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Blu-ize
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Susan
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I'm having a mini meltdown
I'm taking care of everyone and everything. thankfully my boss is letting me work from home.
Between my cat, my parents, my brother..etc..
I have no help.
I'm very sad today.
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DaniJude
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
i'm so sorry - i don't know what else to say! 
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| Posted 1/3/08 11:23 AM |
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JenniferEver
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| Posted 1/3/08 11:24 AM |
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Ambersmom
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
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| Posted 1/3/08 11:24 AM |
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bicosi
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
I am so sorry! if I lived closer, I'd def be willing to help!!
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| Posted 1/3/08 11:29 AM |
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Reese32
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
Someone needs to take care of you!
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| Posted 1/3/08 11:32 AM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
I wish DH would help more. He doesn't know how to multi-task. It's killing me.
The thing that just put me over the edge is that we put a deposit down on a car and we've tried to get the deposit back 3 times already. DH called again and got the finance dept and a voice mail. He didn't want to leave a message and he says that he doesn't have time to call back later. Uh hello...and that's my job now?
So I called and spoke to another manager who said will call me back asap. Everything myself.
he went to the supermarket last night for us because I was with the kitty and I was too tired and stressed..I gave him a moderate specific list and he missed 6 of the items by saying oh, I didn't see that..or oh, did you write that?
Meanwhile, he didn't miss anything that he needed.
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| Posted 1/3/08 11:33 AM |
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MsSissy
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
Anything I can do to help?
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| Posted 1/3/08 11:33 AM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
Posted by Reese32
Someone needs to take care of you!
You know it. Then my dad calls to tell me that my brother won't go to rehab..and he won't take a shower and that it costs $2500 for the lawyer to do a medicaid app.
ok, so...
I'm going there later to throw my brother in the shower. Tomorrow I will go over there to take him to rehab..
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| Posted 1/3/08 11:34 AM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
Posted by Mssissy
Anything I can do to help?
I wish there was something that anybody could do, but if my own family can't....ughh...it's just a no win.
Then my boss so generously offered to pay for a spa day for me and my mom or a friend or a weekend away somewhere local and I would love to get away for a few days. DH says, well I don't want to go somewhere cold. I will be bored...WTH????? Someone is offering a weekend away with your wife and all you can think about is that it's cold and you will bored?
I'm tempted to just do a spa day by myself...or better yet, go away by myself.
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| Posted 1/3/08 11:37 AM |
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MsSissy
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
Posted by Blu-ize
DH says, well I don't want to go somewhere cold. I will be bored...WTH????? Someone is offering a weekend away with your wife and all you can think about is that it's cold and you will bored?
I'm tempted to just do a spa day by myself...or better yet, go away by myself.
OH H E L L, I would book some place and tell him the dates. If he goes with you great if not, maybe even better! You DESERVE to get away for a little while. And if you do, be sure to shut off your cell phone!
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| Posted 1/3/08 11:40 AM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
this is all compounded by the fact that my dad wants to move back to AZ with or without mom because as he puts it, "I didn't sign up for this."
So, I get to take care of my brother because you are being so selfish that you cannot take care of your son? Go ahead, run away.
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| Posted 1/3/08 11:42 AM |
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Kara
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
Go away - with a friend or by yourself if your DH won't go... At the very least get a spa day, but I really think a little mini-vacation would be good for you.
You being gone for a few days (or longer) might be even better for your parents learning how to handle things with your brother. You figured out how to do everything when you HAD to, as you were the only one around. Now, your parents can all too easily rely on you when they decide they can't do something. If you're not around, they will have to figure it out... and I bet they will figure it out. Might be rough for a few days, but I think maybe it'd be good for them if you were to let them "sink or swim" for a few days. (I hope that doesn't sound as harsh and cold as it came off. No one's saying to turn your back on your family or your brother -- but you know your parents are smart enough to figure this out and help him enough if they had to, right? Maybe a few days of them having to do it without having you as a back up would help - that's all I'm suggesting!)
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| Posted 1/3/08 11:43 AM |
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Kara
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
Posted by Blu-ize
this is all compounded by the fact that my dad wants to move back to AZ with or without mom because as he puts it, "I didn't sign up for this."
So, I get to take care of my brother because you are being so selfish that you cannot take care of your son? Go ahead, run away.
I posted before I saw this. OMG, I'm so sorry. He DID sign up for this - you know, when he had children!! 
Have you been able to get your parents to go to counseling to help work through all of the stuff they must be going through with all this?
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| Posted 1/3/08 11:44 AM |
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mka06
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
you should definitely get away even if it means going alone or with a friend if your DH won't go. you need it! i hope things get better for you!!
