i would love to have a TTC after MC Board

Miscarriage is happening all around us.. sometimes often, sometimes not.. the reality is there.. and for most of us .. we wonder What happened?? or WHY me?? its such a terrible and traumatic thing for a woman to go through

i just feel a new board will help us girls in so many ways... for just grieving, to vent,cry, and most of all Support!
even for the women who have children after a MC.. they can give us positive vibes, or advice to get us through..

i now for myself its different TTC after a MC ... we have other issues that we are unsure of..more questions, or how our bodies are reacting from the MC. and so on.. so sometimes i dont think its fair that i ask MC questions, some girls simply cant answer or get scared and worried by something they might have read.

i just wanted to put it out there.. Ron & Kim , i understand if its not possible but it would be so wonderful!

after our recent LIF member going through this, i just thought it would be a great support system for many of us

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Posted by MetsGirl07


Miscarriage is happening all around us.. sometimes often, sometimes not.. the reality is there.. and for most of us .. we wonder What happened?? or WHY me?? its such a terrible and traumatic thing for a woman to go through

i just feel a new board will help us girls in so many ways... for just grieving, to vent,cry, and most of all Support!
even for the women who have children after a MC.. they can give us positive vibes, or advice to get us through..

i now for myself its different TTC after a MC ... we have other issues that we are unsure of..more questions, or how our bodies are reacting from the MC. and so on.. so sometimes i dont think its fair that i ask MC questions, some girls simply cant answer or get scared and worried by something they might have read.

i just wanted to put it out there.. Ron & Kim , i understand if its not possible but it would be so wonderful!

after our recent LIF member going through this, i just thought it would be a great support system for many of us

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I have not had one, but I do agree that would be a great idea for a board.

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Posted by maybeamommy

I have not had one, but I do agree that would be a great idea for a board.

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Posted by MetsGirl07

so sometimes i dont think its fair that i ask MC questions, some girls simply cant answer or get scared and worried by something they might have read.

Message edited 9/12/2008 3:43:44 PM.

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Posted by maybeamommy

I have not had one, but I do agree that would be a great idea for a board.

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Posted by jam11308

Posted by MetsGirl07

so sometimes i dont think its fair that i ask MC questions, some girls simply cant answer or get scared and worried by something they might have read.

Thanks for putting this out there Deanna

I often feel the same way...I have questions that I want to ask, but am afraid to because I don't want to unknowingly make others scared or nervous...and I'm also afraid of bringing it up so much that others start to think "enough already - move on." I wish that I could... In any event, I would fully a separate board like this so that we could all get the support that we need while not putting off or scaring all of the other wonderful ladies out there...

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I think you should FM Ron. Im sure he would agree that this is a fantastic idea and necessary as well

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yea...I just had a m/c last week. Wow was that upsetting.
The weeks before it were even worse b/c we knew that something was very very wrong, and the anxiety was awful.

Right now, I'm just trying to forget about it, but I must say that this board, and all the girls on here who went through this have been such a support for me...even if only virtual. In real life, nobody ever talks about this stuff!
If it weren't for this board, I would have been sure that I was one of the only ones, and that I was different.
Not at all....unfortunatley this is very common.


I think the hardes part now, is the anxiety associated with getting pregnant again, getting my pd back, and then ultimately getting through a pregnancy without being a NERVOUS WRECK.

Wow there's a lot going on in my head.

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Posted by when

yea...I just had a m/c last week. Wow was that upsetting.
The weeks before it were even worse b/c we knew that something was very very wrong, and the anxiety was awful.

Right now, I'm just trying to forget about it, but I must say that this board, and all the girls on here who went through this have been such a support for me...even if only virtual. In real life, nobody ever talks about this stuff!
If it weren't for this board, I would have been sure that I was one of the only ones, and that I was different.
Not at all....unfortunatley this is very common.


I think the hardes part now, is the anxiety associated with getting pregnant again, getting my pd back, and then ultimately getting through a pregnancy without being a NERVOUS WRECK.

Wow there's a lot going on in my head.

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Posted by MetsGirl07

3. i just hate the feeling that i bring up too many MC threads, or posts.. people must think im crazy.. i hate that feeling
4.. and of COURSE we would not go anywhere.. its just an extra board for us.. we will still be around on the TTC board.. but now it will be very general ! nothing wrong with that!!

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I just want to put this out there as someone who has never had a m/c...

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE feel free to post as many m/c related threads as you want!

I would never rush the healing process. I know it is a long one and that a m/c is something you may NEVER "get over."

Although I may not have any advice, I've always got hugs to spare and words of support for you ladies!

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I lost my baby at 8 weeks.

I agree. We should have this board.

