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lvdolphins
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Re: Unannounced guests
It's so rude!
My inlaws live next door and MIL ALWAYS calls before knocking on the door!
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Cheeks24
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Re: Unannounced guests
I hate it! It happens to us too and we don't even have kids! I don't do it and don't like it happening to me.
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| Posted 5/20/11 11:28 PM |
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gina409
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Re: Unannounced guests
Posted by imthekevinofcindyandkevin
hate the "pop in"
with so many ways to stay in touch there is no reason NOT to call first
ita! i mean once in a blue moon is fine but not all the time
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| Posted 5/20/11 11:48 PM |
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WhatNow
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Re: Unannounced guests
Incredibly rude!  Doesn't matter if it's close family member or not: unless you LIVE in that house you DON'T show up unannounced!!!!
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| Posted 5/20/11 11:57 PM |
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DirtyBlonde
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Re: Unannounced guests
Just because his family does it doesn't make it okay.
eta
forget what i'd said I saw this
Posted by Lika71302
Thanks everyone. I knew I wasn't crazy! DH ended up telling her to call first next time
 
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| Posted 5/21/11 12:32 AM |
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Shelly
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Re: Unannounced guests
In the days of cell phones and texting there is non reason for this. I wouldn't dream of doing this and it's never happened to me. If I am by someone's house and want a spontaneous visit I just call and say I am near by let's meet up. And that is onle with my closest friend or my sister.
In Israel, where dh is from, it's very common especially on Shabbat (sabbath). He said he used to hate it. His dad would be watching tv in his underwear and suddenly a knock on the door with 10 relatives wanting to hang out.
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| Posted 5/21/11 6:19 AM |
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It's totally rude!!!! I cant stand people that do this. I don't care if you're family or not; you don't just pop over someones house unannounced! My mil has done this to me as well and my Dh flipped on her. It's not right!
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| Posted 5/21/11 7:08 AM |
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ThreeCats
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Re: Unannounced guests
Posted by dpli
I am the only person on LIF that doesn't mind a pop-in, I guess. 
However, I don't have people in my life that make a habit of it or are super annoying. I really don't care how clean my house is if someone does pop in. If you want the house to be clean, wait for an invitation.
i feel the same way - its not rude or a big deal if someone just pops over
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| Posted 5/21/11 7:13 AM |
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sfp0701
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Re: Unannounced guests
It doesn't bother me but, I have my aunt pop by when we were DTD
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| Posted 5/21/11 7:15 AM |
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dawnygirl25
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Re: Unannounced guests
This is my biggest pet peeve! and I would never do it to someone else.
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| Posted 5/21/11 8:36 AM |
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Sweets13
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Re: Unannounced guests
Growing up family and friends always stopped over unannounced and they were always welcomed. The visit would turn into coffee or dinner. My parents loved having people over and still do.
It rubbed off on me because I dont mind unannounced guests at all. My door is always opened.
I do call or text friends before stopping over because not everyone welcomes unnanounced guests the way some others do.
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Bxgell2
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Re: Unannounced guests
I love it. This is a very American thing, to "schedule" visits. DH, who is from Israel, had a really hard time adapting, because in Israel, and most of Europe, there is much more of a community feel, with people dropping in unannounced all the time. At first I had a hard time with it, but now I simply love it 
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| Posted 5/21/11 8:57 AM |
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whatalife24
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Re: Unannounced guests
Posted by PearlJamChick
I don't answer the door unless I'm expecting someone. I don't care if my lights are on. It's rude.
When I was about 3 years old, my grandma (my mother's MIL) showed up unannounced one morning after taking a couple of buses to get to our apartment. (My grandma was one of those "Marie Barone" types) Door bell rings, my mom looks out the window and sees it's her, and my mom answers the door while putting my jacket on me and says "oh, I'm really sorry you made the trek, but I'm bringing Kris over to someone's house to play...next time you should really call" and sent her BACK HOME. Needless to say, she never showed up unannounced again. And the whole thing was a lie...but it taught her a lesson!
LOVE IT! This is us....we don't answer the door unless we're expecting a visit. We had to take this approach when we got married, otherwise MIL would have been stopping by every other day for nothing at all.
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| Posted 5/21/11 8:59 AM |
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Jessica
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Re: Unannounced guests
Posted by Sweets13
Growing up family and friends always stopped over unannounced and they were always welcomed. The visit would turn into coffee or dinner. My parents loved having people over and still do.
It rubbed off on me because I dont mind unannounced guests at all. My door is always opened.
I do call or text friends before stopping over because not everyone welcomes unnanounced guests the way some others do.
I could have written this word for word!!! :) and I would never, EVER not open the door for my parents. I love them sooooooooo much
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| Posted 5/21/11 9:20 AM |
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LadyBug1209
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Re: Unannounced guests
Posted by Sweets13
Growing up family and friends always stopped over unannounced and they were always welcomed. The visit would turn into coffee or dinner. My parents loved having people over and still do.
