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dandr10199
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Re: Toooooooo many judgemental mommies!
Posted by DebG
The next point that brings my blood to a boil is this "race" I'm so happy for you that your kid was able to run the new york city marathon at 4 months old while graduating Harvard, really I am. Don't follow it with something like "can your kid do that" cause what my kid can do is that he can hit you in the face with his fisher price hammer.
Deb,
I almost spit my water out when I read this!  I totally agree with you. OMG! Did I get it! "HUMMMM, She's 14 months and not walking yet? Have you tried early intervention?" OR "She STILL eats baby food (Complete with  )?" OR "She still uses a bottle? Have you tried a sippy cup yet?"
Oh yeah, and this was from other moms, and people in MY FAMILY. 
So I finally had enough of it and said "well I have never seen a child crawl in to college with a binky in her mouth and a bottle in her hand". I mean early intervention? WTH? My ped was not worried about her walking because she was cruising furniture since 9 months old. If my ped is not worried, WHY is the rest of the world?
You know what? When other moms question Gracie's milestones, I bring up the fact that I just had open heart surgery. Tell them what you went through this past year. Seriously, like getting my 1 year old into Harvard while recovering from open heart surgery was my top priority. When I do this (only after they are B!tchy to me) they turn the catty b!tch off that is inside of them and become a human being right before my eyes.
Sorry to be so harsh about this topic, but as most of you know at almost EVERY family or friend function I have had this happen to me.
Sorry but this catty, high school, my kid is smarter, faster, more athletic, has more toys, has a better stroller, than your kid CR@P pizzes me off to no end! 
Deb, you have friends on here and I am sure there are some non-judgemental, non-b!tchy, non-competitive, genuine moms in FLA for you to connect with. 
Message edited 7/26/2007 10:59:21 PM.
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Re: Toooooooo many judgemental mommies!
Posted by Dragonfly75
I think you get it every time you are doing something different from others around you. I hear it because I (gasp) co-sleep and because I still breastfeed my 8 month old (apparently you're supposed to wean a thriving breastfed baby to formula at the ripe old age of 6 months -- who knew?). I find it pretty easy to ignore because I feel good about the decisions I have made, but it is annoying to feel like I have to justify or explain why I think my choices are best for me and my family.
I can't tell you how many looks of horror when people find out I still nurse my 11mth old. Sometimes I want to say don't worry I've been supplementing with beer so I'll have her off my boob anyday now.
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| Posted 7/26/07 10:58 PM |
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dandr10199
Grace is growing up too fast!
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Re: Toooooooo many judgemental mommies!
Posted by Disneygirl
I can't tell you how many looks of horror when people find out I still nurse my 11mth old. Sometimes I want to say don't worry I've been supplementing with beer so I'll have her off my boob anyday now.
THAT is a GREAT response! 
BTW, LMAO! 
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| Posted 7/26/07 11:00 PM |
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dandr10199
Grace is growing up too fast!
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Re: Toooooooo many judgemental mommies!
Posted by DebG
I wait for them to finish their preaching as to why I should have and then I say...
"yeah, maybe that would have been nice but I was on so many medications to fight cancer that it really wasn't an option for me and my doctors are the ones who advised me against it"
I used to not be as blunt because it usually makes people feel bad, but now I do it with pleasure...if you are triying to make me feel bad, WHAP! coming back at'cha
Exactly my point. I had to stop BF after 3 months of EBF'ing because of supply issues and I was put on meds. If people are going to judge without having the WHOLE story, I'm with you...WHAP!
Message edited 7/26/2007 11:02:41 PM.
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| Posted 7/26/07 11:02 PM |
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JessieQ
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Re: Toooooooo many judgemental mommies!
Posted by prncss
Tell everyone to kiss your azz because unless they plan on raising your child for you, they have zero business commenting on what you choose to do as a parent.
I agree, it's so annoying when people judge your every decision. I definitely got that plenty of times, from co-sleeping with my dd, to *gasp* putting her in daycare at 7 weeks! You know what though, I try not to let it bother me. As a working mom I LOVED co-sleeping with my DD, and it was soooo easy to feed her at night. And we were so lucky, she pretty much pushed herself out of the bed at almost a year, and transitioned really well to the crib. Also, sorry, I don't have a job where I can get 3 months maternity leave, and we can't afford to lose my salary, and I have no family who can watch her. Unless you were going to offer to watch the baby yourself or pay me the equivalent of my lost salary, I don't want to hear it!
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| Posted 7/26/07 11:10 PM |
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maybebaby
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Re: Toooooooo many judgemental mommies!
I have to say, I too have had comments made from BF'ing moms here and there and nothing offends me more. It's funny because I FF and would never ever think to criticize their decision.
Why can't people accept that not everyone is gung ho about it? I hated it and it was not for me. So who cares??? It's not their kid.
