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luckyinlove
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Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
We have to go to a vow renewal next month at Lombardi's on the Sound - it is a day "wedding", if that makes a difference. We are not close with them - i actually don't know that I have met them any other time than our wedding. They are friends of DH's dad. How much do we give? I was thinking like 200-250.
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
I think $200-$250 is good. I would probably give $200 if I didn't really know the couple.
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| Posted 5/25/12 8:48 PM |
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ok....forgive me...but people give money for vow renwals? like, AFTER someone already was married and got gifts?? so if they repeat the same vows, they get MORE money?
maybe I should throw a vow renewal.. geez!
hell, I'd give a card with a nice picture frame.
eta: you are going to give these people 250 possibly - people that you aren't even sure you met but may have been at your wedding? these are people that are a little more than strangers!!! I am sure you guys are great, but why did the even invite you? it sounds like you're not sure if you even met them...and now to give them money??
Has the world gone mad? 
not meaning to  , just so confused by all of this.
Message edited 5/25/2012 9:00:57 PM.
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LSP2005
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
I would give a picture frame too. However, since they are friends of your parents I would ask them if that is ok....
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| Posted 5/25/12 9:07 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
How long have they been married?
I didn't think vow renewals really came with a gift expectation, but I guess I'd give $200 especially since you don't know them. I'd also ask others in your circle what they are planning to do
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| Posted 5/25/12 9:09 PM |
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
How.....what....
you guys would give a couple you "don't really know" around 200 bucks??
Are people rolling in dough? Isn't it tough times out there? Aren't most people clipping coupons and doing all they can to save?
Someone needs to explain this to me.
If anyone is feeling generous and wants to throw a couple hundies to a nice couple you don't know, I will FM you my address!
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| Posted 5/25/12 9:12 PM |
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evnme
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
IMO- I would give something as if I were going to an anniversary party- not a wedding.
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| Posted 5/25/12 9:20 PM |
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
Posted by JenniferEver
How long have they been married?
I didn't think vow renewals really came with a gift expectation, but I guess I'd give $200 especially since you don't know them. I'd also ask others in your circle what they are planning to do
and what does how long someone has been married have anything to do with it? if someone makes it to 50 years, that's great but why then is there an expectation to give them money? they didn't get a phD, they committed to the vows they took for one another..... I'm so puzzled by this and not being snarky
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| Posted 5/25/12 9:21 PM |
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HeathKernandez
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
I think vow renewals are stupid. Unless the couple has been together more than 30 years
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| Posted 5/25/12 9:29 PM |
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Posted by cncforever
ok....forgive me...but people give money for vow renwals? like, AFTER someone already was married and got gifts?? so if they repeat the same vows, they get MORE money?
maybe I should throw a vow renewal.. geez!
hell, I'd give a card with a nice picture frame.
eta: you are going to give these people 250 possibly - people that you aren't even sure you met but may have been at your wedding? these are people that are a little more than strangers!!! I am sure you guys are great, but why did the even invite you? it sounds like you're not sure if you even met them...and now to give them money??
Has the world gone mad?
not meaning to , just so confused by all of this.
Some people didn't have a wedding the first time. Like me, no wedding or shower = no gifts.
If that was the case then yes, I would give what I would give at a wedding.
If I accept an invite to a party I always give a gift. I imagine this couple is paying at least $50-$60 per person. I would want to cover my plate, plus give a gift. Had I given them a gift the first time around it may be a little less.
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| Posted 5/25/12 9:32 PM |
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lynnd126
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
Posted by HeathKernandez
I think vow renewals are stupid. Unless the couple has been together more than 30 years
Haha I agree but I think more like 50 years bc then ur also celebrating that ur not dead and IMO that's worth 250 a couple.
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| Posted 5/25/12 9:33 PM |
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CAMCaps
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
I would also treat it like an anniversary party and would get a gift for the couple. We just threw my parents a 30th anniversary party and many people got them gift cards to restaurants, gifts like crystal, etc.
