Update #2 at top --!! News that's going to CRUSH my good girlfriend.

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Update #2 at top --!! News that's going to CRUSH my good girlfriend.

Ugh.

So my gf (friend, not romantic gf) is 45 and has been looking for "the one" for a long time.

She calls me last week and says she met a GREAT GUY. owns his own business. Super attentive. 40. Good looking. Kind. Smart. - you guys know. The one that checks too the "boxes".

When I was talking to her about him she SOUNDED like I did when I met my DH. Somehow I knew THIS one was different.

So she told our group. We are 10 of us and call ourselves the "secret girl possee". ;) we are sorority sisters so know each other well.

Well one girl is called "scoop". Let's just say she always has the low down. She knows everyone's secrets (in a good way) is just one of the most amazing women I know.

So "scoop" texts me "holy sh..t. Call me this guy is bad news".

Up

We have uncovered his 9 page rap sheet. All of his aliases. His court dates. Newspaper clippings from when he was arrested. Ripoff reports of how he scammed people with a previous business and he one where he "stole" a property and tried to sell it and he did NOT own it.

The last time he was arrested was last sept. It's for assault and is still pending. We have no idea what the circumstances are. Just that it's assault.

We did not go snooping for snoops sake. She told us his name and we were looking up his business etc. all of a sudden all this crap
Comes up.

We are heartbroken because we have to tell her. She is going to be crushed. Like CRUSHED. I heard it in her voice that this one was different.

We are going to be gentle. At least it's only been 2 weeks and we don't think they did the deed yet.

But we HAVE to tell her. I'm sick over this. Scoop invited her over on Saturday and will tell her. Hey she might already know. And scoop is going to say it's just her. We don't want her to know 1/2 of us know since it's gonna suck. Plus there is a possibility she might get really angry with scoop and we all recognize that. We also agree that she HAS to know no matter what.

Anyone else been in a position like this??

UPDATE MONDAY APRIL 3rd:

So. Scoop had her over last night. We had decided to just talk to her in general. But over the weekend we found something about woman claiming that he uses "cancer" to gain sympathy. And that he has slept with over 200'women and does not use a condom.

So we decided to tell her the whole thing.

She took it well because she was starting to get red flags.

Over the weekend he was in the hospital. So she is now his official GF so she went to see him. When she went she gave his name and they are like "there is no one here by that name". Finally hey figured it iut and she went to his room. He gave a whole story about he changed his name 30 years ago but somehow the hospital has his name wrong from when he was 10.

??????

(Because you don't have to show ID and an insurance card with your real name)

He was sorta attacked by one of his contractors and he was scratched and got an elbow in the eye. That's what he told her. She didn't quite believe him.

So then scoop has her over. And might I add that while she and scoop were talking he was texting her on stop "so you go out with your girlfriend and then ignore my texts??" So red flag there.

In the end he told her he was NYPD. Has a JD. Was in the Marines. Had cancer surgery. Was the CEO of a few companies. Is now a web designer and owner of a construction business. He said he is allergic to latex so he can't use condoms so they both should get tests. (And she did NOT sleep with him). All of whatbhe told her is BS.

But this is what put her over the edge. For some crazy reason she knows his half brother. It was her boss from years ago. She connects him him last night and the 1/2 brother said "he is as news. Stay away. Get out now".

She is breaking up with him today.

Telling her was the right move and none of us regret it.

Update #2

So I spoke to her. First off he said his dad was 1/2 black. When she spoke to the 1/2 brother he was like "um, no, GREEK".

SO he blew up her phone while talking to snoop. She texted him after and said "I'm emotionally drained and cant talk. Lets talk in the AM.

By the time she woke up he erased all her pictures from social media and blocked her. She spoke to him briefly and he was all "you KNOW I told out there was stuff about me on the internet. I wish you had spoken to me first".

So he asked her nicely to remove all his pictures from her social media which she did. SO in fact he broke up with her, so to speak.

She is VERY sad but feels like she dodged a BIG bullet and is VERY thankful.

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Posted 3/29/17 5:29 PM