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I don't mind sharing, but I also dont go around telling everyone I know either.
Its not somethign i am PROUD of, but not somethign I feel i should hide either.
But since we ARE talking about this subject i fugre i would share

Message edited 10/10/2005 2:30:59 PM.

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Thanks Lolita and anonymous for sharing your stories! You both have a lot of courage, especially Lolita, to be sharing your stories.

I am 100% pro choice- in fact I even marched on Washington in college to get abortion some restrictions repealed (like parental consent laws, etc...) I think that this is a hard decision in every woman's life and I think there are very few that make this decision lightly. Every woman needs to decide what would be best for her- sometimes the timing just isn't right, mistakes happen... There are so many people who have children and aren't ready for the responsibility of parenting, and the children suffer. I don't think abortion is the solution for everyone, but for some, it definitely is and I believe that it should continue to be safe and legal. In fact, this is the main issue I vote on in every election.

I don't think many people use abortion as a form of birth control. With everything, there are a few who abuse abortions and use them as a sole form a birth control, but I think there are very few of these women out there.

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What is a missed abortion?

I only know one person who told me with certainty from her lips to my ears that she had one, so I can't really form an opinion on whether or not I think it is a popular form of birth control. (And I do not feel comfortable discussing the details or my feelings of her situation.)

I think it's all very sad in any case and shouldn't be discussed ad nauseum and so highly publicized.

People have to do what they have to do. Doesn't make it wrong or right. And it shouldn't be subject to such intense scrutiny either way.

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I think for the purposes of the original poster, abortion is definited as an elective abortion- not in the event of a miscarriage.

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i dont think its ever a good situation when a person has an abortion so my heart goes out to anyone who has ever had one

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no, i have never had one. a family member did and iknow the decision was not an easy one for her.

i have no judegment against those that have had one...everyone's situation is different. who am i to say whats right for some one else?

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anonymous...lolita

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I know more than one person. In all honesty, we all know someone who has had one. I'm sure our mothers or grandmothers have. But this isn't something people brag about, so not too many people will admit to it. They were guilt ridden and still are, but for them, it was the choice they had to make. A hard choice. Being in the situation is not one we'll all be in, but you can't take the choice away. But no matter if you could or couldn't ever have one, in my opinion, the choice still needs to be out there. Abortions are like sex...you can make it illegal but that won't stop it from happening. If a girl/woman is in a dire enough situation, she'll find a way. If it were my daughter or sister, I'd be damned if her only resort was a butcher or a wire hanger. JMO.

Message edited 10/10/2005 6:24:32 PM.

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The NY Times did an article on this recently, and I believe that abortion were either the 6th or 8th (cannot remember) most common surgical procedure on women in the US. I know of 2 friends who had them, and I was surprised by one when I heard. I would imagine that it is an excruitiating and painful decision for any person to make, and I would hope that people make the decision with the love and support of the father and friends and family.

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Posted by Shellyesq

Thanks Lolita and anonymous for sharing your stories! You both have a lot of courage, especially Lolita, to be sharing your stories.

I am 100% pro choice- in fact I even marched on Washington in college to get abortion some restrictions repealed (like parental consent laws, etc...) I think that this is a hard decision in every woman's life and I think there are very few that make this decision lightly. Every woman needs to decide what would be best for her- sometimes the timing just isn't right, mistakes happen... There are so many people who have children and aren't ready for the responsibility of parenting, and the children suffer. I don't think abortion is the solution for everyone, but for some, it definitely is and I believe that it should continue to be safe and legal. In fact, this is the main issue I vote on in every election.

I don't think many people use abortion as a form of birth control. With everything, there are a few who abuse abortions and use them as a sole form a birth control, but I think there are very few of these women out there.

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I can't count on my fingers the number of women I know that have had abortions -from the $10 I gave to a HS keg party whose proceeds went to fund a classmate's abortion right down to my pro-life roommate who sermonized against abortion and on the 3rd day of missing her period was sobbing while she called clinics. You can't judge until you've walked in someone else's shoes.

I've always been pro-choice, this year I redefined what I deemed as acceptable terms to when abortions should take place. I couldn't imagine having a 3rd term abortion. In my mind, I was picturing people that just avoided the reality of their pregnancies until it was too late in the game. I even argued with my Family Law teacher when he said "what about 3rd trimester abortions? What if a women didn't know she was pregnant?" I snidely said "If they're 2 days late with their period, they're concerned & fully aware of what might be. If you think a woman could go 8 months not knowing they were pregnant, you may know law, but you don't know women."

Well reality hit me in the face (and heart) this year. The fact is the women having 3rd trimester abortions (1% of all abortions) aren't the ones that forgot to schedule an abortion or were that clueless. They're the ones that would give anything not to be there. The ones who wanted a healthy pregnancy, but learned it wasn't to be.

My sister in law learned in the first week of her third trimester that her son had a slim chance of survival (less than 20%). There was talk of flying to Kansas, the closest state that would be able to perform a 3rd trimester abortion based on fetal viability. I couldnt' believe that there was no doctor in NY that would be willing to perform one. You all know the end of the story - she didn't have one, but it taught me a lesson. Never take for granted the rights you have - or had previously.

Good article if anyone is interested:
My Third Term Abortion

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As much as I want a baby and it stinks that many choose not too, I am not opposed to women having an abortion. It is their personal choice and I dont think ANYONE can judge this person or persons on their reasoning as to why they did it - until you can live their life and walk in their shoes. Even for religious reasons- give me a break! That person has to live with themselves and answer to one person, not what we think! There will always be 2 sides of this issue but again for some of you that are saying oh my god I would never or how could they, our situations may be a 100x better for us to raise children, where others may not and NEVER say NEVER. Geesh look at how some of these poor children are living b/c these women have NO morals , am I saying they should have had an abortion, no, but it is heartbreaking to see the poverty. I am just happy we as women HAVE A CHOICE. If they start taking that away ( congress) I would hate to see what else they would start to take away from womens rights. I would NOT judge a woman for having an abortion- why should I? It has nothing to do with me and our friendship, just as we have personal choices some may not agree with.