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| Posted 5/25/12 9:38 PM |
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Erica
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
Posted by cncforever
and what does how long someone has been married have anything to do with it? if someone makes it to 50 years, that's great but why then is there an expectation to give them money? they didn't get a phD, they committed to the vows they took for one another..... I'm so puzzled by this and not being snarky
I'm floored too! My parents specifically said no gifts. They got some cute gifts that were handmade/special. My aunt painted a picture of an 1800's photo of their town. A cousin did a needlepoint of their wedding date and their anniversary, etc A GC to their honeymoon hotel.
if someone had given my mom cash she would have had to be taken in an ambulance!
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| Posted 5/25/12 9:45 PM |
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
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Posted by cncforever
and what does how long someone has been married have anything to do with it? if someone makes it to 50 years, that's great but why then is there an expectation to give them money? they didn't get a phD, they committed to the vows they took for one another..... I'm so puzzled by this and not being snarky
I'm floored too! My parents specifically said no gifts. They got some cute gifts that were handmade/special. My aunt painted a picture of an 1800's photo of their town. A cousin did a needlepoint of their wedding date and their anniversary, etc A GC to their honeymoon hotel.
if someone had given my mom cash she would have had to be taken in an ambulance!
Yeah I can see handmade gifts....but jesus christ, if I make it to X amount of years and someone gives me cash, I'd be so insulted...like people thought I was begging for or hard up for money. I'd give it right back and tell them no one owes me money for staying married.
I will gladly take ear plugs though and maybe a male escort.
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| Posted 5/25/12 9:50 PM |
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luckyinlove
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
I agree with what most of you are saying about how ludicrous it is... my DH wants to give them as much as if it were a real wedding... I don't even want to go bc I don't know them and will probably never see them again after this!
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| Posted 5/25/12 9:58 PM |
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HeathKernandez
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
Posted by luckyinlove
I agree with what most of you are saying about how ludicrous it is... my DH wants to give them as much as if it were a real wedding... I don't even want to go bc I don't know them and will probably never see them again after this!
that's very nice of your husband... heck- if he wants to give that much then go for it. It's very generous and I'm sure would be appreciated...
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Hofstra26
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
I *personally* feel that for a vow renewal a nice card and gift (frame, something engraved, special ornament, anything really) is suitable. A vow renewal IMO is not the same as getting married and I can't imagine giving a huge monetary gift at such an event. To me a vow renewal is just a sweet symbolic thing and if I ever did it (which I don't have plans to) I would actually be SHOCKED to get money. That seems a little crazy to me. To me it's just not an event worthy of a huge monetary gift. Just my opinion though. 
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Hofstra26
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
Posted by HeathKernandez
I think vow renewals are stupid. Unless the couple has been together more than 30 years
ITA with you. I have been married 13 yrs, big whoop. Really no great feat worth everyone celebrating.
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
Posted by evnme
IMO- I would give something as if I were going to an anniversary party- not a wedding.
ITA
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| Posted 5/25/12 11:18 PM |
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HeathKernandez
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by HeathKernandez
I think vow renewals are stupid. Unless the couple has been together more than 30 years
ITA with you. I have been married 13 yrs, big whoop. Really no great feat worth everyone celebrating.
and not to sound insulting to YOU.. but no one cares about your anniversary.... KWIM?
(my anniversary included)
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Erica
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
the whole point of giving a gift for a new couple is to help them start their new life together. Usually they are coming from their parents' house and don't have much. So these gifts do not apply to anniversaries.
If your DH wants to spend that money, what about finding a bottle of wine from their wedding year? or GC to somewhere special
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Mrs213
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
I wouldn't go, but I I did I would give a present, not money
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| Posted 5/26/12 8:48 AM |
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browneyes
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
My inlaws are having a vowel renewal this summer for the 30th anniversary. They never had a "real" wedding and wanted to take this time to celebrate with all the family.. With that being said they asked for NO Gifts. MIL said she feels weird getting gifts/money from ppl since they've been married for 30 years now...
I however plan to get them a nice fram or picture engraved for them..
Theres no way id give $200+ for a renewal to a couple i dont know, If you want to give money id do $100.
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| Posted 5/26/12 11:23 AM |
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
I'd give $100 or a gc to a restaurant. I would not treat it like a wedding.
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| Posted 5/26/12 4:50 PM |
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Teachergal
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
I would give a gift certificate for a restaurant I knew they liked in the amount of $100. Ask your DH's dad what restaurants they like!
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