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sorry but another c section post
I'm still kinda bummed that I ended up with a C section. I feel like my body will never be the same and I will always "feel" it in one way or another. I've always been pretty athletic and now I feel like I won't ever be able to do things I always did. I 've been a runner and I really really want to get back into good running shape. Not tomorrow or anything, but by next spring, I'd like to be able to run some road races and feel good about myself, even run the half marathon with my friend. Is it possible? Call me crazy, but actually wanted to push and have a vaginal delivery . I feel like I cheated. I also feel like doctors have gotten C section crazy! So many women that I know who have had babies recently have ended up with one. Don't you find that strange?
ETA: I just wanted to add that by no means do I think a C section is the wrong thing to do. I'm not against them. If it is the best option for mom and bay then it needs to be done. For me, it's just not what I pictured happening to me, but I knew it was the best thing for both of us. I love my DD and am so grateful that she's here!
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Re: sorry but another c section post
Posted by mamasita27
I feel like I cheated. I also feel like doctors have gotten C section crazy! So many women that I know who have had babies recently have ended up with one. Don't you find that strange?
KWYM....
Yes, I feel like I was browbeaten into a csec that wasn't neccessary - they told me DD was going to be over 10 lbs and she ended up just over 8 lbs. Drs like it b/c it can be scheduled, Hospitals like it b/c you stay longer. And Insurance companies pay more for a csec. (I sort of liked it b/c I got 2 extra weeks of disability and an extra $200 from AFLAC)
But I do know what you mean... And I think you will totally be back to where you were if you just work at it. Maybe see a personal trainer or somehting to get advice. Think of all the runners who have overcome things much worse than abdominal surgery such as amputations or cancer - if they can do it - we certainly should be able to
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Re: sorry but another c section post
I think it's normal to have a mourning period after a c-section. I even had it with my daughter even though I knew from about 20 weeks that I was probably going to have one. You had to see me in the hospital this time, when I got there for my section with my son and I was actually having mild contractions. I was so excited because I never got the opportunity to experience contractions with my daughter, I didn't feel as defective.
*** This is how I felt, I also felt like that because of the section and because for whatever reason my milk never comes in. I AM NOT SAYING PEOPLE THAT HAVE SECTIONS ARE FAILURES-- THIS IS HOW I FELT FOR MYSELF ABOUT MYSELF!!!
But having a section won't stop you from running and stuff.
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Re: sorry but another c section post
I wasn't expecting a C-section, but the dr. told us the situation and when ella came out with her cord around her neck, we knew he made the right call.
within a few months i was able to get back to my prepregnancy size and worked out without a problem..
I don't see why you wouldn't be able to go back to doing anything you did prior. Why do you think you won't be able to?
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Re: sorry but another c section post
I totally know how you feel. DD was an emergency c-section and I was induced so I had no REAL time to process that I was about to give birth. I have no idea what a REAL contraction feels like nor was I awake for DD's birth...DH wasnt even allowed in the operating room and I was knocked out. So I feel VERY cheated in the aspect of giving birth. The dr. even said to me before my induction that the hospital I was in has a VERY high rate of c-sections  which I found to be really weird that she would even say something like that before anything had started/happened.
ITA that dr's are becoming c-section crazy and i agree with the PP that it's more $$ insurance has to lay out, easier for the dr...etc. It's just a shame.
I'm almost 9 months PP and I know my body will never be what it used to be....my stomach still feels like its detached and no matter how good I eat or how much I walk I haven't been able to lose any weight. But I do think if I work hard and REALLY put my mind to it I'll be able to lose the weight.
I don't think the c-section will prevent you from doing the things you want to do...only if you use it as a crutch. If your determined to get back into shape and run then nothing should be able to hold you back.
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Re: sorry but another c section post
I ended up with a c-section as well. However, deep down I always knew I would end up with one. I went through the whole pushing and everything (with an epidural that wore off) and I must say I am SO HAPPY that when I have my next one I will be a planned c/s.
I had a great recovery from day one and now, 18 months later, I can do everything I did before. In fact, i wax and I can't even find my scar.
I do think that doctors are quicker to perform c/s because of liability reasons. However, when you think back to the turn of the century you see that a woman's life expectancy was much lower than a man's and that was due to the high % of women that died during childbirth. That is very uncommon today. Not everyone was meant to deliver vaginally - fortunately we have the science now.
