Re: spinoff - those that don't BF, didn't birth "naturally", don't make own baby food-

Posted by Ophelia

Posted by pinkandblue

Posted by Ophelia

Posted by pinkandblue



I do not care at all how long someone bf's their kid but you bet your *** I would've said something, maybe about the fact that she was preaching to me about nutrition with mcD on her table, MAYBE about the fact that she was BF'ing her older toddler, in the heat of the moment, I would've had ALOT to say, I am sure where normally, I would never say anything like that to anyone

but short stuff didn't make that comment...someone NOT in the heat of the moment/NOT the injured party did.

I understand that, I am just trying to put myself in the OP's shoes, maybe the other posters were doing the same

of course. like I said. I don't care about what anyone wrote...I just thought it was an interesting example of how the shitteth doth hitteth the fan

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OMG, first of all people....no one judged anyone...that comment wasnt EVER spoken, so are you seriously debating a hypothetical situation? And I dont think the comment, IF IT HAD BEEN MADE, wouldve been in judgement, the rude woman commented are her feeding choices and IF HYPOTHETICALLY someone responded back with that comment, they would just be doing the same. Its all it wouldve been....you commented on my feeding, Ill comment on yours. It doesnt MEAN "hypothetical conversation haver" is judgemental....just that she was ****** and made a likewise retort. Which if IT WERE EVEN SAID, wouldve been mild compared to the dissertation she got.

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Re: spinoff - those that don't BF, didn't birth "naturally", don't make own baby food-

bahhh my eye is starting to twitch!!!

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maybe if i were breastfed as a baby, i wouldn't have allergies!!

I KID, I KIIIIID.

I SAID play nice!!!

Re: spinoff - those that don't BF, didn't birth "naturally", don't make own baby food-

While I am almost the exact opposite of you I respect YOUR choice for YOUR child. My way isn't the only right way, neither is yours. I'd rather teach my child that it's ok to be different and still be friends, or at least polite to someone. That woman is teaching her son how to be holier than thou, and it's not going to get him very far regardless of what advantages she thinks she's giving him.

I've seen and heard people judge this way more often than I'd like to admit and it turns my stomach every time.

I'm so sorry you had to deal with that.

Re: spinoff - those that don't BF, didn't birth "naturally", don't make own baby food-

Posted by pinkandblue

Posted by eddiesmommy

OMG, first of all people....no one judged anyone...that comment wasnt EVER spoken, so are you seriously debating a hypothetical situation? And I dont think the comment, IF IT HAD BEEN MADE, wouldve been in judgement, the rude woman commented are her feeding choices and IF HYPOTHETICALLY someone responded back with that comment, they would just be doing the same. Its all it wouldve been....you commented on my feeding, Ill comment on yours. It doesnt MEAN "hypothetical conversation haver" is judgemental....just that she was ****** and made a likewise retort. Which if IT WERE EVEN SAID, wouldve been mild compared to the dissertation she got.

this may be a first, but I agree with you 100%

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Re: spinoff - those that don't BF, didn't birth "naturally", don't make own baby food-

Posted by Shorty

bahhh my eye is starting to twitch!!!

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maybe if i were breastfed as a baby, i wouldn't have allergies!!

I KID, I KIIIIID.

I SAID play nice!!!

Message edited 4/26/2010 4:55:15 PM.

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Re: spinoff - those that don't BF, didn't birth "naturally", don't make own baby food-

Posted by eddiesmommy

Posted by Ophelia

Posted by eddiesmommy

OMG, first of all people....no one judged anyone...that comment wasnt EVER spoken, so are you seriously debating a hypothetical situation? And I dont think the comment, IF IT HAD BEEN MADE, wouldve been in judgement, the rude woman commented are her feeding choices and IF HYPOTHETICALLY someone responded back with that comment, they would just be doing the same. Its all it wouldve been....you commented on my feeding, Ill comment on yours. It doesnt MEAN "hypothetical conversation haver" is judgemental....just that she was ****** and made a likewise retort. Which if IT WERE EVEN SAID, wouldve been mild compared to the dissertation she got.

I know this is starting to seem redundant, but I don't think anyone is arguing against your point.

there was another comment made after one of my last posts that I was responding to, but did not quote as to not specifically call anyone out and put them on the spot

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WOW I am speechless....don't know how you didn't attack that woman. Thank god your DH was there.

I am almost 33 weeks prego with my 1st and wanted to slap a coworker last week after she asked me if I was going to BF...I told her no. She and said "oh you really should. At least for a month. BE GOOD TO YOUR BABY"...as if I'm going to be awful to my child b/c I'm going to FF. I can't take people's comments! So rude!

