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Rycois
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reggie
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Re: So upset....
Posted by SweetCaroline
DH just called to tell me his sister is pregnant. She lives out of town so he told her I would call to congratulate her, but I can't. I want to crawl into a hole. She doesn't know about my m/c and has a tendency to be insensitive. so I can't stomach talking to her.
I'm happy for her, but devastated for me.
UGHHHHH 
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| Posted 4/19/07 12:33 PM |
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babyhopeful
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Re: So upset....
I'm so sorry, that's really hard 
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| Posted 4/19/07 12:41 PM |
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octoberbride
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Re: So upset....
That is really hard. I'm so sorry...
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| Posted 4/19/07 1:15 PM |
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lululu
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Re: So upset....
I am so sorry! I hate having to congratulate others on their pregnancy even when the people are sensitive and I have never had a MC.
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| Posted 4/19/07 1:17 PM |
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Akajt98
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Re: So upset....
You have every right to be upset. I would recommend calling her when you know she isn't home and just leave a quick message that says something like "just heard the good news, congratulations, speak to you soon". That way you don't have to talk to her, but did your good deed.
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| Posted 4/19/07 1:18 PM |
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princess99
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Re: So upset....
I just went thru this and it is hard. It is so hard not to feel envious of why could it not be me.... I keep telling myself just like everyone around me was getting married and I wasn't yet, and I was till dating, and then I met DH. It will happen, you got to keep telling yourself that. I just went thru this and I think the person was afarid to tell me becuase she knew I was probably upset and I was.I congratulated her and got off the phone rather quickly, then a day or so later I called her again and told her how ahappy I was for her. I think it had to sink in... I am better now, but still wish I was the one with the BFP. Feel free to FM mail me if you need to talk.
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Rycois
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Re: So upset....
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| Posted 4/19/07 1:23 PM |
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princess99
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Re: So upset....
Send a card then you do not have to call her.... Just a suggestion.
HTH
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| Posted 4/19/07 1:28 PM |
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MST9106
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Re: So upset....
Posted by Akajt98
You have every right to be upset. I would recommend calling her when you know she isn't home and just leave a quick message that says something like "just heard the good news, congratulations, speak to you soon". That way you don't have to talk to her, but did your good deed.
ITA. I don't think you should have your husband call and tell her what you went through...especially since you claim that she has tendencies to be insensitive...just call her when she most likely is not home and leave a quick happy message.
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| Posted 4/19/07 1:29 PM |
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princess99
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Re: So upset....
I would not tell her anything you do not want to share about your TTC issues. It is really none of her business unless you want her to know.
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| Posted 4/19/07 1:29 PM |
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BellaRock
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Re: So upset....
Posted by Akajt98
You have every right to be upset. I would recommend calling her when you know she isn't home and just leave a quick message that says something like "just heard the good news, congratulations, speak to you soon". That way you don't have to talk to her, but did your good deed.
That's a good idea. Something I would do in that situation.
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| Posted 4/19/07 1:29 PM |
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Rycois
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Re: So upset....
Posted by princess99
I would not tell her anything you do not want to share about your TTC issues. It is really none of her business unless you want her to know.
Not thrilled about telling - def. not at this point, but I'm not sure I can take the comments she is bound to make if she doesn't know. Plus, she'll be in town in a couple of wks - and I'll probably burst into tears when I see her.
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| Posted 4/19/07 1:31 PM |
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apb17
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Re: So upset....
I know your pain-I've been there...
Take as much time as you need to heal then when you are ready you can share your info (if you want, if your ready)
Thinking of you!!
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| Posted 4/19/07 1:39 PM |
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LuckySV
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Re: So upset....
Posted by SweetCaroline
My mom suggests my DH call her to explain that I send my congratulations but .... (explain our situation) and will talk to her when I'm ready.
What do you think? Is that fair? I don't want to ruin her news with this downer, but I don't want her to think I'm a biaotch for not calling.
Personally, I wouldn't tell her anything you're not comfortable with.
It's really tough for you. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.
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| Posted 4/19/07 1:42 PM |
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Rycois
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Re: So upset....
Posted by abutterfly1123
Posted by Akajt98
You have every right to be upset. I would recommend calling her when you know she isn't home and just leave a quick message that says something like "just heard the good news, congratulations, speak to you soon". That way you don't have to talk to her, but did your good deed.
That's a good idea. Something I would do in that situation.
If I do that, she'll just call me back at work (she only calls me here b/c of the time difference to where she is). I can't handle a call with her at the office.
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| Posted 4/19/07 1:49 PM |
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DancinBarefoot
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Re: So upset....
No advice beyond what was already offered, but I do have .
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| Posted 4/19/07 2:14 PM |
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Akajt98
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Re: So upset....
Posted by SweetCaroline
Posted by abutterfly1123
Posted by Akajt98
You have every right to be upset. I would recommend calling her when you know she isn't home and just leave a quick message that says something like "just heard the good news, congratulations, speak to you soon". That way you don't have to talk to her, but did your good deed.
That's a good idea. Something I would do in that situation.
If I do that, she'll just call me back at work (she only calls me here b/c of the time difference to where she is). I can't handle a call with her at the office.
Any chance you have caller ID at work and can avoid the call?
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Rycois
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Re: So upset....
Posted by Akajt98
Posted by SweetCaroline
Posted by abutterfly1123
Posted by Akajt98
You have every right to be upset. I would recommend calling her when you know she isn't home and just leave a quick message that says something like "just heard the good news, congratulations, speak to you soon". That way you don't have to talk to her, but did your good deed.
That's a good idea. Something I would do in that situation.
If I do that, she'll just call me back at work (she only calls me here b/c of the time difference to where she is). I can't handle a call with her at the office.
Any chance you have caller ID at work and can avoid the call?
Nope.
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MrsPornStar
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Re: So upset....
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2girlsforme
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Re: So upset....
Just a lurker, but I have been there. How about just writing her a note or e-mail as a prior poster said.
Hope you feel betetr.
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| Posted 4/19/07 3:07 PM |
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christy
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Re: So upset....
I 100% understand how you feel. I had an early m/c in October. I am telling you within days of it happening to me I found out 6 yes 6 friends and family member were pregnant. I was a mess! The only thing I can tell you, is to call only if you feel you can handle it. And I promise the pain does get better....
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LuvMy2Girls
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Re: So upset....
So sorry
Def don't tell her about your situation if you arent comfy about it.
Can Dh call or send a congratulatory hallmark card from the both of you maybe?
It's hard, i know
Down the road when the pain isn't so there you can explain to her the why behind it.
It took me about a year to talk about my loss and tell people outside of my immediate family about it. Some still don't even know.
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HoneyBadger
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Re: So upset....
Posted by SweetCaroline
DH just called to tell me his sister is pregnant. She lives out of town so he told her I would call to congratulate her, but I can't. I want to crawl into a hole. She doesn't know about my m/c and has a tendency to be insensitive. so I can't stomach talking to her.
I'm happy for her, but devastated for me.
UGHHHHH
Ugh, I'm sorry... I don't think you need to call her right away. Wait until you feel up to having the conversation with her.
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| Posted 4/19/07 10:32 PM |
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Wishing4ababy
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Re: So upset....
I'm so sorry! I know exactly how you feel. My BF that just got married in October just told me she is pregnant. I was absolutely devasted when I found out, but I did call her and congratulate her and her husband, even know it took everything out of me. I would not recommend you calling your SIL, I would probably just send her a card, because now I have to hear every little pain and morning sickness that she has. It's terrible, and I really want to be happy for her and be there for her, but just right now I can't. It's really hard! Good Luck and feel better. 
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