Re: spinoff - those that don't BF, didn't birth "naturally", don't make own baby food-

I will never understand some people--they just think no matter what they do, its right. If it makes you feel any better, I met someone who was literally appalled I would still be BFing a child that has teeth.

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I don't think your post needs to exclude any one group. EVERY mother is judged in some way by other mothers. In fact, you quipped about her almost 3 year old BFing- well that could be construed as judgemental to some of the extended BFers here (and I know we have a few).

My point is why perpetuate it further?

What that women said was way out of line but I think we can all agree that "those" types are really the exception rather than the norm.

We're all doing what we feel is best for our families. I bf both girls to a year, did not make my own baby food, and I gave birth vaginally with an epi. Do I judge other's parenting styles? You bethcha. Do I voice those judgements? Not usually. Well, at least I have learned to TRY not to.

Had that happend to me, I would have calmly told her that continuing to speak to me would have been bad for HER health......

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I've been judged and attacked - I don't give a sh*t. I really, truly, honestly DO NOT CARE what anyone else thinks or says abotu how DH and I have decided to raise our son ........and I actually MEAN that (not in the usual "i don't care what anyone else thinks" way - when you really do kind of care, but know you shouldn't - I REALLY am not at all affected by anyone else's opinion)

You did the right thing w/ that lunatic by just letting it go and moving along ........I personally would have simply told her my child was absolutely none of her business and her unsolicited opinion was irrelevant - but I can be a B*tch -

And people are just self important a$$holes.

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OMG!

I wonder what she'd think if she saw my Logan - he's breastfed and in the 99th percentile for weight!

He's NOT obese. He's a BABY!

I can't believe how judgmental some people are!

Re: spinoff - those that don't BF, didn't birth "naturally", don't make own baby food-

WOW
first of all I applaud you for not ripping this woman's face off. I probably would have went after her lol

How disgusting of her! Especially the part about him having a weight problem and saying I hope he doesn't get a disease...uugggh I'm getting angry ust picturing this whole situation unfolding!!!
I missed the part where you asked for her opinion! Why do complete strangers feel the need to comment of matters that do not relate to them???!!!!

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OMGosh I would have lost it!!

Seriously WTHeck is wrong with people!!!

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I EBF and make all of DD's food.

And I would have lost my sh!t on that woman if I were you, and if I were in the vicinity listening to her talk to you.

Oh, and my DD is in 90th plus for weight. And I LOVE that she is a chunker!

You're a much more mature woman than I am!

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Pfft...I've been judged for breastfeeding & having natural childbirth so you can't win either way. I think everyone does judge to some extent, it's a matter of who has the lack of manners to say it.

Go DH for teaching Logan ways to diffuse the situation!

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I'm gonna go on record and say I think judgement comes from both sides.

When I was EBF Little Billy and pumping at work, people voiced their opinion over it all the time and made me feel weird for pumping at work. And also said it was disgusting for me to store my milk in the refrigerator where they keep their lunch - NO JOKE! It was in bottles in a bag and no one would even know what it was if they didnt see me put it there.

When I formula fed Genevieve I got comments about not trying harder to BF'ed.

This time around, people have been very supportive of my formula use, surprisingly.

This also applies to the type of birth I had. I ended up with a c/s with G and heard comments about how I should have labored longer. But when I wanted to go for a VBAC with Billy everyone told me I was nuts and to go for a c/s bc it would be easier (and their opninions had nothing to do with the "risks" of vbac)

I also got comments with Genevieve was on a harness when I was 8 months pregnant. But then the next week when letting her run loose I also heard things.

No matter what we do as parents people are going to comment/complain and throw their two cents in. I think with Charlotte I just handle it better and know that each choice I make for her is best

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That lady has some serious nerve!!! I would be furious!

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That is HORRENDOUS! I wish I was able to BF but it didn't work out. I feed my child jarred food also. AND I know for me having a child at all was HUGE never mind "naturally." Sorry you had to deal with that

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Since the inmates at the nearby Riverhead county jail probably don't have internet access, I probably would not be able to post what happened if I had an encounter with someone like that, because I'd surely be of them

Seriously though, I can't say what I would have said/done, but it would not have been pretty

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r u effing serious?? oh my god, i would have lost it.

U would have had to gotten my bail ready..never mind Logans..LOL.


Logan is just fine and healthy. I dont think 3 year olds should still be breast fed anyway and thats just my opinion on it. Im sure someone here will flame me for it.

Re: spinoff - those that don't BF, didn't birth "naturally", don't make own baby food-

That woman is obviously incredibly rude. I wish you had the opportunity to knock her out!

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I probably have been, but when out in public with my DS, I am usually consumed by paying attention to him, so I don't think I have noticed if anyone was rolling their eyes or whatever. No one has ever publicly said anything to me, but I can see how it happens.

The only time i approached another mom was in the BRU parking lot. The baby was in an infant seat, perched on the seat part of the shopping cart, behind the trunk of the car. Mom was SITTING IN THE CAR, in the front seat, on her cell phone. I walked by at first, almost like I couldn't believe what I saw. Then I walked back and said to her, "you know you really need to keep an eye on her, this parking lot is dangerous" Mom nods and waves me off. I keep watching as a back away to make sure she gets out of the car to attend to the baby.

Did I judge? You bet. But the baby was in real danger. I'd do the same thing again. There are a plethora of parenting decisions that I may agree or disagree with, and some are more serious than others, IMO. Unless the child is in danger or is getting hurt in some way, I keep my mouth shut.

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The BALLS on that woman! OMG! I am a big supporter of breastfeeding. I believe it has several benefits & while it would be wonderful if everyone did it, I understand that some people chose not to for their own personal reasons & thats fine! I cannot imagine what would possess someone to believe that they have the right to so RUDELY push their point of view on to someone else! I would never dream of saying anything like that to someone! I am so sorry that happened to you!

ETA: I've been judged too. I BFed my DD for 26 months. I lost count of how many times I was asked when I would stop or told it was time to stop "that". DS is 12 months now & I'm wondering when that will start again Also, on the comment she made about Logan being overweight. Umm, she would've loved my kids. My chunkers were EBF for 6 months & they were both still in the 90%+ percentile until they started walking. You should've seen the rolls these kids had!

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wow, that's just awful.

My DH would've stepped out of the way for his own safety!

Re: spinoff - those that don't BF, didn't birth "naturally", don't make own baby food-

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I would have said, "Well, clearly your son is old enough to unhook your bra, so that would be a clear sign to retire your booby."

Re: spinoff - those that don't BF, didn't birth "naturally", don't make own baby food-

I would have said something like, "well the jarred baby food is probably better than the coke I sniffed throughout my pregnancy". Idiot.

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OMG! I think I would have wanted to tell her that I'm sorry her child has to grow up with such a rude ***** for a mother and that I hope HE doesn't have any horrible resentment toward her when he grows up. What nerve! I can't stand it when people judge other's for their parenting choices, just because it goes against what they do for their own child. Obviously forumla feeding and jar food aren't forms of child abuse so she should have just kept her opinions to herself and her mouth shut.

I've been judged before because my children are in daycare. I choose to work which seems to flip people out even more because, according to them, I should be home with my children given the choice.

I'm sorry that happened to you.

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I have

After 31 hours of labor, I needed the pain meds. I also needed them after my stitches reopened from my c-section.

I wasn't into the boob, and luckily, neither was my son.

I will feed him organically but not make my own.


people judge me all the time. Is he the happiest, sweetest, most alert 4 mos (not to mention in the 95% for height and weight)????

Yes
So I don't care