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Great suggestion Deanna. I too have questions and issues that I'm not sure where to post (Pregnancy or TTC).

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Deanna my heart breaks for you and all of the other women on here that have dealt with a m/c so please understand that before you read the following


I feel like we could have 100 different boards for 1 thing. There is the TTC board, IF board, Pregnancy board, parenting, and step-parenting board...ultimatly they all relate to being a parent, but we have 4 sub boards for it. I think FHF should be the prayer boards. I'm not saying your idea isn't great I just worry that to many boards will separate us all. PLEASE post whatever you are feeling on here. We know the good and the bad about TTC and pregnancy. Don't ever feel like your scaring us or that you can't be you. MANY MANY MANY women suffer m/c and that is also why I do not think a TTC after m/c board is a good idea. This is just my opinion and I mean no harm, but just a different point of view.

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I think that's a great idea. After my 2nd m/c I was so fearful to get pg and when I did I was just waiting for another m/c and it happened.

It is not a happy time. You don't get all excited when you see that BFP. You get afraid. You wonder how long will you get to keep this one? Will this one make it? You don't jump for joy and want to call your Mom.

I think it's a wonderful idea Deanna!

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i totally agree about the mc board... IMO There should be 1 extra board- for people after a m/c- to include those grieving, those ttc, and those pregnant(and holding their breath that the current one finally makes it).

to the poster who thinks it would seperate us by having too many boards and to combine.. FHF board every time i glance at its so and so is sick please pray, so and so died. The M/c would get lost in it. to post I lost a baby at X weeks, next to someones "my grandfather just had a heartattack (and survived and is ok)" should not be under the same board. our hearts are still ripped out months, possibly years later from our m/c. Even on the pregnancy board its not something you want to see as the non m'c people dont want to be freaked out...We would still use the TTC board for trying, and the pregnancy board for being pregnant- but our concerns, questions, fears would have its only place



before I had a m/c I didnt hear much about it. and thought the second one would be fine. When the second one went bad- and i was at winthrop preregistering for my d&C the next day one lady helping me said she had 2 then her kids, another said she had four then her kids, when I went for my xrays in June the xray guy said he went through it 20 years ago himself and things worked out fine... We need a board dedicated so we dont have to go searching through a haystack to get there.

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I think it's a great idea- I honestly have a hard time posting in pregnancy right now because part of me is still so scared of MCing again.....I still don't feel like I can really "feel" it, can plan too far ahead, because I don't want to go through the devastation again.

It's such a weird mix of feelings. I am so afraid every time I go to the bathroom that I will see blood....I don't know when that feeling will end (if ever).

And Deanna, I don't think anyone on here would EVER think you post too much about MC. What you went through was so traumatic and life altering, you cannot expect yourself to not talk about it....I had an EARLY miscarriage, and I was deeply rocked by it. I cannot even compare that to what you are dealing with, and you need to just take as much time as you need to get your feelings out.

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I think this is a great idea. As someone who went through this, it would have been so helpful to have somewhere to go dedicated to talking about it. I was scared to post here as to not wanting to scare the girls TTC about what I was going through. It was the hardest thing I have ever dealt with in my life and I really could have used some woman who had gone through the same thing to talk to.

This coming Monday would have been the first birthday of the baby we lost (if I went on my due date).

For those dealing with this right now, please do not give up hope. I had a hard time TTC after my m/c and waited a few months until I was strong enough mentally again. I now have a 7 month old son. He makes it all so much better and helps make sense of what happened to us.

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Posted by Suzanne

I think this is a great idea. As someone who went through this, it would have been so helpful to have somewhere to go dedicated to talking about it. I was scared to post here as to not wanting to scare the girls TTC about what I was going through. It was the hardest thing I have ever dealt with in my life and I really could have used some woman who had gone through the same thing to talk to.

This coming Monday would have been the first birthday of the baby we lost (if I went on my due date).

For those dealing with this right now, please do not give up hope. I had a hard time TTC after my m/c and waited a few months until I was strong enough mentally again. I now have a 7 month old son. He makes it all so much better and helps make sense of what happened to us.

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I think that is a great idea !!!


after two miscarriages, lately I feel like I belong somewhere else :(


I was thinking about it the other day, I feel more like I'm trying to succeed than trying to concieve

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i also have the same worryof posting on the pregnancy board- when i login here I go to the ttc board BEFORE the pregnancy board..after two mc last year its difficult not knowing if i will succeed this time
- my first would be a year old next month(and my old coworker actually delivered when I was due) then the second one would be one in december and and of my friends kids was the same date- its not easy seeing pictures...and having one spontanious and one missed last year- its not even like i would know if something wrong is happening again- just have to have faith that im stronger this year