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Re: sorry but another c section post
i am sorry you feel that way, but to each their own.
to the poster who said a C section is more $$ is very untrue, its the same amount vaginal or C.
you can resume all activities you did prior to your C section with your dr. approval, meaning dont go back to running a week after having the baby, you need a little time to heal.
its been 10 1/2 months since my C section and have not done anything different. i do not feel i have been cheated out of any experience, i still gave birth, i still carried DS in me, and he is healthy and growing.
i chose to have this C section, and i would NOT have done it any other way.
C sections are done more frequently bc of people are requesting them for health reasons, (women are having children later in life).
but like i said to each their own, and i guess sometimes i wish people (not you directly) would understand that C sections are a form of giving birth and there is nothing wrong with it.
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Re: sorry but another c section post
I understand how you feel.
I am still a yr later bitter over my c/s and feel liek its something I may never get over.
I didnt want one and I still feel cheated.
Some people just dont feel that way and thats FINE,but that doesnt mean that some people like us dont feel how We do.
Only thing that gets me by is knowing I have a healthy child and I cannot change what happened.
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Re: sorry but another c section post
Posted by ajsmom81507
i wish people (not you directly) would understand that C sections are a form of giving birth and there is nothing wrong with it.
I think that its not a matter of being "wrong" but some of us just feel sad over not having the birth experience we Wanted and thats ok to feel.
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Re: sorry but another c section post
I felt the EXACT same way only 2 days before you... my DD was born on 5/4/08. I waited all day to push and I never got my turn. I cried so hard when they wheeled me into the OR. The doctor took me aside and totally gave me a pep talk. One of the problems today are these stupid "birth plans", the best plan is to have a doctor on board you trust and do what is best for mom and baby. Birth plans are a plan for disappointment for a lot of us. In my perfect world I didn't have 3 genetic blood clotting issues, I'd go into labor naturally and deliver vaginally... NONE of those things happened for me. I was sad too and you are totally entitled to feel that way. Our hormones probably don't help these feelings.
I don't think most people want a c-section and now in retrospect when I watch shows like Baby Story and you see women refusing C-sections every so often (one woman felt so robbed with her first being a section, she referred to needing her "cleansing birth" being a VBAC - that's just f'd up if you ask me) it makes me angry. The most important things are your health and the health of the baby. Yes there are more c-sections done today and infant mortality isn't exactly high either. Years ago doctors didn't even know about conditions like mine and women just had multiple miscarriages. I thankfully, never had to experience that (knock on wood - I'm not done having kids). My DH and I really didn't want to go the c-section route, but when DH saw on the monitor that DD's heart rate was being affected by my overlapping contractions (yes, I was induced but still got to experience contractions), and stopping petocin stopped my labor altogether and I had only a small window before I had to be back on blood thinners before MY health would be jeopardized and ultimately her's too. DH said to me - you have to do this - for the BABY. Earlier that day a woman had delivered a still born baby and DH was freaked out. It may have had nothing to do with the delivery, but DH wasn't willing to take chances.
Today almost 2 months later I still cry when I think about not getting to deliver vaginally. However, I also feel so blessed to have my HEALTHY baby girl. I know some are critizing doctors for doing too many c-sections, but who's to really say and who wants to risk not listening to their doctor. With the cost of malpractice today, I'm sure they aren't pushing it on us unnecessarily. It's still major surgery and most doctor's (with any concern for their lives and career) aren't going to risk performing surgery for a "quick fix" or higher payment from the insurance company on a regular basis. I won't deny that they do get paid more and that there are some that may take advantage (the anesthesiologists also make the most when it's a vaginal turned c-section by the insurance company - used to work for an insurance company).
I'm starting to feel better and stronger. If you are still not feeling well I think you should talk to your doctor. I definitely feel like I can start to get back to my exercise routine - slowly of course. I also tell myself - DH had surgery years ago for a hernia... he had to start over with his workout routine (the same routine that caused the hernia) but after the surgery he had nothing but a repaired hernia... I came out with a gorgous baby. Even women who deliver vaginally have a "different" body oftentimes after having a baby. Your life is also so different overall too.
With all this said, DH and I decided that our next baby may be a planned c-section. This way it won't be so traumatic should it not work out vaginally again (could bring back all those feelings of inadequacy) and I won't be as exhausted from a full day of waiting just to end up with a section. I know now that I'll again have to be induced (another thing that drove me nuts for a long time, but I got over it) b/c I have to be on Lovenox (blood thinner) whenever I'm pregnant... for me and for my unborn babies, so I know that the same thing could easily happen again. We will discuss with the doctor when the time comes.
