Question about telling people

So I remember someone once on here said that if they were asked directly if they were pregnant, and they were, they wouldn't want to lie b/c it would feel weird to deny the pregnancy. I thought about this and I think I feel the same way. So when you get your BFP, if you turn down a drink or something and someone says are you pregnant, are you going to say no or try to make up an excuse or joke. I figure if I say Who knows, or Just not feeling good, I'm not actually saying no. KWIM or am I just crazy?

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I was pregnant for 4 1/2 months which ended tragically a few days ago... In the first few months, I was asked if I was pregnant before I was ready to come out with the news. I felt like it was "wrong" to deny a pregnancy like you were saying, so I always just said yes if someone approached me. Since this happened at work, the word got around way sooner than I was prepared for.

I always thought it was bad karma or something if you deny it .. well .. I did everything right- and look what happened. So, I no longer believe in that. This time around, if I am asked before I am comfortable sharing, I will say no. Then when I'm ready I'll come out with the news. The experience we just went through has made me way too paranoid to share the news before 16/20 wks .. but I get that my situation is unique and others will be bursting at the seams by 12wks!

Remember- when you tell one person, you are never just telling ONE person. It gets around. Trust me. Just make sure when you do share the news, that you are comfortable going public with it!

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Hmm, good question. I dont drink so if I turned down a drink it wouldnt be unusual. However, if I were in that situation and someone said why are you pregnant? I would prob. giggle and say, "I just dont feel well " or something like that, kinda avoiding the actual question

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well this is the approach that I used. .I don't feel comfortable lying (unless it's someone I don't care about) so I say "Too soon to tell - I'll let you know in a month or two" which makes them think you don't know yet but you might be but is true - it is too soon to tell. .. or just tell them to MYOB!

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definitley never thought about it... i guess i cant really say unless im in the position... i will try to avoid the situations where i would have to lie...

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honestly, I think I would have to lie. If I was passing up drinks people would probably question it and I would just have to make something up about not feeling well or something.

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I was actually just thinking about this last night b/c I was at a party and my group of friends and I are pretty much all drinkers. We aren't trying yet and eveyone is already asking so I really don't want to let ppl know when we are trying (Right I just laugh & say that we are thinking about possibly trying sometime in 2011). So my game plan (as of now) is to deny - deny - deny & let them know that I am just slowing down my life style b/c we are planning to start trying. Who knows I could possibly feel different when we actually are preggers but right now I cant seem myself feeling bad about denying it.

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Thanks ladies, and PennyCat again I am so sorry. Thank you for sharing with us, I can't imagine the pain you are in. And you are right there is nothing you can say that will or will not prevent mc. No matter what you say, people will guess and rumors will fly, it's just human nature I guess.

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i plan to lie lie lie... as best as i can. i am not the best liar

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I went to a party before I was ready to tell and I grabbed a beer and emptied half into the sink right away and held it the whole night.


I once asked my friend if her sister was pregnant at a party and she turned to me and saaid "what makes you think that?" and it was enough of a jedi mind trick to make me not question anymore - but she was preggo and my friend knew.