do believe that there is more of a sense of "community" here than on other forums I've lurked on...
So to me, that is why I think the "expecation" level for courtesy/politeness/etc is perhaps higher here than would be deemed necessary on any other forums...
I think common courtesy is welcome no matter what.. I wish it did not irk me when people were impolite and forget to say thank you, but somehow it DOES.... !
Now if the question is "do I have any expectations of people who are not regular posters, nor those I feel as if I know whatsoever at all.. nor those who share their lives with us, nor those who have really "bonded" with us? THEN NO, I cannot say I expect much from those members...  BUT I am old school, I guess I still would *hope* for a thank you.. or at least an acknowledgment??
(gosh I hope that made sense )
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unknown1
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
Posted by Shellyesq
I was just wondering.
Do people expect others to behave as they would in real life, or is there a different set of etiquette here since its an anonymous chat board?
As for me, I don't expect the same etiquette as I do in RL. I am the first to admit that I am not the best at following up and such, and apologize to anyone whom I have disappointed.
I view LIF as a great fun and informative chat board. There are some people here I feel closer to- and others I don't. I do however always try to treat people with respect and courtesy- I know I may fail (we are all human), but overall I try. I love to help people if I can and definitely give my support. There are certain stories that people have posted that have captured my heart and certain people I admire for their strength and courage and the things they have done.
OK- I am going off on a tangent... Just wondering...
ETA: I believe that everyone should be treated with respect and courtesy- that goes without saying. All I am asking is do people cut others some slack for not following proper etiquette, like following up, because this is a
chat board.
I certainly do not beleive that this is a place to be rude, mean or cruel.
Ok not to start a war but is this a personal situation that happened on here to you or something you are witnessing on here..My opinion is Thank you or proper etiquette is just something you do naturally not situationally !
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Redhead
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
Posted by Shellyesq
I certainly do not beleive that this is a place to be rude, mean or cruel.
well that is naive! There are some that certainly are...Not really reg posters but some fakies that is for sure
But for the most part i don't expect all that much...
This place can be silly, fun, full of drama etc.
I DO EXPECT A FRIGGIN THANK YOU though
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| Posted 10/20/05 5:25 PM |
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Tany
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
I don't expect much I guess, just simple courtesy and respect.
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| Posted 10/20/05 5:34 PM |
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Moehick
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
People should act on here as they do in real life...because if they don't then really wahts the point of getting to know them? In fact you don't get to know them at all!
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| Posted 10/20/05 5:38 PM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
Posted by Moehick
People should act on here as they do in real life...because if they don't then really wahts the point of getting to know them? In fact you don't get to know them at all!
so you mean THIS is how you are?
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Bri
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
i always expect the unexpected
Me too-
I think people can be real or fake- whatever they want to be on a chat board and truly, in some ways I have made some great friends. But, in all reality, I really don't have expectations- there are way too many people on here to have to monitor who behaves how . . . .
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| Posted 10/20/05 5:42 PM |
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Moehick
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
Posted by Moehick
People should act on here as they do in real life...because if they don't then really wahts the point of getting to know them? In fact you don't get to know them at all!
so you mean THIS is how you are?
Yeppers
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Janice
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
Posted by Shellyesq
I certainly do not beleive that this is a place to be rude, mean or cruel.
I agree with you.
as far as etiquette, it would be nice, but it does not bother me. Normally if I am helping someone, I am glad to do it because it gives me something to do.
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MrsERod
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
not saying a simple thank you when someone takes the time out to offer help and/or advice is simply rude..whether it be in RL or a chat room.
so, if i were that person offering help and/or advice, i would CERTAINLY expect a simple thank you. its just common courtesy!
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dooodles
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
Posted by MrsERod
not saying a simple thank you when someone takes the time out to offer help and/or advice is simply rude..whether it be in RL or a chat room.
so, if i were that person offering help and/or advice, i would CERTAINLY expect a simple thank you. its just common courtesy!
I'm quoting Chris to use her as an example. Chris was so kind and sweet to me earlier this year and while my head was a mess, I completely forgot to thank her for her kindness. She could have formed an opinion of me from that, but understood when it took me about 4 months to remember her and realized that wasn't the "true" me. I don't think I have any real expectations on this site, I enjoy many of the people, have made some wonderful friends and hope to continue to do so. Maybe it's better to say I expect to maybe find some help once in awhile. maybe a laugh and maybe do the same for someone else.
