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NASP09
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Posted 8/27/07 8:54 PM  |
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CaseyGirl
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
Yes, and I've done that...in my case 10 yrs had gone by, but we all grew up and keep in touch via email now.
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| Posted 8/27/07 8:55 PM |
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Shelly
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
If someone can acknowledge that they were wrong and apologizes, absolutely!
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| Posted 8/27/07 9:00 PM |
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4monkeys
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
Posted by Shelly
If someone can acknowledge that they were wrong and apologizes, absolutely!
I totally agree.
Absolutely.
and if you posted this, maybe you're considering it, follow your heart, dont worry about what others would think (if it will influence to NOt follow your gut, make sense?) 
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| Posted 8/27/07 9:01 PM |
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Maathy317
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
I would be cautious. When I've been hurt, I have a tendency to build a wall around me so as not to be hurt again. I would proceed slowly and carefully and see what happens over time. You can't go back to what was before, but, you can go forward. I don't think, however, I would ever fully trust the person who hurt me again.
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| Posted 8/27/07 9:04 PM |
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HoneyBadger
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
Posted by Maathy317
I would be cautious. When I've been hurt, I have a tendency to build a wall around me so as not to be hurt again. I would proceed slowly and carefully and see what happens over time. You can't go back to what was before, but, you can go forward. I don't think, however, I would ever fully trust the person who hurt me again.
I was about to say the exact same thing.
Don't discount it, but tread cautiously.
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| Posted 8/27/07 9:06 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
Posted by Shelly
If someone can acknowledge that they were wrong and apologizes, absolutely!
I agree but would proceed with caution.
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| Posted 8/27/07 9:06 PM |
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mbawnr
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
yes
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KGools
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
Old habits die hard. I'd be open to it, but super cautious in the beginning.
Good luck!
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| Posted 8/27/07 9:13 PM |
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Lisa
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
Yes
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| Posted 8/27/07 9:34 PM |
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MrsCJK
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
I was very open several times with friends and I learned the hard way and was burned many times, after that I gave up!
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| Posted 8/27/07 9:36 PM |
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SPECIALNEEDSMOMMY
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
It's a big NO for me. Once it's over ... it's over. I just move on and never look back.
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| Posted 8/27/07 9:48 PM |
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dpli
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
Honestly, I am not sure that I would. I would appreciate an apology and an attempt to make amends, but it's not clear from what you are describing that the person acknowledged hurting you in the first place.
For me, at this point in my life, I have a difficult time keeping up with the friends I have, who have always treated me well. I am not sure I would be enthusiastic about inviting someone back into my life who wasn't a good friend.
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| Posted 8/27/07 9:54 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
Posted by MrsCJK
I was very open several times with friends and I learned the hard way and was burned many times, after that I gave up!
I agree with this. I probably couldnt rebuild that trust with a person that burnt me. I feel after many yrs that I have moved on and so should that person.
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| Posted 8/27/07 10:02 PM |
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neenie
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
Posted by dpli
Honestly, I am not sure that I would. I would appreciate an apology and an attempt to make amends, but it's not clear from what you are describing that the person acknowledged hurting you in the first place.
For me, at this point in my life, I have a difficult time keeping up with the friends I have, who have always treated me well. I am not sure I would be enthusiastic about inviting someone back into my life who wasn't a good friend.
I could have written this word for word.
and, from the way i interpreted your story, it seems like they're trying to make ammends more for themselves, and the steps theyre trying to take to make their own life better- not so much for having your friendship in their life again.
Sorry, i just wouldn't consider them worth my time at this point in my life.
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| Posted 8/27/07 10:04 PM |
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NASP09
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
Thanks for all your honest answers
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| Posted 8/27/07 10:08 PM |
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CunningOne
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
Posted by dpli
Honestly, I am not sure that I would. I would appreciate an apology and an attempt to make amends, but it's not clear from what you are describing that the person acknowledged hurting you in the first place.
For me, at this point in my life, I have a difficult time keeping up with the friends I have, who have always treated me well. I am not sure I would be enthusiastic about inviting someone back into my life who wasn't a good friend.
ITA. It was long ago and over time, I moved on and am happy now, why have that hanging over my head.
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| Posted 8/27/07 10:18 PM |
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Bellaocchi
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
Posted by Maathy317
I would be cautious. When I've been hurt, I have a tendency to build a wall around me so as not to be hurt again. I would proceed slowly and carefully and see what happens over time. You can't go back to what was before, but, you can go forward. I don't think, however, I would ever fully trust the person who hurt me again.
These are my feelings exactly!
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| Posted 8/27/07 10:52 PM |
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Tany
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
I believe in giving people second chances especially when they are trying to make amends.
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| Posted 8/27/07 10:53 PM |
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islandersgirl74
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
Give them the benefit of the doubt but as everyone said proceed with caution. Easier said than done. I had similar situation. Backstabbed by a very good friend. Back to being friends which im happy about but I am still do not trust 100%. If that trust is broken again though..that will be the end of the friendship. Good luck to you!
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alnem
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
i agree with the other girls....just be very cautious.
if it was me, i'd say that i can forgive them and move on from what happened and appreciate them reaching out. but i wouldnt start hanging out with them and get close again. just let it be that they apologized and move on. at least there's closure.
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| Posted 8/27/07 11:13 PM |
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evnme
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
Posted by Jennie0898
Posted by Maathy317
I would be cautious. When I've been hurt, I have a tendency to build a wall around me so as not to be hurt again. I would proceed slowly and carefully and see what happens over time. You can't go back to what was before, but, you can go forward. I don't think, however, I would ever fully trust the person who hurt me again.
I was about to say the exact same thing.
Don't discount it, but tread cautiously.
i agree with this also
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| Posted 8/27/07 11:15 PM |
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Superkat
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
Posted by Shelly
If someone can acknowledge that they were wrong and apologizes, absolutely!
I agree but trust would be a huge obstacle.
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nyteacher13
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
Posted by Superkat
Posted by Shelly
If someone can acknowledge that they were wrong and apologizes, absolutely!
I agree but trust would be a huge obstacle.
ITA!!!
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BikerGrl
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Re: How open are you to rebuilding "friendships" with someone who hurt you
Yes, I've done it. At the time, it was a 2 way street as far as the reasons behond the end of the friednship. We reconnected a year or so later. (At the time, our circle of friends was mutual).
Would I do it now? With caution because that person has hurt you. If could be possible that they truly are different. As we grow up our priorties change. Good luck!
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