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Kate
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
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Posted 8/9/06 8:48 AM  |
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pugmama
April already?
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Erica
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
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| Posted 8/9/06 8:49 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Beth
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
I think we've all been there... at least I know I have. Having a child is a tremendous interruption of your life -a good one, albeit - but one all the same. It takes some time and effort to find some normalcy in your relationship again, while trying to figure out your new roles as mommy and daddy... give it time and patience. For us, it took probably about 6-7 months, and in all honesty I truly think it coincided with her sleeping through the night... everyone is more cranky and irritable with lack of sleep. It's truly amazing how your outlook on life and your relationship changes with a good night's rest
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| Posted 8/9/06 9:03 AM |
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alex7-2
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alycia
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
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| Posted 8/9/06 9:06 AM |
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Freddie
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Freddie
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
Posted by 5ofClubs
Marriage for us is sooo difficult after the baby
I need some hugs please
There is a sociological study I read once that said that people rank their marriages least satisfying the first year after the first baby and the most satisfying when the last child leaves home
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| Posted 8/9/06 9:12 AM |
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AimeeE2006
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
I think it's going to take time to adjust to life after baby. (Not that I'm an expert - we don't even have a baby!)
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| Posted 8/9/06 9:49 AM |
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Faithx2
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
It def changes everything. We've all felt a strain at one time or another. Perfectly normal 
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| Posted 8/9/06 9:53 AM |
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dandr10199
Grace is growing up too fast!
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Dina
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
I could have wriiten this as well. Everything is OK, but we are more snippy with each other. Glad to see everyone responses and know that it will get better.
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| Posted 8/9/06 9:58 AM |
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betty
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| Posted 8/9/06 9:59 AM |
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Shelly
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
I think all new parents go through it.
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| Posted 8/9/06 10:28 AM |
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dld4e
I ♥ my boys!
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DJ
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
We went through a lot with our first too and believe me it does get better.
There is a lot of adjusting for the both of you and in my case my DH had a hard time with it. I think it's easier on us mommies since we carried the baby. It is tough and it will get better...don't worry you are not alone!
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| Posted 8/9/06 10:32 AM |
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Melbernai
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Melissa
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
You know --- we went through the same thing. It was hard because everything happened for us so fast ... the wedding, getting our first place together, having the baby. It was so stressful and I felt like I didn't have enough time or energy to work on our marriage and keep things good. I'd get annoyed at him but not even have the energy to bring things up and talk it out -- so it got worse.
Every once in a while you have to step back and put that time and energy into the relationship with the man you fell in love iwth and decided to spend the rest of your life with.
I think the most important thing that I learned from pre-cana is to make sure you make that time for eachother. I think I wasn't but now we really do try to, and so it's better.
Hang in there, it will get better. I think watching your wedding video is a great idea. It's rough and such a life change but in the end I am sure it'll all work out.
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| Posted 8/9/06 10:36 AM |
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Kelly529
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Kelly
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
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| Posted 8/9/06 10:38 AM |
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JRG71
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
- I've been there too. I think that even the healthiest of marriages have to go thru some bumps in road when baby arrives. As prepared as we were - it was still stressful & a huge adjustment.
We still have days when schedules get screwed up - and we get mad at each other - more like me getting mad at DH.
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| Posted 8/9/06 11:04 AM |
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antoinette
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
Posted by 5ofClubs
Marriage for us is sooo difficult after the baby
I need some hugs please
I agree, we ve been going thru some difficult times lately as well.
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| Posted 8/9/06 11:12 AM |
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mommy2bella
Where does time go?
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Kelly
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
Just remember that you love your DH...sometimes I would get so wrapped up in wanting to strangle him, I forget that I adore him for being a great daddy and (mostly ) a good DH...
And remember too, sometimes they have to be taught the right way to be...gently of course...
Take some time for yourselves, even if it's just a quick dinner out...you need to reconnect on a different level than being someone's parents...
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| Posted 8/9/06 12:30 PM |
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verdila
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
Glad to hear I am not the only one !!! We've been fighting constantly and forget intimacy - havent had that in weeks.
We have a 5 month old and I currently work 4 days a week (commute to the city), he works 5-6 days a week. We have been fighting alot lately, seems we never have time for ourselves, and we are both tired all the time even though baby sleeps through the nite (up at 6 everyday tho). It seems some days are better than others, but when I've had a bad day at work, I take it out on him and I know I shouldnt but I can't help it. I feel overwhelmed sometimes...and thats when things get bad. Like when I get home from work at 7 and there are dirty dishes in the sink, crying baby, dinner to be made....laundry to be done... it is rough.
I guess we just have to keep plugging along and know that things eventually get better.
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| Posted 8/9/06 1:15 PM |
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groovypeg
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
i hear ya! having a baby is a big adjustment. dh and i are going thru the same thing. the most important thing is to make sure you communicate with each other.
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| Posted 8/9/06 1:42 PM |
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LIMOMx2
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
Thank you all so much for your encouraging words!!!
I am hoping that once we get into some routine it will make things easier. Right now I am so stressed about how I am going to balance everything
Thank you all again
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| Posted 8/9/06 2:16 PM |
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michele31
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
I actually had to stop "all relations" with Scott for almost a year because of a medical problem I had after my c/s. It was NOT easy. Between that, my PPD and adjusting to our new life as parents it was hard at times but we still loved each other and made it thru. You will too
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| Posted 8/9/06 2:50 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
Its def. hard...
But just know its normal (or at least thats what everyone keeps telling me )
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| Posted 8/9/06 2:59 PM |
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
I feel your pain.. it is bad at sometimes.. especially now that my dh started his new jobs we see each other for about an hour and then he is off to bed and everything is left for me..
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| Posted 8/9/06 4:42 PM |
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MrsJ
I love my Katie Bug
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Kathy
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
I'm sorry! DH and I have been really stressed lately too and its normal to take it out on each other. Talk it over and make it a point to change how you are with each other...it helps. Get out for a date night - or day - too just the 2 of you
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| Posted 8/9/06 4:45 PM |
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tiki03
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| Posted 8/9/06 5:30 PM |
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Tracey
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Re: So much stress between DH and I...
I think we've all gone through it or are going through it now. hang in there, it does get better.
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