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05mommy09
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Re: Im so done
No she isnt showing
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Not that her age has anything to do with this but she is 24 going to be 25...
I called her- and their was no answer- I left a msg saying that I wouldnt be able to make it tonight... and not sure (judging by what this comes too) if I will be there next weekend either...
I said I dont wanna get into tonight... and we will talk during the week...
I then think I will get her a card, a small gift, and write a LONG letter... explaining my feelings on this whole situation...(including those "other issues" I have mentioned in pervious posts) and mail it to her this week...
For now- Im just gonna screen my calls... because I just dont feel like dealing w/ an arguement....
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Mrs-Boop
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Re: Im so done
Posted by Princessmaris
They came back with- the only time drinking effects your baby is when you are an alcoholic
OK, this line really bothers me..alot. Is she a drinker when not preggo?? Because sounds like she is an alcoholic if she can't hold out four more months for a drink. And for her to feel this way, how many other times in the past five months has she drank? And, if you do go, man people are gonna have things to say, seeing a pregnant woman at a bar drinking. I would tell her flat out if she is going to drink, you can not attend because it is absolutely the most irresponsible thing you have ever heard. OMG, how can she even take a chance..the what if's alone would stop me!! 
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| Posted 9/3/06 5:13 PM |
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My3Shmoos
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Re: Im so done
I am disgusted!! I wouldn't be surprised if she gets booted out of the bar tonight. I'm sure some bartenders won't serve her and other patrons will make her very uncomfortable. I wouldn't go personally.
G-D I'm so DISGUSTED 
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| Posted 9/3/06 5:26 PM |
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KateDevine
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Re: Im so done
Tell her what happened to my SIL while she was pregnant: my SIL was 4 months pregnant when she got married and drank at her bach party too....she was also allowed to take tylenol 3 for her teeth b/c she had oral surgery while pregnant. Well, when she went for an exam they told her they found a narcotic in her bloodstream and she freaked out and told them she had drank every now and again.
The doctor was obligated by law to write this all down in SIL's file and she ended up having to have a social worker in the delivery room with her. It was a nightmare for her. I hate to say it, but she learned her lesson.
She thinks it won't hurt, but you never know what will come out in the wash.
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| Posted 9/3/06 5:40 PM |
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angelbear217
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Re: Im so done
WOW! I am so glad that you opted not to participate in her party tonight. I agree with the other girls, that when you do talk to her you should be honest and express your feelings about the situation.
As someone who is preggo I am truly shocked that someone would risk the life of their child for one night of "fun". I don't know where she is getting her info from but she is very misinformed. I applaude your strength in dealing with her! 
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| Posted 9/3/06 6:17 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Im so done
Wow- Well lets just say-
The bride and other BM have called my houses... leaving the nastiest messages, calling me every name in the book... (so childish and trashy IMO)
Basically I called her back- and told her I didnt wanna fight and wanted to have a chat with her during the week- but since her and her friends can not stop calling my home acting like children- then a fight she will get...
I just told her- that I dont agree with her deicisons, and I refuse to take part in it, let alone drive her... then the past "issues" (things shes done to me- that have been eating away at me) came out...
Her FH got on the phone... cursing me out... and I just hung up- and said Im done...
I dont need people like this in my life... and that I hope her and the baby the best...
Boy- this is not how I though things would be happening to night...
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| Posted 9/3/06 7:09 PM |
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rose825
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Re: Im so done
OMG, I would say how immature that is, but it sounds like they have been immature from the start.
Good for you for standing your ground. Are you OK with the response that happened?
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| Posted 9/3/06 7:11 PM |
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MsMitcia
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Re: Im so done
God, I hope no sane bartender would even serve her!
PS: you did the right thing. Sne has been gving you grief for awhile now, she has issues and needs to grow up.Good riddens I say.
Message edited 9/3/2006 7:18:00 PM.
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| Posted 9/3/06 7:14 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Im so done
Posted by rose825
Good for you for standing your ground. Are you OK with the response that happened?
Yes and no...
Yes- because this is a 13 year friendship- and its so hard to see it come to this...
and No- because 10 out of the 13 years... I was being used, and mistreated...
I cant begin to explain what she has done to me in the past- and how I continued to be a shmuck and take it all in....
Im proud that for once in my life I stopped being a Shmuck and stood my ground...
She completly disappeared from my life.. when I got married, had my son etc.... so I went month w/o her- and survived just fine!
I just feel bad for this baby- He/She is in for a bumpy ride... and I wanted to be there to help...
ETA- It was bound to happen at some point- sux it had to be now and this way...
My mom swears that- one day she'll "grow-up" and realize whats gone on, and we will reunite...
I guess we will see!
Message edited 9/3/2006 7:16:55 PM.
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| Posted 9/3/06 7:15 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Im so done
Posted by MsMitcia
God, I hope no sane bartender would even serve her!
No bartendar would even know- she isnt showing at all!
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| Posted 9/3/06 7:15 PM |
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Karen
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Re: Im so done
I'm sorry, but I say good riddance to this "friend".
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| Posted 9/3/06 7:16 PM |
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rose825
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Re: Im so done
you did the right thing, and sometimes this is the only way.