I had a mom ask me "did you even try to give him some colostrum in the hospital?". I answered "well i attempted to BF to see if it was for me, and it wasn't...whether he got colostrum or not isn't the issue". I could care less.
This is coming from a mom whose 11 month old daughter has dairy and wheat allergies. Oh and also screams her head off every second of the day. I'm not linking that to BF'ing, however my point is that everyone has their issues and goes through their own stuff.
I think when moms make judgements and snide remarks its because they must reaffirm to themselves that their decisions are best. And these moms are usually the ones that end up with demented children, lol.
I try so hard to not let it bother me. But it is inevitable. I just distance myself from negativity and it helps.
Message edited 7/27/2007 7:37:48 AM.
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| Posted 7/27/07 7:00 AM |
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Dragonfly75
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Re: Toooooooo many judgemental mommies!
Posted by CkGm
Posted by Dragonfly75
I think you get it every time you are doing something different from others around you. I hear it because I (gasp) co-sleep and because I still breastfeed my 8 month old (apparently you're supposed to wean a thriving breastfed baby to formula at the ripe old age of 6 months -- who knew?). I find it pretty easy to ignore because I feel good about the decisions I have made, but it is annoying to feel like I have to justify or explain why I think my choices are best for me and my family.
HA! I get the opposite- that I am a monster for weaning my child at 6 months- I worked my butt off to even get it to work for that long!
It's so ironic, isn't it. I think as mothers we're all stuck in that dammned if you do, dammned if you don't. People are always going to disagree and project their own values and ideas on your choices.
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| Posted 7/27/07 7:22 AM |
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Dragonfly75
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Re: Toooooooo many judgemental mommies!
Posted by Disneygirl
I can't tell you how many looks of horror when people find out I still nurse my 11mth old. Sometimes I want to say don't worry I've been supplementing with beer so I'll have her off my boob anyday now.
That's hillarious. I'll have to remeber it. I plan on nursing DS until he's at least 18 months or so, so I'll have to remember that.
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| Posted 7/27/07 7:23 AM |
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snuggleupagus
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Re: Toooooooo many judgemental mommies!
Oooh...pet peeve of mine as well. Nice one about the Fisher Price hammer!!!
I had a lady YELL at me for carrying my baby in my own arms over/at my shoulder (burp position basically). Here I thought, it's some tummy time and he's really building up strong neck muscles when I didn't realize I was evil for holding my child myself. Apparently if I wish to walk with him, he should be strapped into a carseat. Yeah, cause having his spine straight is way worse than keeping it all scrunched up.
People are jerks. I've stopped being nice...you want to disect my parenting abilities? I'll remind you of your faults as well...9 months I listened to BS, now i dish it back.
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Ang-Rich
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Re: Toooooooo many judgemental mommies!
Posted by DebG
1. The daycare thing bothers me to no end! NO END! No one has any idea what kind of reasons someone has used to make their choice....that's just it it is THEIR CHOICE, back off you judegemental twit!
Thank you for posting this because I actually needed to vent over daycare...
If one more person asks me if I "checked out" the daycare center I will seriously flip out. No I put names of centers into a cup and decided on the first one I picked blindly
Of course I researched the facility up and down...went in person to check it out and meet the staff - several times. How dare people assume that 1-I am an incompetent mom and 2-that I would ever leave my child in bad care. I am so sick of the comments.
Thanks for letting me get that out.
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| Posted 7/27/07 8:33 AM |
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leighla
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Re: Toooooooo many judgemental mommies!
Posted by computergirl
Gotta love the "race"! I was at Gymboree last week, and this mom is looking to try to switch her kid into the next level of classes mid-session, since she's basically on the border where she'd be one of the oldest in this level or one of the youngest in the next level. Ok that's fine, sounds good, but then she had to follow it up with "You know, she's just not challenged enough in this level. She needs MORE". Challenged? In Gymboree? I didn't even realize there were supposed to be challenges!
OMG - the same thing happened to me.
DS is the youngest in the class by two months and when he can't do the things the other babies do, I get these pitying looks.
And one mom said to me "Oh, well, I guess this is more for you than him since he can't do ANYTHING - that's why I didn't start until 4 months." in this snotty tone.
B!tch.
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| Posted 7/27/07 8:36 AM |
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pugmama
April already?
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Re: Toooooooo many judgemental mommies!
everyone thinks that they know better!
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| Posted 7/27/07 8:49 AM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Toooooooo many judgemental mommies!
It's funny the mixed bag of reactions we all get when it comes to BFing. Some of us are chastised for not doing it all, not doing it long enough and for doing it too long. So which is it?! I'd like to know.
My MIL was constantly on me to get DS on formula, she was convinced that my chubb-rock son was not eating enough.
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