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LightUpOurLife
Totally in love
Member since 8/06 12785 total posts
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Bonnie-Jean
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
Posted by Tilde
it actually makes me smile
Me too. 
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Superkat
More a stranger than a friend
Member since 5/06 9730 total posts
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K
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
Doesn't bother me whatsoever. I have bigger fish to fry. 
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| Posted 4/24/08 9:50 PM |
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steph4777
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Member since 5/05 11726 total posts
Name:
Stephanie
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
Posted by emilain
Posted by johnsae
I don't care about that kind of stuff. Life's too short.
Ditto, not even worth a thought in my mind
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| Posted 4/24/08 10:57 PM |
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Palebride
I am an amazing bakist
Member since 5/05 13673 total posts
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Lori
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
It does annoy me a little. I love having my husband's last name....but I never took his first name - I have one of my own. And I think it's a little sexist to identify the woman by her husband's name.
But it doesn't ruin my day - I just think it's old fashioned and annoying.
My grandmother is very old-fashioned and I used to address letters to my grandparents as Mrs. and Mr. Her First and last name. Just to annoy her.
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| Posted 4/24/08 11:21 PM |
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HoneyBadger
YourWorstNightmare.
Member since 10/06 15979 total posts
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BahBahBlackJeep
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
Posted by Palebride
It does annoy me a little. I love having my husband's last name....but I never took his first name - I have one of my own. And I think it's a little sexist to identify the woman by her husband's name.
But it doesn't ruin my day - I just think it's old fashioned and annoying.
My grandmother is very old-fashioned and I used to address letters to my grandparents as Mrs. and Mr. Her First and last name. Just to annoy her.
That's exactly how I feel. It's not earth shattering for me and yes, there are bigger issues in this world than how someone addresses an envelope to me, but it's just one of those strange pet peeves of mine.
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| Posted 4/24/08 11:33 PM |
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Palebride
I am an amazing bakist
Member since 5/05 13673 total posts
Name:
Lori
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
Posted by Jennie0898
Posted by Palebride
It does annoy me a little. I love having my husband's last name....but I never took his first name - I have one of my own. And I think it's a little sexist to identify the woman by her husband's name.
But it doesn't ruin my day - I just think it's old fashioned and annoying.
My grandmother is very old-fashioned and I used to address letters to my grandparents as Mrs. and Mr. Her First and last name. Just to annoy her.
That's exactly how I feel. It's not earth shattering for me and yes, there are bigger issues in this world than how someone addresses an envelope to me, but it's just one of those strange pet peeves of mine.
Exactly - it's a strange pet peeve...like at a wedding when the officiant announces the couple MAN and wife....
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| Posted 4/24/08 11:55 PM |
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GoldenRod
10 years on LIF!
Member since 11/06 26792 total posts
Name:
Shawn
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
Posted by Palebride
Exactly - it's a strange pet peeve...like at a wedding when the officiant announces the couple MAN and wife....
It bothered DW and I too. That's why we made sure that our ceremony had "Husband and Wife", not the "Man and Wife" quote.
We also walked down the aisle together. She had real issues with the traditional "Father passing ownership of daughter to her new man" idea....
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| Posted 4/25/08 7:32 AM |
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sfp0701
Liam's Mommy!
Member since 1/07 9764 total posts
Name:
Tricia
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
No but it bothers my bff Lisa (Lesse) so my dh loves to screw with her and addresses things in mean ways..
 I can't remember any off the top of my head.. but my dh can be quite funny.. or at least he thinks so.
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| Posted 4/25/08 7:52 AM |
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
Nope, I just tell them it's Janet... Miss Jackson if yer NASTY...
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| Posted 4/25/08 7:56 AM |
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J9-13
We're gonna be big sisters!
Member since 6/06 14887 total posts
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J9
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
Nope doesn't bother me. It did make me  when my Aunt sent a card to DH for his birthday addressed:
Mr. John Carney (MY maiden name!!!)
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| Posted 4/25/08 8:56 AM |
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JennZ
MY LIFE!!
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
nope
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| Posted 4/25/08 8:57 AM |
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bicosi
life is a carousel
Member since 7/07 14956 total posts
Name:
M
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
Posted by johnsae
I don't care about that kind of stuff. Life's too short.
Agreed.
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| Posted 4/25/08 9:01 AM |
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watersdeb04
Back to school is here
Member since 12/07 1052 total posts
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Deb
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
It bothers me but technically that is the proper ettiquette.