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| Posted 9/3/06 7:27 PM |
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Phyl
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Re: Im so done
Even though this is not how you wanted things to end up,maybe it's for the best right now
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| Posted 9/3/06 7:28 PM |
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LightUpOurLife
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Re: Im so done
 for you and a  for your friend. I hope all comes out in the end ok.
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| Posted 9/3/06 7:42 PM |
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LBG30
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Re: Im so done
I am so sorry you had to go through that but honestly you don't need someone as selfish as her in your life. I understand you have been friends with her for 13 years but its obvious that it means nothing to her. She sounds like she needs some growing up!!
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| Posted 9/3/06 7:46 PM |
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july06bride
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Re: Im so done
How immature of this girl! She is so unfit to have this child and probably be married as well. You did the right thing-its sad that a friendship had to go this way-but You will be stronger morally because of it
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| Posted 9/3/06 7:47 PM |
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bluefairyli
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Re: Im so done
Posted by LBG30
I am so sorry you had to go through that but honestly you don't need someone as selfish as her in your life. I understand you have been friends with her for 13 years but its obvious that it means nothing to her. She sounds like she needs some growing up!!
I totaly agree, you do not need someone who doen't care about anothr human life!!!
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| Posted 9/3/06 7:51 PM |
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Tah-wee-ZAH
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Re: Im so done
Posted by LisaW
Posted by Princessmaris
"If you get drunk once... its not gonna effect the baby"- oh and "One shot's and a couple of beers isnt gonna do anything"
As someone who has been trying to get pg for quite a long time...
I am seriously DISGUSTED
So unfair...
And I don't blame you for not going...
I could never stomach to watch something like that.
My thoughts exactly!!!
What I had to go through to get pregnant... no caffeine, alcohol, refined sugar, white carbs FOR MONTHS!!!
All I ate is whole grain, organic meat and vegetables, drank special herbal tea three times a day, took a hot bath every night, went for special massages and this completely irresponsible (to say the least) woman is planning on getting drunk!!!
Never mind the NEEDLES and DRUGS I had to inject into my body, the countless doctor's visits and the thousands of dollars spent. We prayed, and prayed and prayed.
If it was me, even w/o my fertility issues, I would not be able to have anything to do with the situation. I would tell everyone involved that in no uncertain terms could I continue to be involved The situation is immoral and unethical. She is abusing the life of her unborn child.
She sounds like she has serious issues and is no way prepared to be married never mind have a child.
I am disgusted by the entire thing.
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| Posted 9/3/06 8:06 PM |
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Stefanie
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Re: Im so done
Message edited 9/4/2006 10:17:38 AM.
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MrsERod
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Re: Im so done
Posted by Tah-wee-ZAH
She sounds like she has serious issues and is no way prepared to be married never mind have a child.
I am disgusted by the entire thing.
couldn't agree more!!!
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| Posted 9/3/06 8:47 PM |
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gregslove
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Re: Im so done
if that was me, i would "lie" and say DS had an ear infection, and just avoid the drama period
sometimes people hear/believe what they want JMHO
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| Posted 9/3/06 9:17 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Im so done
Posted by Princessmaris
Would it be horrible to use my son as an excuse not to go???
Will it make the wedding next week really uncomfortable?
why use your son as an excuse?
i think that you should stand by your convictions and for what you believe is to be right...
i would tell her the truth...
not wimp out and blame it on your son
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| Posted 9/3/06 10:29 PM |
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Libragal07
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Re: Im so done
WOW i just read this whole thread and trust me you are much better off not having that person in your life... what she is doing is disgusting!!!!! I feel awful for that child she is bringing into this world.
You have every right not to be going..
And the fact that they are calling your house and cursing you out says enough about their friendship. LOT OF CLASS!!!!!!
I am so sorry you are dealing with this and i am proud of you b/c you did the right thing standing your ground. Someone had to do it, and she needs to know what she is doing is gross
here are some hugs for u sweetie
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| Posted 9/3/06 10:36 PM |
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Shelly
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Re: Im so done
Posted by Libragal07
WOW i just read this whole thread and trust me you are much better off not having that person in your life... what she is doing is disgusting!!!!! I feel awful for that child she is bringing into this world.
You have every right not to be going..
And the fact that they are calling your house and cursing you out says enough about their friendship. LOT OF CLASS!!!!!!
I am so sorry you are dealing with this and i am proud of you b/c you did the right thing standing your ground. Someone had to do it, and she needs to know what she is doing is gross
here are some hugs for u sweetie
I agree 100%. I can't even say it better. You did the right thing. I could never watch a pregnant woman get drunk, especially now that I have my daughter. It is so wrong. How can someone care so little for their little baby?????!!!!! How can you risk it? And for what?
It sounds like this friendship has been toxic for a while. It might be hard, but you did the right thing.
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| Posted 9/3/06 11:17 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Im so done
Thanks Girls...
So much unneeded drama...
As I said previously-
Ive been down this road with her before- She just disappeared- missing out on MAJOR aspects of my life.... and I survived- so I know I will be just fine w/o her now....
I wish things didnt happen the way they did (the yelling, cursing, and harassing calls) I though being adults we were past that... but whatever- its over and down with... and thats all that matters...
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