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Is it ok to donate hand me downs you don't plan to use?

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Bridex100
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Is it ok to donate hand me downs you don't plan to use?

My older kids are 5 and 7 so most of our friends are done having kids. I have received a ridiculous amount of hand me downs - gear, toys and clothes. Half the stuff we can use. Half the stuff we probably won't use.

Is it ok to donate?
Should I offer to give items back?

Like I don't need my friend's old high chair or breast pump.

Posted 12/10/16 6:23 PM
 
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nycgirl
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Re: Is it ok to donate hand me downs you don't plan to use?

Call them and ask.
They should be able to donate if you don't need the items.
I give items away if I know someone who needs them directly... but I take the donation and tax write off if I don't.

Posted 12/10/16 6:45 PM
 

Disneygirl17
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Re: Is it ok to donate hand me downs you don't plan to use?

I told whimever I gave the items to. That If they don't want them to give them away, sell them whatever they wanted. There was nothing I wanted back.

Posted 12/10/16 8:19 PM
 

olive98
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Is it ok to donate hand me downs you don't plan to use?

Don't take what you don't want. Yes just donate them

Posted 12/10/16 9:08 PM
 

janedoe
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Re: Is it ok to donate hand me downs you don't plan to use?

I called the person and asked them if they wanted it back or not
if the answer was no I donated

Posted 12/10/16 9:21 PM
 

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Re: Is it ok to donate hand me downs you don't plan to use?

Posted by janedoe

I called the person and asked them if they wanted it back or not
if the answer was no I donated



This is what I would do.

Posted 12/11/16 8:36 AM
 

LuckyStar
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Is it ok to donate hand me downs you don't plan to use?

Are the people who gave you the stuff having more kids? If not I can't imagine they would need baby gear back.

I gave by my bff a bunch of stuff and she keeps telling me she'll "keep it in good condition in case there's an oops." I told her she can set it on fire for all I care, and if I end up pregnant again the least of my worries is an out of date mamaroo.

Posted 12/11/16 11:08 AM
 

drpepper318
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Re: Is it ok to donate hand me downs you don't plan to use?

Well they probably wanted to get rid of it anyway. Once they gave it to you, I think you can do whatever you want with it, whether you use it, donate it, or toss it.

Posted 12/11/16 1:00 PM
 

MrsG823
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Is it ok to donate hand me downs you don't plan to use?

I always do and when I give handle downs I always ask my friends to pass things on or donate them if they are not going to use them.

Posted 12/11/16 6:25 PM
 

WannaBeAMom11
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Is it ok to donate hand me downs you don't plan to use?

Ask the friends. I told my cousins I want the stuff back
If they were planning to donate as we weren't done having kids.

Posted 12/11/16 7:24 PM
 

Chai77
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Re: Is it ok to donate hand me downs you don't plan to use?

I would decline in the first place if I did not need it. And stuff I did need, I make sure to clarify whether the person is giving it to me or wants it back eventually.

So, I would call the person who gave it to you and ask what they want you to do- return it to them or donate.

Posted 12/11/16 7:29 PM
 

Bridex100
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Re: Is it ok to donate hand me downs you don't plan to use?

Posted by WannaBeAMom11

Ask the friends. I told my cousins I want the stuff back
If they were planning to donate as we weren't done having kids.



The friends who gave me the items are all done having kids.

Posted 12/11/16 8:19 PM
 

Bridex100
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Re: Is it ok to donate hand me downs you don't plan to use?

Posted by Chai77

I would decline in the first place if I did not need it. And stuff I did need, I make sure to clarify whether the person is giving it to me or wants it back eventually.

So, I would call the person who gave it to you and ask what they want you to do- return it to them or donate.



This last round of gear was given to my DH. I don't think DH looked at what was being put in the car. People also give me boxes and I don't open it until I get home. Now we have way too much stuff.

We have way more than what we originally had with our 2 boys. We used to live in Manhattan so we didn't have a ton of stuff. We live in the suburbs now so people just have more stuff.

Posted 12/11/16 8:21 PM
 

ali120206
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Is it ok to donate hand me downs you don't plan to use?

When I give hand me downs, I specify that I don't want them back. Most of the people who have given me things have specified the same.

For larger items - I have double checked before passing them along (someone had given us a firetruck toddler bed).

Posted 12/12/16 8:54 AM
 

blu6385

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Re: Is it ok to donate hand me downs you don't plan to use?

I guess ask. I get hand me down clothe but I made it clear if they wanted anything back while I appreciate the offer to not give it to me because I didn't want to have to remember who gave me what clothes.

I got a couple bigger items from friends where they told me to keep them or I asked if I could borrow and then returned it when I was done.

Posted 12/12/16 1:08 PM
 

PennyCat
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Re: Is it ok to donate hand me downs you don't plan to use?

I was given some hand me down toys by someone whose daughter is done having children. They were mainly infant toys which my DS never used and I still had them sitting in the bag from when she gave them to me. We moved recently and in my effort to clear stuff out we don't need, I offered them to a friend who gladly took them.

I figured if we never used it with my DS we certainly won't with our next. Never even occurred to me to offer them back.

Posted 12/12/16 3:49 PM
 

Sweetlax22
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Re: Is it ok to donate hand me downs you don't plan to use?

Most of my hand me downs have been given to me with a stern "I never want to see this again". What I don't use or is still good after I use I will try to pay forward (if I end up selling maybe get a bottle of wine or two to share with the original person lol). A few things I have lent out I would like back if it is still in good condition, I am most likely done having children but my sisters are not and I would like to be able to offer things to them when the time comes, but I tell people that when I lend them things.

Posted 12/12/16 9:01 PM
 

WonderLady
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Re: Is it ok to donate hand me downs you don't plan to use?

Posted by LuckyStar

Are the people who gave you the stuff having more kids? If not I can't imagine they would need baby gear back.

I gave by my bff a bunch of stuff and she keeps telling me she'll "keep it in good condition in case there's an oops." I told her she can set it on fire for all I care, and if I end up pregnant again the least of my worries is an out of date mamaroo.



Chat Icon Sooooo funny and true!!

Posted 12/12/16 9:17 PM
 
 

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