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snuggleupagus
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So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
She is 65 [so in reality, she is just behind the times] and actually once yelled at me for eating too much [even though my DR. said eat MORE and told me that 30 pounds was way too much to gain in 9 months]. So really I should know to just ignore her every word...
Last week she tells me that I need some longer tops [which is fine...that shirt looked short that day], I had on pants that sit below my belly and have a zipper. So I just laughed and said "sure."
Today, she walks up to me and says:
You really have to go buy some maternity shirts and wear them because your shirt is too tight and people are going to start saying things to you about it.
I informed her that I was wearing a maternity shirt and pants.
She didn't believe me. I wanted to pull that lilac gap tag out and cram it in her eye. I ran off crying, yes crying. First I was just going to hide in the bathroom...but I thought, wait, if I do that, she can say I am a baby and blah, blah, blah...so I go to HR and complained. He informed me that A-my clothes are fine, B-they are supposed to get tighter [and I checked, it is not too tight, you can't even see my bra line] and C-she had no right/place to say those things to me.
I felt better, but she still hurt my feelings. I told the HR person, if the company wants to give me $500 I'll go buy a whole new larger wardrobe but until then, I gotta wear what I've got/can afford! I also told him that I have a couple shirts that are much larger but I purposely do not wear them to work because they make me look frumpy and messy [and they do]. I wore one to work and felt like I was in PJs the whole day.
I know she's from an era where you hid being pregnant for some archaic wacked out reason, but I'm not ashamed to be all round in the middle! She actually bragged in front of me to another co-worker one day about how much weight she put on with her last child...20 pounds.  She seriously thought that was excessive!
People just s uck sometimes. Mostly I'd avoided stupid people and stupid comments in this pregnancy...but today, I guess I'd had enough of her. I feel better getting that out now.
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
Jeesh, I'm sorry that happened. I'm sure you look beautiful!
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| Posted 2/5/07 8:20 PM |
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MsMBV
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
OMG I would have slapped her. I am glad you went to HR. That is harassment.
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| Posted 2/5/07 8:26 PM |
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Tah-wee-ZAH
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
If it's any consolation my 70 year old aunt had the same things to say to me, over the phone before she even saw me
Back in their day you couldn't even say the word "pregnant", public school teachers had to quit before they were even showing and all maternity dresses/shirts had to look like they were made by a tentmaker.
I'm sure you looked great!
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| Posted 2/5/07 8:28 PM |
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
What a nosy old witch.
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| Posted 2/5/07 8:34 PM |
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raken40
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
aww...people can be so hurtful and obnoxious...i'm sorry
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| Posted 2/5/07 8:46 PM |
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snuggleupagus
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
Posted by Tah-wee-ZAH
If it's any consolation my 70 year old aunt had the same things to say to me, over the phone before she even saw me
Back in their day you couldn't even say the word "pregnant", public school teachers had to quit before they were even showing and all maternity dresses/shirts had to look like they were made by a tentmaker.
I'm sure you looked great!
exactly, i mainly attributed it to her "time" but this time it just hurt. at least DH had his great advice as usual "F 'em"
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| Posted 2/5/07 8:49 PM |
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jameswife
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
Sounds like someone's jealous their 65 and not able to have children anymore!
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| Posted 2/5/07 9:02 PM |
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WhatNow
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
If you work for a large company i would go straight to HR and tell them that that woman is overstepping her boundaries and distracting you from your office duties.
No matter how old she is, she is very annoying and you are not her relative to have to put up with it!
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| Posted 2/5/07 9:12 PM |
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skygirl
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
Don't let ignorant people upset you.
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| Posted 2/5/07 9:16 PM |
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PattyCake
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
Sweet pea, I am sure you look beautiful. And if HR doesn't have a problem with your clothes, then anyone else who does can lump it.
She is not your mother, your husband or your best friend, and her comments are inappropriate and overstep very personal boundaries. I would very politely and professionally tell her to please keep all comments relating to your pregnancy and your dressing habits to herself. She will probably be like "Hmph! Well I never!" (hey, that's a saying from her time, right?  ), but you will have spoken up for yourself and she will know you mean business.
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| Posted 2/5/07 9:31 PM |
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
You did right by going to HR. Sorry she hurt your feeling!
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| Posted 2/5/07 9:34 PM |
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
OMG - whatever - you are so tiny - you are just belly and thats it - she has NO right to be commenting on any woman's body - plain and simple - what if you were just overweight? That would be harassment....
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| Posted 2/5/07 9:42 PM |
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sometimesmommy
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
Remember some people were not in line when brains were being handed out. So sorry she hurt your feelings.
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| Posted 2/5/07 9:47 PM |
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MrsK
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
OMG!!
don't let her upset you!
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| Posted 2/5/07 9:50 PM |
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tjspidur1
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
My mother once told me pregnaunt women should be alllowed to smack three people a month during their pregnancy. Go to bed to night and have some sweet dream of a good whack across this lady's face! What a jerk!
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| Posted 2/5/07 11:44 PM |
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Porrruss
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
Ehhh- she's just jealous that you are young and just starting the biggest adventure in life- while she's only a few steps away from a dirt nap with saggy tlts.....
That's it! - when she's on one of her tirades, just imagine her standing there topless with her old, saggy boobs swaying down around her knees.....
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| Posted 2/6/07 7:31 AM |
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kitkat32
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
BIOTCH!
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| Posted 2/6/07 7:43 AM |
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MsMBV
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
Posted by tjspidur1
My mother once told me pregnaunt women should be alllowed to smack three people a month during their pregnancy. Go to bed to night and have some sweet dream of a good whack across this lady's face! What a jerk!
I like the way your mom thinks....
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| Posted 2/6/07 8:02 AM |
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MsMBV
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
Posted by Porrruss
Ehhh- she's just jealous that you are young and just starting the biggest adventure in life- while she's only a few steps away from a dirt nap with saggy tlts.....
That's it! - when she's on one of her tirades, just imagine her standing there topless with her old, saggy boobs swaying down around her knees.....
omg so wrong but so funny
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| Posted 2/6/07 8:02 AM |
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Briannasmommy
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
OMG i can't belive she said that.
I would of Cursie her out from being preggo lol.
But i'm sorry she should keep her mouth shut.
I'm sorry she said that 
Sorry this sounds baby but i hope she gets introuble
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| Posted 2/6/07 9:15 AM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
The older women tnd to be the worst. Feel better and know that she is WRONG.
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| Posted 2/6/07 9:19 AM |
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
I am so sorry! People can be so unbelievably rude. Do not feel self-conscious b/c of her. Your clothes are supposed to get tighter as you get bigger, mine did. and I understand how you feel the larger sizes make you look frumpy and not put together, I feel the same way. Next time she says something to you I would just say, "Unless you have something nice to say don't say anything at all." You should definetely put her in her place.
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| Posted 2/6/07 9:20 AM |
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Phoebee
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
I'm so sorry she upset you to the point of tears!!!
If there's one thing I've learned, is that everyone has an opinioin, esp. old ladies! She was way out of line and you know that!!! I'm sure you look gorgeous!!
someone said it best- that's a total jealous comment! If anything, secretly laugh at her! -Glad you went to HR!!!
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| Posted 2/6/07 9:42 AM |
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Faithx2
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Re: So this woman at work hurt my feelings today...
Where's the F U smiley when we need it???? In plain english SCREW HER!!!!Don't let her spoil this magical time!
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