Moms of kids entering Kindergarten or btdt

I am really freaking out about sending my dd to Kindergarten in 3 weeks. I can't believe its almost here. I get so sad thinking about not seeing her for 6 hours a day. I know she has to go to school but my heart is breaking letting her go. The last 5 years I've spent everyday caring for her, protecting her, and now I won't be there for it all. Its really killing me. It doesn't help that I'm sending my youngest to preschool too. I'll be all alone for 2.5 hours 3 days a week. I have no idea what I'll do with my time lol. Does/did anyone else feel like this? A lot of my mom friends are so excited for school.

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this was me last year... And I almost held him back!!! We went through a lot last Spring and I wasn't ready to give him up... He had always been home with me and now I was sending him off to school for 6 hours a day.... In the end, it was the best thing for him... Today he was telling me he misses school... I am now not ready to send him to 1st grade...

Moms of kids entering Kindergarten or btdt

I'm in the same position. DS is going to K and DD2 is going to a class 3x a week for 2 hours. I'm happy but sad all at the same time

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I am not btdt and my dd is only 3 and not going to preschool this year, but we want her to go to preschool somewhere when she is 4, but I can understand how you feel because I am already dreading sending her to preschool and missing out. I hate the idea of her being in school and not being able to witness everything and hear all her little comments to things. I want to home school, but I won't. I am an elementary school teacher (or was before a SAHM) and know how fun and important it can be for the kids. I still can't help but feel lonely and sad for myself when she does go!

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My kids aren't going to K until next year but the twins are going to pre-k this year and my youngest is going to pre school. I'll have 4 days a week 2.5 hours a day to myself. I'm more anxious that my baby is starting school than anything. I know I'll keep busy for those 2.5 hours and they'll go quickly. But I get your anxiety about sending her to K. I have a whole year and I'm already freaking out about them going to K next year. I lay in bed all night and think about it. What if they want to separate the twins (this is my biggest anxiety because I do not want that and they do not want to be separated), what if they need me, what if another kid is mean to my kid and they get upset, what if my kid is mean to another kid, what if something happens? I literally lay in bed at night thinking these things and I have a YEAR before my kids go. It's always harder on us than it is on the kids

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I'm not going to lie, it was REALLY, REALLY hard sending my DD off to Kindergarten. It's honestly broke my heart and I cried that ENTIRE day and EVERY day after for the first week. It was such an adjustment for me to go from being with her 24/7 for 5 years to then sending her off, not knowing what she was doing all day, and just hoping she was happy and being well cared for. It was a VERY difficult time for me when she went off to school BUT the good news is, in time you get use to it.

After seeing how happy she was and how much fun she was having in school it made it a lot easier to put her on the bus every morning and I moved past the sadness of it all. I also felt like it made the time I did have with her when she wasn't in school that much more precious and special. She's starting 2nd grade this year and it's amazing how different you feel once they have been going to school for a while, the sadness and stress of it all is gone and now I'm just excited for her every year.

Hang in there, it will be sad but you will get through it!!

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I feel VERY much the same I am so upset about kindergarten being a full day thing. When I was a kid I only went half day and figured it would be the same for my children. I'm also a SAHM so going from being with her 24-7 to missing that much of her day is just hard. Meanwhile DD is so excited to start school. lol. Go figure. For us, however, kindergarten doesn't begin until 2016 so I decided to put her into part time preschool this year so that the transition will be easier. I just imagine her going from being home with me all day to being in school 6 hrs a day, 5 days a week! Ugh. So hopefully doing preschool 3hrs a day, 3 days a week will help us both transition. But regardless, I'm DREADING her beginning preschool even. I know it's the best thing for her, that the transition is important, and that she needs to begin kindergarten on time (emotionally, socially, & intellectually she's just READY). But it's still hard for me. I'll die the first time she gets on a big yellow school bus. Oh Lord - I'm becoming one of "those" parents. lmao. I just hate sending her off into this scary world.

(ETA - this is one reason I'm truly grateful for the age gap in my kids. DS is due in December. So sending one off to school, I still at least have a few years before the other grows up too. lol. I keep thinking how hard it'll be when graduation and college comes around. At least there will be time between each. Ugh. All this growing up nonsense. haha. I don't like it).

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Omg I'm having a breakdown about this. I work and he goes to daycare but I'm so worried he won't know what to do and they won't help him like they do at daycare. It doesn't help that he has to be bussed to aftercare and I'm afraid he will get lost. I keep picturing them letting him out of the classroom and him just being completely lost not knowing what to do. I'm very stressed about this!

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I feel the same. I'll still have my youngest- but my oldest is going to K, my middle will be in pre-k 3x a week for 2.5 hours.

To make matters worse, our district did some major re-orginization so the teachers she met last year through the school's pre-k are no longer there! And there's no orientation, just a day to drop off supplies when the teachers "should" be there. It makes me so angry. We won't have the teacher assignments until 8/19.

It's such a mess and DD is so nervous

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Posted by Hofstra26

I'm not going to lie, it was REALLY, REALLY hard sending my DD off to Kindergarten. It's honestly broke my heart and I cried that ENTIRE day and EVERY day after for the first week. It was such an adjustment for me to go from being with her 24/7 for 5 years to then sending her off, not knowing what she was doing all day, and just hoping she was happy and being well cared for. It was a VERY difficult time for me when she went off to school BUT the good news is, in time you get use to it.

