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I went to a wedding this weekend and the bride and groom did not come around to greet guests. I had some older people at my table that thought this was rude. Any takes????

Message edited 11/7/2006 9:12:55 PM.

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I'd say the older people were right. You should go around & welcome everyone when you throw a party - even if that party is a wedding.

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I think that's odd they didn't make the rounds

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My friends who got married last month didnt either. She had almost 300 ppl and she said she didnt care!!

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well then they wouldn't have received my envelope with the CHECK!!!

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I think this is something that is changing like many wedding related traditions. Older people generally tend to be resistant to change. IMO, being appreciative of your guests is important, doing rounds doesn't have to be the way that is expressed. We were at our entire cocktail hour and tried to greet most guests then. Some who we didn't have the chance to at that point - we visited at tables. But -- we didn't do the traditional rounds at the tables. I wanted to try and talk to my guests, not just do token rounds. It worked for us and I hope no one we missed was offended (or that those we talked to weren't offended we didn't also do rounds). If they were - and chose not to give a gift bc of it- then I think I wouldn't want it anyway. Only saying that bc we had people at our wedding who knew us and knew we were good people and I would hope they all know we appreciated their presence and presents and would give us the benefit of the doubt.

In my opinion it was rude for those guests to be talking badly about the bride and groom at their wedding!

JMO!

Edited bc I apparently couldn't put sentences together well the first time!

Message edited 11/7/2006 10:29:29 PM.

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hmm... i have to say that we didn't do the traditional rounds at our wedding... we did the receiving line at the church, which i know many couples don't do anymore... and we also were at our whole coctail hour and talked to most of the guests then.
it might be rude, but i didn't want to spend the whole reception going around from table to table making small talk... i wanted to be out on the dance floor! so we "made the rounds" in a less traditional way and it worked out ok we actually caught up with alot of people out on the dance floor, too! and as far as i knew, nobody thought it was rude....

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I didnt make the "traditional" rounds either- we had a receiving liine and we also went to the cocktail hour for the purpose of greeting guests (and eating too-I cant lie)We also mingled on the dance floor-anyone who was out there got a dance, thats for sure! : )
My MOH got married one month before me and her rounds took 45 minutes to almost an hour-she had the same amount of people I did-her parents felt bad and added an hour to the wedding-I didnt want to do that.
I knew I had to say hello and greet guests, but I didnt want it to be at the expense of DH and I having a good time at our wedding...it costs so much money, and goes so quickly, I dont think it was rude, since we DID say hello to everyone...but just not the traditonal way...

(edited-I had more to say )

Message edited 11/8/2006 9:42:44 AM.

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It is older etiquette to make the rounds, but I think that is a tradition that is disappearing - especially if the Bride & Groom make a speech/thankyou/toast at the reception.

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I went around to all my tables. I also had a recieving line and was at my cocktail hour the whole time. It didn't take very long to go around to all the tables. Maybe 20 minutes.

Message edited 11/8/2006 8:43:27 AM.

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We didn't get to all the tables, but we did make it to the tables of our older guests. I felt bad about it at first but then I realized that we had a receiving line at the church, we were there the entire cocktail hour and we visited a lot during the dance.

I guess I don't think it's rude if they made a different attempt to greet their guests. Not saying anything at all is rude.

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How do you not go around & thank people for coming to your special day? I also wanted to make sure they were having a good time. I think that is beyond rude!

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I think it is completely rude not to make the rounds. It took DH and I a big portion of the night but I made sure we spent about 10 mins at every table.

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I didn't do the traditional rounds, I talked to as many guests as I could, but I wanted to enjoy my wedding and be on the dance floor.

Personally I don't think that it is rude not to make the rounds, I think that I thanked my guests by throwing a great reception where they were able to enjoy great food, drinks, music and company!

Message edited 11/8/2006 9:06:47 AM.

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I recently went to a wedding where they didn't come around. but what bothered me more was that when I went to say goodbye - someone swiped my favor!!!

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We made the rounds at our wedding and even went back to the the farther tables twice to check on everyone. I know my guests commented to other family members that they appreciated it. One person even told my MIL they she and her husband would drive a thousand miles just to be at anything for us because we really made them feel like we appreciated having them there. That was sweet.

There is a clip on the raw video when DH and I are finished with a dance and I tell him that we have to go over to a table to see people.

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We didn't exactly "make the rounds" but, like other people have said, we were at the entire cocktail hour and went around to different people there and thanked them, then during the reception, we went around to some tables, but a lot of people were an the dance floor most of the night, so we talked to them then - or at the bar.

I don't think we were rude at all. I have found that most times when I've been a guest at a wedding and the bride and groom made the rounds, I really never got much of a chance to talk to them then anyway.

I do think it's important to make an effort to greet all your guests in some way though.

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i made the rounds to everyone

it took up my whole night but what can you do?

and i guess since i went through it, other brides should too, lol

its the "right" thing to do and after all, the guests are there for you, so i think they are owed a hello at least.

i went to a wedding a few months ago and the bride nor groom came over to say hello AT ALL. Nothing. Granted it was a very religious wedding but it would have been nice to at least say hi to my husband and I.

Message edited 11/8/2006 11:59:35 AM.