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MrsERod
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
Posted by dooodles
Posted by MrsERod
not saying a simple thank you when someone takes the time out to offer help and/or advice is simply rude..whether it be in RL or a chat room.
so, if i were that person offering help and/or advice, i would CERTAINLY expect a simple thank you. its just common courtesy!
I'm quoting Chris to use her as an example. Chris was so kind and sweet to me earlier this year and while my head was a mess, I completely forgot to thank her for her kindness. She could have formed an opinion of me from that, but understood when it took me about 4 months to remember her and realized that wasn't the "true" me.
Donna, YOU truly are the sweet one!   
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| Posted 10/20/05 6:39 PM |
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Shelly
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
Posted by unbelievable
Ok not to start a war but is this a personal situation that happened on here to you or something you are witnessing on here..My opinion is Thank you or proper etiquette is just something you do naturally not situationally !
No- this is not about something that happened to me. I don't take a lot of stuff personally.
Someone posted about thank yous and I was wondering what other expectations people have... I think that if we understand everyone's expectations we can make this a happier place
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Jax430
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
Maybe I'm naive, but I expect people on a chat board to treat others with the same respect and courtesy that they would in "real" life. At the same time, if you're an @sshole in real life, I expect you to be one here too! 
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Redhead
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
Posted by Shellyesq
Posted by unbelievable
Ok not to start a war but is this a personal situation that happened on here to you or something you are witnessing on here..My opinion is Thank you or proper etiquette is just something you do naturally not situationally !
No- this is not about something that happened to me. I don't take a lot of stuff personally.
Someone posted about thank yous and I was wondering what other expectations people have... I think that if we understand everyone's expectations we can make this a happier place
highly unlikely since obviously we all have different expectations....
Sh!t happens. The best we can do is either say it or forget about it...
ME....i felt i needed to get something specific off my chest that was bothering me...but i don't ever expect said rude people to change....but i certainly will!
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DebG
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
Is it mean to say I have absolutly NO expectations of this place.
I believe it is what it is.
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neenie
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
Posted by DebG
I have absolutly NO expectations of this place.
I believe it is what it is.
i agree.
i enjoy it here, but do i have 'expectations' of people on here? no, not really. I act on here the same way that i act ini real life... but if others dont want to, i feel like thats their perogative. But i barely place expectations on those that i'm close to in RL, so it wouldn't make sense for me to place expectations on people that i've never met
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nrthshgrl
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
Posted by Redhead
Posted by Shellyesq
Posted by unbelievable
Someone posted about thank yous and I was wondering what other expectations people have... I think that if we understand everyone's expectations we can make this a happier place
highly unlikely since obviously we all have different expectations....
I disagree - now that I know people are more sensitive about thank yous, I'll be more hypervigilant about thanking those that have helped me with your opinions. I hadn't in the past because my friends & I don't go around thanking each other for opinions - it's part of the package deal that comes with the friendship.
As to my expectations, I expect less because of the anonymity factor.
Good post ShellyEsq. Thanks for starting it.
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MrsERod
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
Posted by nrthshgrl
I disagree - now that I know people are more sensitive about thank yous, I'll be more hypervigilant about thanking those that have helped me with your opinions. I hadn't in the past because my friends & I don't go around thanking each other for opinions - it's part of the package deal that comes with the friendship.
it's more about people (who you would normally not converse with one on one) NOT saying a simple thank you, when someone else went the extra mile to help or offer advice. a supportive fm, some additional info that person may not have been aware of, or even shared experiences.....whatever the case may be, how difficult is it to just respond with a simple "thank you"?? it's not hard to do at all, and it certainly is a nice gesture.
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Shelly
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Re: What are your expectations on LIF?
Posted by Redhead
highly unlikely since obviously we all have different expectations....
Sh!t happens. The best we can do is either say it or forget about it...
ME....i felt i needed to get something specific off my chest that was bothering me...but i don't ever expect said rude people to change....but i certainly will!
That's totally fair- I just thought it would be a good idea to get a forum started where people can express their expectations, so others can be aware of them.
As you said, we all have different expectations- now I have a better idea of what some people expect. That was all I wanted.
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