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Dear Parenting Board,

Thank you for making my day go by faster.

The plethora of topics that go on this board and break out some claws are such a good sources of fun. Vaginal, natural, drug births vs C-sections.....BFing vs. FF....BFing for a short time vs BFing your kid until they are out on their first date....making your own food vs poisoning your kids....up vs down....left vs right.....good vs. evil....toilet paper over or under?

It almost makes me wants to have a crotch dumpling, but then I think of how it experiences pain and what if it can't afford a Chanel bag by age 7? Then it just doesn't seem worth it.

Signed,
A CFer who is still holding onto my eggs just a liiiiitle bit longer.

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OMG the nerve of that mother

Re: spinoff - those that don't BF, didn't birth "naturally", don't make own baby food-

Posted by Ophelia

Posted by eddiesmommy

Posted by Ophelia

Posted by eddiesmommy

OMG, first of all people....no one judged anyone...that comment wasnt EVER spoken, so are you seriously debating a hypothetical situation? And I dont think the comment, IF IT HAD BEEN MADE, wouldve been in judgement, the rude woman commented are her feeding choices and IF HYPOTHETICALLY someone responded back with that comment, they would just be doing the same. Its all it wouldve been....you commented on my feeding, Ill comment on yours. It doesnt MEAN "hypothetical conversation haver" is judgemental....just that she was ****** and made a likewise retort. Which if IT WERE EVEN SAID, wouldve been mild compared to the dissertation she got.

I know this is starting to seem redundant, but I don't think anyone is arguing against your point.

there was another comment made after one of my last posts that I was responding to, but did not quote as to not specifically call anyone out and put them on the spot

eh, it matters not....let's all have a drink!. it's almost 5 pm!!! whoot

Re: spinoff - those that don't BF, didn't birth "naturally", don't make own baby food-

Posted by NYchic

WOW I am speechless....don't know how you didn't attack that woman. Thank god your DH was there.

I am almost 33 weeks prego with my 1st and wanted to slap a coworker last week after she asked me if I was going to BF...I told her no. She and said "oh you really should. At least for a month. BE GOOD TO YOUR BABY"...as if I'm going to be awful to my child b/c I'm going to FF. I can't take people's comments! So rude!

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Oh please what a moron

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Re: spinoff - those that don't BF, didn't birth "naturally", don't make own baby food-

Posted by DPerotti

Posted by Ophelia

actually Devon you are proving my point.

Well, I'm glad I could be used to prove your point

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Ahhh the joy of someone preaching about what's best for baby. I had a woman who saw me make a bottle for DS at my table ask me why I wasn't breastfeeding, my DH being quite the funny man he is said:"Because men don't produce breast milk as of yet." spinning it as though she were talking to him. He then said "I think you'd be better off minding your own please" Of which we went back to our dinner and conversation. He is sooo my hero because he knows the wrath that would have rained upon this womans head. I am the ONLY mother to MY son. I don't judge anyone for breastfeeding as far as Im concerned your boobs your choice. But don't you dare lecture me.

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I read this before but didn't have a chance to respond.

Speaking as someone who is extremely non-confrontational, I think you took the higher ground by not saying anything back to her. However, even *I* think I would have unleashed my fury on her. The nerve!!! What business is it of hers???

This is EXACTLY the problem we have in the world...people are MUCH too quick to judge others for things that are no concern of theirs.

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Gee and I thought unhooking a woman's bra was a skill that all men needed to learn - like baseball and farting. What do I know?

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Judging is bad.
Judging people for their parenting choices......
Judging people for judging people.......
It's all bad. Life is hard enough. There's enough wrong with the world to worry about!

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that woman should just count her blessings that it wasnt me that she said that to cause she'd be eating through a straw right now.

Message edited 4/26/2010 7:02:05 PM.

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What a f*cking a-hole

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I would have told her that I really had no interest in seeing her whip her ti ts out for the world to see. And then I would have really gone off on her. Also, I would tell her to keep her hands to herself.

I have rarely felt judged. I had a csection, formula fed my child, and put him in daycare at 8 wks old.

When I was pregnant a few older women tsked me when I said he was going to daycare. When I offered them the opportunity to support me so that I could stay home, they stopped their clucking very quickly.

One other time I went to an outdoor concert and some woman stood there telling me I was going to make my baby deaf. I smiled and said thank you over and over again. I'm not sure what she was lookng for, but since I wouldn't give her the argument, she huffed away.

I am not afraid to put people in their place. I have the bad skill of going for the jugular. Especially when it comes to rearing my child.

ETA - as for the "horrible disease" comment, I would have said, "You mean like the one where he tells random strangers how they should live their lives?"

Message edited 4/26/2010 7:40:43 PM.