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MetsGirl07
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Deanna
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so upset, i dont understand
well it looks like i am out this month 
i am on the verge of tears because i completely give up.. i dont know what else to do..
i felt so many symptoms this month and i am not one who analyzes them or anything... cause my last pregnancy i didnt have any..
-i had cramps more than a week before AF is due... and its more lower, like in the pelvic area... almost like O pain..very weird.
- i have lower back pain like crazy
- i woke up really nausea yesterday
- i had lots of creamy/lotiony CM
- REALLY hungry like when i was pregnant before... never normally like this.
so all these symptoms are here now.. and i tested this morning and obviously BFN with a dollar tree test... i am on 13DPO... AF is due tomorrow..
i tried to research a little on dollar tree tests and some had success with them and some didnt.. so i am still not being positive,, im sure im out if i didnt get a positive
thanks for all your support once again! sorry for being a downer, i am so depressed right now
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
Oh D.....i wish i could say something to take away every ounce of pain you have to go through...
you'll be told you're not out until AF shows - but i'm a believer that we all know our bodies'... If you think AF is coming - then it probably is...
Is there a chance your body is still adjusting from the m/c? It seems every month your period is more and more 'odd'....and different to you that it has ever been...
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| Posted 9/18/08 11:07 AM |
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MetsGirl07
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Deanna
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
thanks Jess,
i was told by my doctor that my body is completely healed and my lining and everything looks great!
so my cycles are always on time still.. except very painful..but little by little the pain goes away every month that goes by.
i am just beside myself right now.. i dont know what to think or do.. i am really on the verge of giving up.. i BD on all the right days but nothing to show for it
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| Posted 9/18/08 11:12 AM |
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ArmyOfBabies
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
 It's not over yet!
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| Posted 9/18/08 11:12 AM |
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Angel321
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
Posted by MetsGirl07
thanks Jess,
i was told by my doctor that my body is completely healed and my lining and everything looks great!
so my cycles are always on time still.. except very painful..but little by little the pain goes away every month that goes by.
i am just beside myself right now.. i dont know what to think or do.. i am really on the verge of giving up.. i BD on all the right days but nothing to show for it
I'm not remembering how long it took you before it 'happened' for you before....
Have you called your doc and let him/her know this whole thing? Maybe you need to see someone for testing?
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| Posted 9/18/08 11:19 AM |
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TTCbaby
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
It is not over yet so you can't be 100% sure until she show up!
I totally know how you are feeling but I also know how positive you are and it will happen for you!
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| Posted 9/18/08 11:20 AM |
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zeta1996
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
maybe you are not out...you have posted that you have been REALLY tired lately...that was one of my biggest indicators! Best of Luck to you!
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| Posted 9/18/08 11:26 AM |
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LiveAgain
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
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| Posted 9/18/08 11:40 AM |
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StressedNoMore
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
Stay positive... Your not out until the big bad witch shows her face....
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| Posted 9/18/08 11:45 AM |
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TaraHutch
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
Don't give up Deanna!!! You know you CAN get pregnant, your body can clearly do that...it WILL happen. Hang in there and stay positive!! 
Message edited 9/18/2008 11:47:34 AM.
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| Posted 9/18/08 11:47 AM |
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sweetdreamz1181
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
lots and lots of
for you
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| Posted 9/18/08 11:47 AM |
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MetsGirl07
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Deanna
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
Posted by davenjess
Posted by MetsGirl07
thanks Jess,
i was told by my doctor that my body is completely healed and my lining and everything looks great!
so my cycles are always on time still.. except very painful..but little by little the pain goes away every month that goes by.
i am just beside myself right now.. i dont know what to think or do.. i am really on the verge of giving up.. i BD on all the right days but nothing to show for it
I'm not remembering how long it took you before it 'happened' for you before....
Have you called your doc and let him/her know this whole thing? Maybe you need to see someone for testing?
i got pregnant after the 1st try last time... so thats why i am so confused.. i was wondering if i should call my doctor and see... even though im sure he will say keep trying... this will be my 5th month
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| Posted 9/18/08 11:50 AM |
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MetsGirl07
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Deanna
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
thanks ladies.. i really appreciate all of the hugs... i am praying that the stupid Dollar tree test is just not that sensitive with me... but its wishful thinking..
you know what i dont get about the dollar tree tests??
that you use the dropper and only use 4 DROPS  it seems like its not nearly enough to detect..but of course i know girls getting BFP.. im just not understanding this ..... i dont think i will ever use these tests again...lol
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| Posted 9/18/08 11:52 AM |
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Angel321
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
Posted by MetsGirl07
Posted by davenjess
Posted by MetsGirl07
thanks Jess,
i was told by my doctor that my body is completely healed and my lining and everything looks great!
so my cycles are always on time still.. except very painful..but little by little the pain goes away every month that goes by.
i am just beside myself right now.. i dont know what to think or do.. i am really on the verge of giving up.. i BD on all the right days but nothing to show for it
I'm not remembering how long it took you before it 'happened' for you before....
Have you called your doc and let him/her know this whole thing? Maybe you need to see someone for testing?
i got pregnant after the 1st try last time... so thats why i am so confused.. i was wondering if i should call my doctor and see... even though im sure he will say keep trying... this will be my 5th month
Yes - unfortunately, they will likely tell you to keep trying. Maybe it's time to start temping? This way - you can see an established pattern if there is a problem?
