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christy
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shower given by DH?
Did anyone have their baby shower thrown by their DH?
Is it considered tacky?
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Re: shower given by DH?
I think it's a great idea, very thoughtful 
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| Posted 2/28/06 4:57 PM |
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MrsSchwags
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Re: shower given by DH?
I never heard of that, but it definitely takes a real man to plan a shower.
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| Posted 2/28/06 5:00 PM |
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LuvMy2Girls
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Re: shower given by DH?
I am sorry, but IMO if your DH throws you a shower, you guys are still same family, very tacky and looks like you are fishing for gifts.
very sweet of him, but tacky IMHO
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| Posted 2/28/06 5:14 PM |
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christy
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Re: shower given by DH?
I am not pg, I just wondered how people viewed it....
My bridal shower was thrown by my grandfather and bridal party,,,
I dont really have a mom, and my MIL would never do it. I was just curious...
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| Posted 2/28/06 5:24 PM |
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justme1
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Re: shower given by DH?
I think in this day and age anything goes..
Everyone deserves a shower if they want one.. its not like DH is giving you a party thats unheard of..
I dont think it looks like hes asking for gifts anymore then if your mom or MIL planned it..
I think it is soooooooo thoughtful of him and I think every woman thats invited is going to think the same thing 
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| Posted 2/28/06 5:25 PM |
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TwoGirls4Me
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Re: shower given by DH?
Posted by IslandGrl
I think in this day and age anything goes..
Everyone deserves a shower if they want one.. its not like DH is giving you a party thats unheard of..
I dont think it looks like hes asking for gifts anymore then if your mom or MIL planned it..
I think it is soooooooo thoughtful of him and I think every woman thats invited is going to think the same thing
well said.... i think its an adorable idea and would NEVER consider it tacky... i mean a shower is given to "shower" the bride to be or mom to be with gifts, so no matter who gives it, its kind of like looking for gifts anyway... no?
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DRMom
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Re: shower given by DH?
I think you should do whatever you feel comfortable with. Come on when your sister throws you a shower is it for any other reason than to defray the cost of baby items and celebrate the birth of your child. I don't see how having DH throw it is any different. If you invite your closest friends and family and they feel like that then they $uck and you need new ones. Theres no need to say who is hosting it anyway really.
Exotica I just read what you said...exactly what I mean
Message edited 2/28/2006 5:28:25 PM.
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Re: shower given by DH?
I think its also nice because there is no shift of costs to someone else to pay for the while thing....in some ways its kinda like paying for your own wedding in that respect i think !!!
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| Posted 2/28/06 5:37 PM |
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justme1
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Re: shower given by DH?
Posted by wowcoulditbe
I think its also nice because there is no shift of costs to someone else to pay for the while thing....in some ways its kinda like paying for your own wedding in that respect i think !!!
Yea, thats why I think its thoughful..DH is spending his OWN money for his OWN gifts.
Thats why I dont see how anyone would consier it tacky
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My DH did this for me. This is only because of issues with my mom and that he wanted to make sure that his family and my family did the planning and not just her. My MIL helped him with alot of it but the invites did say it was thrown by him.
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Re: shower given by DH?
I think that is a sweet, loving gesture. Especially if it's from a MAN! I'm sorry, but even if someone's FH threw them a bridal shower, I would just assume that their FH must really love them a lot to go through that trouble. I can't imagine why this would be tacky. Showers, in general, they're about the gifts, I think people know and accept that nowadays.
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I'm sure that anyone who knows your situation would understand why he's throwing it. That's sweet that he wants you to have a shower and is willing to take on the work. You are very lucky to have such a loving DH!
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| Posted 2/28/06 5:45 PM |
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I don't think it is tacky at all
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CookiePuss
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Re: shower given by DH?
I don't think it's tacky at all. I know of two couples where DH threw the shower. The shower is for you, becoming a first time mother and the baby. I don't think anyone is going to think it's tacky either.
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MrsJ
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Re: shower given by DH?
DH is helping out financially and paing about half the cost for everything. I dont think its tacky.
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Re: shower given by DH?
Posted by sweetness
I am sorry, but IMO if your DH throws you a shower, you guys are still same family, very tacky and looks like you are fishing for gifts.
very sweet of him, but tacky IMHO
People know showers are for gifts and MOST showers I have been to....scratch that, ALL baby showers I have ever been to have been thrown by someone related to the mom to be.
Is this just the circle I run with? where family throws the shower, I mean.
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Re: shower given by DH?
Posted by DebG
Posted by sweetness
I am sorry, but IMO if your DH throws you a shower, you guys are still same family, very tacky and looks like you are fishing for gifts.
very sweet of him, but tacky IMHO
People know showers are for gifts and MOST showers I have been to....scratch that, ALL baby showers I have ever been to have been thrown by someone related to the mom to be.
Is this just the circle I run with? where family throws the shower, I mean.
I don't think its tacky at all!!
all the showers I have been to (A LOT) have all been thrown by a family member,
maybe not the DH but what's the difference
I think most people would think its sweet
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Re: shower given by DH?
I do not think it is tacky in any way.
Honestly, I think it is incredibly sweet.
I also just asked my DH how he felt about it and he thought that was very sweet and thoughtful as well.
He also said what an awesome guy, cause he would never be able to do it 
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Re: shower given by DH?
i think it's sweet...
i'm not having one, but would be really touched if DH ever organized something like that for me 
i think people who are viewed as "just doing it for gifts" will look like that no matter who throws the party.
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I don't think its tacky at all and I am sure all of those close to you that would be at the shower will know your mom situation and wouldn't even think twice about it. Honestly even if I didn't know I wouldn't think twice about it. Everyone deserves a shower and gifts, who cares who throws it.
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| Posted 2/28/06 9:10 PM |
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christy
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Re: shower given by DH?
Thanks for the wonderful responses. Like I said, we aren't pg, but I don't have the normal family situation, so these crazy things cross my mind a lot. Dh did a lot to make my bridal shower special, and I just know he would do this for me when the time comes....
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Re: shower given by DH?
I think it's very sweet 
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monkeybride
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Re: shower given by DH?
Posted by christy
Thanks for the wonderful responses. Like I said, we aren't pg, but I don't have the normal family situation, so these crazy things cross my mind a lot. Dh did a lot to make my bridal shower special, and I just know he would do this for me when the time comes....
I think its wonderful that you have a sensitive and thoughtful DH like that!! 
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LuvMy2Girls
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Re: shower given by DH?
Posted by maybaby
Posted by DebG
Posted by sweetness
I am sorry, but IMO if your DH throws you a shower, you guys are still same family, very tacky and looks like you are fishing for gifts.
very sweet of him, but tacky IMHO
People know showers are for gifts and MOST showers I have been to....scratch that, ALL baby showers I have ever been to have been thrown by someone related to the mom to be.
Is this just the circle I run with? where family throws the shower, I mean.
I don't think its tacky at all!!
all the showers I have been to (A LOT) have all been thrown by a family member,
maybe not the DH but what's the difference
I think most people would think its sweet
Well i guess I am the minority here on this one but's its okay and I will prob get flamed for it but
yes, showers are about presents, but your DH throwing a shower would like throwing a shower for yourself. Why not just send out invites to your home and tell people to bring a gift or cash for your bundle of joy. Technically, and etiquette wise, MIL's mothers, sisters, etc arent even suppose to throw you a shower since they are related. IMHO, you aren't suppose to "shower" yourself with gifts.
This is just how I feel, when the time comes everyone does what is best for them.
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