After seeing how happy she was and how much fun she was having in school it made it a lot easier to put her on the bus every morning and I moved past the sadness of it all. I also felt like it made the time I did have with her when she wasn't in school that much more precious and special. She's starting 2nd grade this year and it's amazing how different you feel once they have been going to school for a while, the sadness and stress of it all is gone and now I'm just excited for her every year.

Hang in there, it will be sad but you will get through it!!

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Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by Garden-of-Eden



(ETA - this is one reason I'm truly grateful for the age gap in my kids. DS is due in December. So sending one off to school, I still at least have a few years before the other grows up too. lol. I keep thinking how hard it'll be when graduation and college comes around. At least there will be time between each. Ugh. All this growing up nonsense. haha. I don't like it).

So funny you said this because I was SO thankful I had my DS a few months before my DD started school. It was nice having one home with me still, I liked having the distraction. It was good to be able to focus on him all day and give him lots of attention and love, it made happy. If I didn't have my DS when my DD went off to Kindergarten I don't think I would've have survived. The house was SO quiet after she went to school, even with a newborn in the house.

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I'm in the same boat but we actually held my son back last year bc he wasn't ready for K. Now he will be 6, yet it's still tugging at my heart. I can't believe the time has come that he will be gone all day. I've been with him 24/7 the last 5.5 years. I'm nervous on how he will handle the adjustment too

My youngest who just turned 5 & we are withholding is doing prek too 3x a week. I'm not as nervous with that

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I know exactly how you feel. I was heartbroken when both my kids went to kindergarten and I know I will be dropping them both off at school in a few weeks- first grade and fourth.

I think its completely normal. These are our babies - our reason for being. So to entrust someone with them for a full day is hard. I have to say that I did cry every day for the first week but once I saw how happy DS and DD were when they were at school it made it a little easier. They really have SO much fun in kindergarten. What made it easier for me was to volunteer in my son's classroom every week to read with the kids and he LOVEd counting down the days until I came in. I also did a special craft with the class every season. His teacher was very good at communicating so if DS came home with s story that I was wondering about I would shoot her a quick email and she would always respond that evening.

Its hard but it will become a new normal for you and your son will do great and so will you - it might take some time but you will get there - also I find that I really really really appreciate the weekends and holidays more during the school year as I get the kids all to myself

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You know what really bothered me about DS gking to K last year? Having to leave him at the front door to fend for hinself. I was scared he'd get lost or scared in the big halls all alone without me. First day i actually walked the length of the front of the school to the K wing and peeked into the doors to make sure he got there! But after a while i just let him go and then there were friends saying HI and he'd run away from me to them and just yell BYE MOM!! It hurt my heart but at the same time it filled me such happiness that he was ok!

I think its harder for the mommies than it is for the kids lol!

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I'm definitely with you! I have 3 kids (5, 3, and 1) and all have come to daycare in the preschool where I work since 3/4 months old. So even though I work and they are in daycare, I see them constantly. Now my first baby is going to be in kindergarten and it is breaking my heart. This is his last week in daycare and I've been so emotional with all his "lasts" this week. He loves learning new things and I know he is going to be so happy in kindergarten. It is tearing me up though. It feels like it's the first (of many) big "letting go" we have to do as parents.

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Awww!
I am so excited for DS (he's excited too!!!).
But... I WFT & DS has been in preschool.
I do remember when I started him in preschool & he didn't want to come home.

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My dd is super excited to go to K. Me, on the other hand have been waking up with a pain in my chest every day thinking of her starting school. she starts 3 weeks from today!

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I will have both girls in school full time come September. I'm both looking forward to it and dreading it. I know dd will rock kindergarten, but she's my last baby so that part is bittersweet.

I'm just hoping to get a routine down quickly to make the morning go smoothly. I don't go to work until 12, so I'm not worried so much about that. Just lunches and backpackes, homework, Etc..

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I am so deep in denial that I couldn't even really respond to this post for days because I didn't want to even think about it.

DD has been in daycare since 8 weeks old for 10 hours a day- 3 days a week. I work FT.

So it's not the being away from her that bothers me so much. It's the thought of her going on that goddamned bus. Like I put her on a bus and I ASSUME she made it to school? I ASSUME she found her class? I'm sorry but she's a baby. No. I can't

She has been in the safety and warmth of the most amazing daycare center for 5 years and the thought of her leaving there is really, honestly enough to make me want to just home school her.

I can't.

And now I'm crying

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Posted by NervousNell

I am so deep in denial that I couldn't even really respond to this post for days because I didn't want to even think about it.

DD has been in daycare since 8 weeks old for 10 hours a day- 3 days a week. I work FT.

So it's not the being away from her that bothers me so much. It's the thought of her going on that goddamned bus. Like I put her on a bus and I ASSUME she made it to school? I ASSUME she found her class? I'm sorry but she's a baby. No. I can't

She has been in the safety and warmth of the most amazing daycare center for 5 years and the thought of her leaving there is really, honestly enough to make me want to just home school her.

I can't.

And now I'm crying