Do know that what your feeling is normal. I had no idea and thought I was nuts for feeling this way, but I'm hearing about it all the time. We were blessed with healthy babies... regardless of how they came out of us. I know I felt in so many ways that my body "failed" me and my baby. I had to be induced, I had to have a c-section, I had trouble breastfeeding. Finally, I accepted my DD was going to be on formula and one day I looked at her while I was feeding her the "evil" bottle and thought about how lucky I was to have her. We have close friends who have been TTC for years... I'm sure they would give their right arms to have the opportunity to have a c-section. It made me realize that I still brought life into this world, in fact I put myself and my body through a tougher process and recovery for this precious gift. I go for walks every day with DD and feel stronger and stronger everyday. I'm sure if I'm not PG again, a year from now I'll be running if I want. Granted, I've heard there are a lot of ways to sew up a c-section (I was taped up and had disolving stitches inside so it was very easy), so maybe there are different recovery periods for all types. I say, start slow and work up to your old pace.
I HTH. Know you aren't alone. I just wanted to share the things that helped me get through my "depression" over the unplanned c-section.
PS. I did NOT get an extra 2 weeks of disability pay for having a c-section. My NJ based comany uses a private company for disability insurance. They paid 6 weeks at 30% of my pay. If my OB and "Dr. Feelgood" got some extra pay for the c-section - well they deserved it, they kept me comfortable and did a great job.
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Re: sorry but another c section post
Posted by dm24angel
Posted by ajsmom81507
i wish people (not you directly) would understand that C sections are a form of giving birth and there is nothing wrong with it.
I think that its not a matter of being "wrong" but some of us just feel sad over not having the birth experience we Wanted and thats ok to feel.
I do understand that it's OK for people to feel the way you do. I am not you and cannot tell you how you can feel. If you do feel cheated then nobody can tell you how to feel about it.
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As far as the working out comment, plenty of moms work out after they had a c-section.
Things don't always work out the way we thing they would. I can undertand your disappointment.
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Re: sorry but another c section post
Posted by ajsmom81507
to the poster who said a C section is more $$ is very untrue, its the same amount vaginal or C.
C sections are done more frequently bc of people are requesting them for health reasons, (women are having children later in life).
Could you share where you got this information? It goes against everything I have read about C-sections.
I know there are some women who request C-sections, but I thought that was a small amount.
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Re: sorry but another c section post
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Posted by ajsmom81507
to the poster who said a C section is more $$ is very untrue, its the same amount vaginal or C.
C sections are done more frequently bc of people are requesting them for health reasons, (women are having children later in life).
Could you share where you got this information? It goes against everything I have read about C-sections.
I know there are some women who request C-sections, but I thought that was a small amount.
The info is not correct. C sections do not cost the same as vaginals...I worked for health insurance for years and know exaclty how much many Dr's on LI charge for both.
Hosp. Costs for C/s are more as well ( operating room, extra nurse, extra anesthesiologist , IV, And the Dr's get paid more as well as entire recovery room staff.
No OBGYN will approve a womens " request" for a c section unless theres a good reason. And having a child later in life doesnt + a C/s....nor cause reason for one.
Just clearing that up.
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Re: sorry but another c section post
After my 6 week check up I had no problem going back to working out.
Personally I was begging for a c-section after my epi stopped working and being in labor for 30 hours. I don't ever want to feel a contraction again! My doctors refused to give me one. They wanted me to continue labor and see how it progressed. I stopped dilating at 4cm and wound up having a c-section anyway but the last 10 hours of labor were horrible. I am glad that next time I can plan a c-section.
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Re: sorry but another c section post
I am 8 months PP and feel totally fine since having my c section, and it is in no way limiting what I do, nor has it changed my life at all.
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Re: sorry but another c section post
Posted by dm24angel
The info is not correct. C sections do not cost the same as vaginals...I worked for health insurance for years and know exaclty how much many Dr's on LI charge for both.
Hosp. Costs for C/s are more as well ( operating room, extra nurse, extra anesthesiologist , IV, And the Dr's get paid more as well as entire recovery room staff.
No OBGYN will approve a womens " request" for a c section unless theres a good reason. And having a child later in life doesnt + a C/s....nor cause reason for one.
