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DumpsterBaby
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
I would totally give a gift like a Lenox frame or a GC to a nice restautant.
No cash.
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BargainMama
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
ONLY $200 for someone you don't know, and it's a vow renewal? 
I would give a picture frame, or something of the like.
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| Posted 5/27/12 11:20 AM |
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Lillykat
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
Posted by evnme
IMO- I would give something as if I were going to an anniversary party- not a wedding.
ITA a vow renewal is like an anniversary party. You give a token gift. In fact many times the couple might even ask that people don't bring gifts or that they make donations instead. It is NOT a second wedding.
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| Posted 5/27/12 11:42 AM |
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luckyinlove
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
Ok Thanks! I just don't want them talking about us as if we are cheap if we don't cover our plate, bc you know everyone does that, as ridiculous as it sounds.
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| Posted 5/27/12 4:32 PM |
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Mrs213
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
Posted by luckyinlove
Ok Thanks! I just don't want them talking about us as if we are cheap if we don't cover our plate, bc you know everyone does that, as ridiculous as it sounds.
I don't think they should expect that people will cover their plates with a cash gift
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| Posted 5/27/12 5:49 PM |
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
For a vow renewal I would do what I normally do for an anniversary but maybe a bot nicer and that is to buy a gift for them in whatever is the gift of choice that year. You can google it and choose the traditional or the modern version. So for 20 years it is china-traditional, platinum-modern. I might do a nice piece of china. Maybe something they need, want, or like. Ask your parents. You get the drift.
I would not give cash because I don't think it's necessary. A lot of renewal I have been to the specifically ask for NOTHING.
As for cover your plate I just can't even get into the craziness that is this. YOU are asked to be a GUEST at an event. It is NOT up to you to figure out how much your plate, alcohol and whatever is.
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Nifheim
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
sorry vow renewals aren't another wedding its a celebration you actually made it x amount of years. $50 or maybe a gift card in my circle.
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| Posted 5/28/12 9:05 AM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
Posted by cncforever
Posted by JenniferEver
How long have they been married?
I didn't think vow renewals really came with a gift expectation, but I guess I'd give $200 especially since you don't know them. I'd also ask others in your circle what they are planning to do
and what does how long someone has been married have anything to do with it? if someone makes it to 50 years, that's great but why then is there an expectation to give them money? they didn't get a phD, they committed to the vows they took for one another..... I'm so puzzled by this and not being snarky
Well, if it's like 2 years, then I would think it's not as big of an occasion. If it's 50 years, it's also a major anniversary. For a family 50th anniversary, it was a small party at a major place. Not a DJ, phoographer, like 2nd wedding deal, but a very nice dinner. We gave $200.
ETA: It was a $200 GC to a restaurant we know they like, not $200 cash. I would have felt awkward giving them cash. We also gave them movie ticket vouchers so it would be like a "date night" thing.
Message edited 5/28/2012 11:56:54 AM.
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JenniferEver
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Re: Wedding spinoff -- vow renewal
I know some people think it' bad but I DO consider the place where an event is held in terms of the gift. If someone gets married on a Saurday night in June at Oheka, I don't know if I can cover that, but I always feel like I don't want my gift to be less than my dinner cost them. That's just how we've always done it in my family. However, I also feel like with an vow renewal or big anniversary, they're probably pretty well-established, or so one would think if they are throwing a big party, etc, so it's not the same as trying to give a newly wedded couple a gift to help them start their lives together.
And part of the reason I asked about the years, I would think if someone was throwing vow renewal parties every 5 years or something, then that's over the top. We might do a vow renewal at 5 or 10 years, but it would likely be destination, immediate family only and No gifts. Contrary to popular opinion, we won't be charging admission
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