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| Posted 1/3/08 11:46 AM |
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MsSissy
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
Posted by Blu-ize
this is all compounded by the fact that my dad wants to move back to AZ with or without mom because as he puts it, "I didn't sign up for this."
So, I get to take care of my brother because you are being so selfish that you cannot take care of your son? Go ahead, run away.
Tell him to take your DH with him Than move in with your mom and brother. At least you'll be under one roof and less running back and forth
You know I'm kidding, I'm just trying to make you smile!! And see that things can work out
In all honesty, I'm really sorry you're still going through all this. I know you expected things to be different once your parents arrived
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| Posted 1/3/08 11:46 AM |
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Reese32
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
Posted by Kara
Posted by Blu-ize
this is all compounded by the fact that my dad wants to move back to AZ with or without mom because as he puts it, "I didn't sign up for this."
So, I get to take care of my brother because you are being so selfish that you cannot take care of your son? Go ahead, run away.
I posted before I saw this. OMG, I'm so sorry. He DID sign up for this - you know, when he had children!!
Have you been able to get your parents to go to counseling to help work through all of the stuff they must be going through with all this?
Oh, geez, that's awful. I really don't want to sound critical, and please don't take offense, but Kara's right. Your dad DID sign up for this when he had kids, AND when he agreed to move back here. And it's not as though YOU signed up for it, either! I can't begin to imagine all that you're going through, and I really wish there was something I could say or do that would help.
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| Posted 1/3/08 11:47 AM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
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| Posted 1/3/08 11:48 AM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
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Susan
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
Posted by Reese32
Posted by Kara
Posted by Blu-ize
this is all compounded by the fact that my dad wants to move back to AZ with or without mom because as he puts it, "I didn't sign up for this."
So, I get to take care of my brother because you are being so selfish that you cannot take care of your son? Go ahead, run away.
I posted before I saw this. OMG, I'm so sorry. He DID sign up for this - you know, when he had children!!
Have you been able to get your parents to go to counseling to help work through all of the stuff they must be going through with all this?
Oh, geez, that's awful. I really don't want to sound critical, and please don't take offense, but Kara's right. Your dad DID sign up for this when he had kids, AND when he agreed to move back here. And it's not as though YOU signed up for it, either! I can't begin to imagine all that you're going through, and I really wish there was something I could say or do that would help.
he didn't really agree to move back here...mom kind of said, we're moving, we have to take care of our son. Our daughter can't do it anymore by herself nor is it fair.
Too bad, I'm not cutting him any slack. I saved his life.
My brother is no walk in the park. He's very hard to deal with but he always was. He is now getting the meds he needs so that will take a while to be regulated.
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| Posted 1/3/08 11:56 AM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
also, they just went for their first counseling session individually this morning. I hope it will help and I hope that dad sees that it can work out.
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| Posted 1/3/08 11:57 AM |
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Shelly
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
I'm sorry you are going through this. I know its a hard time, but this too shall pass.
ETA: I just read more- and saw what your dad said about not signing up for this. I agree with the PP that as a parent, you sign up for it all. It doesn't mean you stop being a parent because your child is grown. When your child needs you, you are there. And now, BOTH of his children need him- you need to be relieved of being the sole caretaker of your brother and your brother needs him.
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Phyl
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| Posted 1/3/08 12:08 PM |
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lullabella
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
Hang in there and I hope 2008 is a good year for you and your family!
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| Posted 1/3/08 12:09 PM |
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Blu-ize
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Susan
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
Posted by Shelly
I'm sorry you are going through this. I know its a hard time, but this too shall pass.
ETA: I just read more- and saw what your dad said about not signing up for this. I agree with the PP that as a parent, you sign up for it all. It doesn't mean you stop being a parent because your child is grown. When your child needs you, you are there. And now, BOTH of his children need him- you need to be relieved of being the sole caretaker of your brother and your brother needs him.
oh I know this. My brother had issues way before this and needed medication years ago. he became an alcoholic and was terrible to deal with. My dad has a very hard time dealing with it. Granted, there were not how to manuals to deal with this, but at one point he refused to even consider counseling. It's as if he is saying, well I don't need this crap, and others have to change and I don't. Everyone's life has changed. Nobody is happy about it.
I don't mean to bash my dad this way. I love him and I am a daddy's girl, but I know my limits and I'm at it now.
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| Posted 1/3/08 12:11 PM |
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Blu-ize
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Susan
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Re: I'm having a mini meltdown
and my DH with the cat now...it's a joke. He has to go to work, he's very busy, I'm worried sick and he is telling me to get a grip. Don't worry, we'll nurse him back to health...yeah, we, meaning me.
I'm hand feeding the freakin cat. I'm the one calling the doc, I'm the one who came home from the city early to get him and the hospital even though he works 5 minutes away. He just couldn't tear himself away from work.
It's all BS. I should tell everyone where to go.
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