Just clearing that up.
My dr. approved of my request for a c section with no reason other then its what i chose, my insurance company approved of it as wellm with no "reason" other then its how i wanted to give birth.
when i spoke to to my dr. he informed me that a C section upon request costs just as much as a vaginal delivery. my insurance company (BC/BS) had told me the same thing.
so... to clear things up here... i had an elective c section by request (1st child) bc it was how i wanted to give birth.... my dr. approved of it immediately (the day i found out i was preggers) and my insurance co. covered it 100%, with no medical "reason" other then i chose to give birth that way.
A study released by HealthGrades, a Denver company that studies healthcare quality, found that approximately 88,000 women had elective C-sections in 2002, up from about 71,000 in 2000, an increase of nearly 25 percent.
The debate over elective cesareans started publicly in the spring of 2000 when then-president of the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG), Dr. W. Benson Harer Jr., argued for "maternal-choice cesarean" in an editorial printed in the association's journal. Doctors were forced to pick a side as more patients entered their offices with requests. From 1999 through 2002, the number of elective C-sections provided to women with no previous C-section rose almost 42 percent, accounting for more than 2 percent of more than 4 million deliveries. If more women start getting their way, that number could skyrocket. In an online survey at Newshe.com, a Web site put out by sexual health experts Drs. Laura and Jennifer Berman, when nearly 2,500 women were asked, "Would you opt for a C-section over a vaginal delivery if you had the choice?" 37 percent answered "Yes"; another 9 percent answered "Not sure."
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You did what was right for your little girl. She's beautiful and healthy. I know you don't feel like it now but you are doing great and you will get back into shape, just give yourself a little time. We'll keep walking every day. Its a good start and then when you feel up to it you can start running. We got a jogging stroller for Dylan's baptism so maybe I'll even run with you. Don't be so down on yourself.
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Re: sorry but another c section post
All the other feelings about having a c/s aside, I see no reason you won't be able to resume your previous activities when you are done healing and your doc gives you the OK! I excersized pretty frequently before DS and I was back to it 6 weeks pp. It took a few months to work my way back to where I was, but I got there!
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Re: sorry but another c section post
Posted by ajsmom81507
i am sorry you feel that way, but to each their own.
to the poster who said a C section is more $$ is very untrue, its the same amount vaginal or C.
you can resume all activities you did prior to your C section with your dr. approval, meaning dont go back to running a week after having the baby, you need a little time to heal.
its been 10 1/2 months since my C section and have not done anything different. i do not feel i have been cheated out of any experience, i still gave birth, i still carried DS in me, and he is healthy and growing.
i chose to have this C section, and i would NOT have done it any other way.
C sections are done more frequently bc of people are requesting them for health reasons, (women are having children later in life).
but like i said to each their own, and i guess sometimes i wish people (not you directly) would understand that C sections are a form of giving birth and there is nothing wrong with it.
I agree with EVERY SINGLE WORD you wrote, just what I was going to write.
I chose C/S b/c they said baby was too big and I was too small, and I didn't want to take any chances, I had very bad last 2 months of pregnancy and had none stop contractions for almost 2 months. Let me tell you, c/s was the worst pain I have ever gone through and I am amazed when people feel like they were "cheated out of it" just b/c they didn't push -sorry.
When having a C there are more risks involved and and the recovery is sooooo much longer , harder and lot more painful .
I am proud of myself for going through it and PROUD OF MY HUGE SCAR. I am 10 1/2 months PP , everything is almost back to normal and I have been able to work out since I was 3 months pp and go running since I was 7 months pp(when I stopped breast feeding).
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I know how you feel. And at times I feel the same way. I feel like I was cheated out of my last trimester b/c she was early.
But in the end getting her here safely was all that mattered to me.
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Re: sorry but another c section post
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Posted by ajsmom81507
to the poster who said a C section is more $$ is very untrue, its the same amount vaginal or C.
C sections are done more frequently bc of people are requesting them for health reasons, (women are having children later in life).
Could you share where you got this information? It goes against everything I have read about C-sections.
I know there are some women who request C-sections, but I thought that was a small amount.
Yes that's true, when I decide to go with the CS they didn't want to do it in the begining, they wanted me to try and push the baby out, but as I got closer to the delivery date , they decided CS was the way to go and . so yes doctor's will not agree to do the CS just bc you request it, they have to have a valid reason. At least that's what I was told by few different doctors and insurence company.
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