DO know from the tests that you had gotten that it was NOT your fault. There is NOTHING you could have done. I will say a prayer for your beautiful little angel.
I am not going to FM you as per your wishes, but please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I am praying for you and my heart goes out to you and DH
Reg - I am so so sorry for you and your husband. I will respect your wishes and not FM, but please know I am here if you need to talk. I am sending so many prayers and hugs to both of you.