If i hadn't done that - i never would've known that my LP was short and i wouldn't have been given a 6 month timeframe..
As horrible as it is to hear - my regular doctor told us that if we had PERFECTLY timed BD, every month for a year (and we were 100% healthy) - our chances of conception would only be 50%. That is the harsh and terrible fact of life... That is why docs' sometimes refuse patients if they haven't been trying for a full year. When there is an established 'issue' or problem or age is a factor....the wait time is dropped to 6 months.
For my two cents - you had a m/c...that to me falls into the 'problem' category. Maybe wait the one more month so that it's 6 and then see the doc...(not with a phone call, but an appointment).
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| Posted 9/18/08 11:57 AM |
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BlueDiamonds
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
lots of for you today
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| Posted 9/18/08 11:58 AM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
Deanna.... I'm sorry. I'm really praying for you this month...  I know you already told me you sorta weren't trying as much too. If AF does come then it just wasn't your time and you'll be pregnant b4 you know it. I know this has been a hard month for you. Just remember you're young and full of so much wonderful things that one day you'll pass that on to your child... sooner than later.
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| Posted 9/18/08 11:58 AM |
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maybeamommy
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
I am so sorry Deanna!
You know you're not out until she shows though, so try to stay hopeful!
Grab a FRER today and try to test tomorrow morning with FMU.
How long is your LP? If it's 14 days, then AF isn't due for another 2 days so you still have time to get a BFP!
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| Posted 9/18/08 11:58 AM |
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QueSeraSera
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
So sorry you are feeling like this...
I just want to add that dollar tree tests were not good for me before AF was due. I think they read HcG at a level of 50mlu....a FRER is 20, and often lower.
Even if you are pregnant, you may not have that much Hcg in your system yet.
I didn't get a decent visible line on dollar tree until AF was a few days late.
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| Posted 9/18/08 12:04 PM |
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Gina674
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
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MetsGirl07
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Deanna
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
Posted by QueSeraSera
So sorry you are feeling like this...
I just want to add that dollar tree tests were not good for me before AF was due. I think they read HcG at a level of 50mlu....a FRER is 20, and often lower.
Even if you are pregnant, you may not have that much Hcg in your system yet.
I didn't get a decent visible line on dollar tree until AF was a few days late.
thank you for sharing this information and your experience with the dollar tree tests.. i have read that a couple gilrs had this problem..i hope i am one of them
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MetsGirl07
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
Posted by maybeamommy
I am so sorry Deanna!
You know you're not out until she shows though, so try to stay hopeful!
Grab a FRER today and try to test tomorrow morning with FMU.
How long is your LP? If it's 14 days, then AF isn't due for another 2 days so you still have time to get a BFP!
i have a 14 LP... now i am more confused than ever.. so you would count 14 days from day of O?
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| Posted 9/18/08 12:46 PM |
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futuremommy
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
Posted by MetsGirl07
Posted by maybeamommy
I am so sorry Deanna!
You know you're not out until she shows though, so try to stay hopeful!
Grab a FRER today and try to test tomorrow morning with FMU.
How long is your LP? If it's 14 days, then AF isn't due for another 2 days so you still have time to get a BFP!
i have a 14 LP... now i am more confused than ever.. so you would count 14 days from day of O?
Yes, the day after O is 1dpo - if your period is due tomorrow and you're 13dpo, then you have a 13-day LP. The day your period arrives is CD1, which is part of the next cycle.
Has your DH had an SA? If I were you that would be my next step - in fact, it is our next step.
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| Posted 9/18/08 1:03 PM |
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beachgirl
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
hang in there. I dont understand how your body can act differently than other months and then AF still shows - too weird. hang in there
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| Posted 9/18/08 1:05 PM |
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MetsGirl07
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
Posted by futuremommy
Posted by MetsGirl07
Posted by maybeamommy
I am so sorry Deanna!
You know you're not out until she shows though, so try to stay hopeful!
Grab a FRER today and try to test tomorrow morning with FMU.
How long is your LP? If it's 14 days, then AF isn't due for another 2 days so you still have time to get a BFP!
i have a 14 LP... now i am more confused than ever.. so you would count 14 days from day of O?
Yes, the day after O is 1dpo - if your period is due tomorrow and you're 13dpo, then you have a 13-day LP. The day your period arrives is CD1, which is part of the next cycle.
Has your DH had an SA? If I were you that would be my next step - in fact, it is our next step.
last month my LP was 14.. so yea i figured thats what it was...
but i doubt there would be anythign wrong with DH SA... we got pregnant the 1st try .. so i wouldnt think its that.
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| Posted 9/18/08 1:06 PM |
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maybeamommy
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Re: so upset, i dont understand
Deanna - if your LP is 14 days, then AF would come on the 15th day.
Cycles can't share days - KWIM?
So you'd have 14 DPO, then if you got AF the next day it would be CD 1 (which would have been 15 DPO). You only count the FULL days - not the one that would be shared with AF).
Also, have you spoken to your doctor about how long you should be trying again before getting some testing done?
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