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| Posted 4/25/08 9:02 AM |
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TheWhiteRabbit
Thru the rabbit hole!
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
Posted by Tilde
it actually makes me smile
Me too. I am a strong independent woman. I am also a wife. My identity is not defined by a name but by my actions.
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| Posted 4/25/08 9:06 AM |
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TheWhiteRabbit
Thru the rabbit hole!
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
Posted by MrsF519
Nope doesn't bother me. It did make me when my Aunt sent a card to DH for his birthday addressed:
Mr. John Carney (MY maiden name!!!)
I have one for you - my aunt sent us our Christmas card this past year (we were married over a year before) to Mr. & Mrs. Dean (MY EX BOYFRIEND'S LAST NAME) 
Must be an aunt thing.
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| Posted 4/25/08 9:07 AM |
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J9-13
We're gonna be big sisters!
Member since 6/06 14887 total posts
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J9
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
Posted by KittyTheStray
Posted by MrsF519
Nope doesn't bother me. It did make me when my Aunt sent a card to DH for his birthday addressed:
Mr. John Carney (MY maiden name!!!)
I have one for you - my aunt sent us our Christmas card this past year (we were married over a year before) to Mr. & Mrs. Dean (MY EX BOYFRIEND'S LAST NAME)
Must be an aunt thing.
OH SNAP!!!
Yeah, you win! That is pretty bad.
I agree...must be an Aunt thang! 
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| Posted 4/25/08 9:13 AM |
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MsMBV
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Member since 5/05 28602 total posts
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Me
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
Posted by Bluepixie
.. someone addresses something to you alone and on the card/letter it is worded as
"Mrs. Joe Smith"
as though you have no identity but just that you are only an extension of your DH and not your own individual self?
I can see "Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith" - that's formal but to address something leaving out your first name entirely?
It does a little. I know it is proper formal ettiquite, but it irks me for the same reason you mentioned.
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| Posted 4/25/08 9:19 AM |
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Wendy
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
Posted by headoverheels
no i like it actually  i am kind of a traditionalist when it comes to that stuff
Me too.
I do laugh when I think that my mother used to have an A&S charge card with Mrs Henry G C**** on it.
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| Posted 4/25/08 9:21 AM |
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MrsRivera
2 under 2...whew!!
Member since 2/07 9876 total posts
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Beth
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
It doesn't bother me in the least. Now as someone said above, if I had opted to keep my maiden name, that would really bother me. But for me, that's who I am now.
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| Posted 4/26/08 7:17 PM |
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Carolyn
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Member since 5/07 5351 total posts
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Twin mommy
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
It doesn't bother me - just seems a little old fashioned (although I know it is proper etiquette).
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| Posted 4/26/08 7:37 PM |
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Goldi0218
My miracles!
Member since 12/05 23902 total posts
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Leslie
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
On our wedding invitation, since my mother was a widow who hosted, it read "Mrs. My Father's first name and last name". She retains that moniker until and unless she remarries. It was a great way to honor my father without the gloomy-ness of saying "the late....."
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| Posted 4/26/08 7:41 PM |
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babyfaith
Onward and Upward!
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
I does bother me. In fact, I have been married for a year and haven't officially changed my name on any of my documents. I have an issue with my name esp. since I was married once before, changed my name, and had to then change it back to my maiden name when we got divorced.
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| Posted 4/26/08 7:46 PM |
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Sneezy
Thankful for my miracle!
Member since 5/05 1939 total posts
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Jen
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
It aggrivates me to no end. At times it makes me wish I had kept my own damned last name. I feel THAT strongly about it being an insult.
I took his last name, not his first name.
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| Posted 4/26/08 8:22 PM |
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Jackie24
~We Did it~
Member since 7/06 6718 total posts
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Jackie
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
nope
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| Posted 4/26/08 8:23 PM |
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wannabemom
look who's freshly baked!
Member since 12/07 7364 total posts
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aka marriedinportjeff
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Re: Ladies... Does it bother you when...
oh I HATE it....
I never changed my name, and I have a PhD. Both my family and DH's send me cards labeled Mrs. John Smith instead of Dr. Jane Doe
I told DH (who is in grad school and is about to get the exact same degree that I have) that the sh!t will hit the fan after his graduation if they begin addressing cards Dr. and Mrs. John Smith....
I give it a 50/50 chance they'll pull that.... 'oh honey, isn't it great? you're a Dr. and a Mrs!
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