It rubbed off on me because I dont mind unannounced guests at all. My door is always opened.
I do call or text friends before stopping over because not everyone welcomes unnanounced guests the way some others do.
Same here!
Most of my family lives within a a mile radius and we are always stopping by eachothers houses. We welcome eachother at anytime, especially now that we have DS. My parents stop by every day or two.
As far as me going over to other people's houses... friends, inlaws, etc. we always call first to make sure they are home and available.
Is it the unannounced guest, or the unannounced MIL that is bothering you?? If my MIL stopped by out of the blue, I'd be annoyed too! lol
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| Posted 5/21/11 9:24 AM |
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luckyinlove
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Re: Unannounced guests
Hate it! I only don't mind if we are outside and neighbors walk by and stop to hang out for a bit. But especially when you have kids, your schedule is so erratic and when you have time to rest or catch up on chores, you don't want to be interrupted.
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| Posted 5/21/11 11:56 AM |
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Momma2Be
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Re: Unannounced guests
I don't mind it and don't really consider it rude or tacky. I couldn't imagine refusing to let in a family member or friend.
However, I could definitely understand why people would be annoyed if it happened when they had a newborn because it's so stressful trying to BF/feed the baby, get sleep, etc. When DS was born, everyone was good about calling before coming over.
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| Posted 5/21/11 11:57 AM |
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Sunny10
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Re: Unannounced guests
I don't like it. I would never do it to other people. You never know what people are doing, etc.
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rojerono
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Re: Unannounced guests
Personally I don't mind unannounced visitors. But I also recognize I'm kind of weird in that respect. The only time I mind visitors is when they expect me to entertain them. Most of my friends/family get me. They know that if they stop by without calling I might be doing something and they are welcome to pitch in or leave!
Having said that - there are very few people I would actually 'drop in on' - my bff's, my sisters.. and that's it!
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mrsboss
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Re: Unannounced guests
I really dont like this. I had to warn my mother to stop doing this. She is to CALL first before she stops by. IF I dont answer, dont stop by. It was becoming an every day thing, and it was getting invasive. Friends stopping by unannounced is ok.
But on a side note, we live out of state... There have been several times I've answered the door to DH's family who drove from NY to FL and 'surprised' us.. for a week. Yeah, I wasnt thrilled about that, and I dont find it a surprise, I find it imposing.. I like to know who/what/when, so my house can be clean, I can put a bra on, and have some food in the house.
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Acerone
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Re: Unannounced guests
Posted by mrsboss
I really dont like this. I had to warn my mother to stop doing this. She is to CALL first before she stops by. IF I dont answer, dont stop by. It was becoming an every day thing, and it was getting invasive. Friends stopping by unannounced is ok.
But on a side note, we live out of state... There have been several times I've answered the door to DH's family who drove from NY to FL and 'surprised' us.. for a week. Yeah, I wasnt thrilled about that, and I dont find it a surprise, I find it imposing.. I like to know who/what/when, so my house can be clean, I can put a bra on, and have some food in the house.
And I would have said, surprise find a hotel.
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| Posted 5/21/11 5:23 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Unannounced guests
I woudl HATE this.
My house is always a wreck, my bathroom always filthy- I need at least 30 min to run around and straighten up.
SOOO rude!
Unless you are one of those people who's house is always clean and are always sitting around fully dressed and presentable, I can't see how you could like this.
(Not to mention DH and I tend to  at odd hours and in the livingroom so this would NOT be good! )
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| Posted 5/21/11 6:31 PM |
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Im 38 weeks pregnant and this is my BIGGEST fear about giving birth! LOL...I can't stand the thought of my IL's just dropping by to see us...I plan to BF and have NO problem sitting there w/ my boob out...if they dont like it maybe they will get the hint and leave!!!
I wouldn't want my own family to just drop in, but I KNOW they would always call first, that is just how they are! My parents HATE when people just show up at their house.
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| Posted 5/21/11 6:39 PM |
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KittyGags
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Re: Unannounced guests
I guess mine also depends who it is...my mom wouldn't bother me...his mom, yes. lol
We have some friends who do this too and it doesn't bother me...and i've been caught braless, unshowered, you name it.
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| Posted 5/21/11 8:08 PM |
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MrsFishstick
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Re: Unannounced guests
My MIL has called us in transit to let us know she's on her way and I've shut her down and told her not to come. If it bothers you and you don't want to fight with your dh, go to your MIL yourself. You're a grown up and so is she = same level. Now you're both moms so she should understand more so.
Create a compliment sandwich:
We love having you come by to see the baby!
Would you mind calling first so we can make sure that we're home and available to spend time with you.
start with a compliment, insert meaty bit and end with a compliment
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| Posted 5/21/11 8:10 PM |
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