i feel torn

hi ladies...almost 30 weeks this upcoming thursday!!!!

so excited!!!

what i feel torn about is...if i complain or whine....that i am not allowed to or that i am not being grateful kwim?

i always swore when going through if treatments that if i was preggo i would never complain or biotch bc of how hard it was to have a baby.

but i am preggo now...and bite my tongue as hard as i may...i feel soooo sick sooooo much that i feel i am not allowed to be a bitchyyy preggo bc of my if past.

i am trying to enjoy everything but its still so hard to with the health issues and anxiety that i want to pretend i am normal and whine about my aches and pains. anyone else ever feel this way??? tia xoxoxox

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Ur allowed to be! You are giving up your whole being for someone else, its ok to have those emotions!!!

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I think you have the right to say and do as you feel without any guilt!!

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I was the same way, trying to just be a perfectly happy-go-lucky pregnant woman. I always told people I felt great, it was so easy, blah, blah, blah. It's ok to be honest. There are some aspects of pregnancy that are just hard and the hi-risk stuff doesn't help. Oh and if you think the pregnancy guilt is bad, just wait till your first "what was I thinking moment" as a Mom!
That guilt rules!

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As someone who is praying for the opportunity to complain about being preggo I think that IF takes away so much joy and happiness in this whole process!!!!!! If you have the opportunity to be a normal preggo woman now, enjoy it and complain as much as you want. You deserve it!!!!!!!!!!

Enjoy your moment! <--apple juice

XO

Message edited 2/21/2012 8:48:08 AM.

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Posted by AnaMaree77

As someone who is praying for the opportunity to complain about being preggo I think that IF takes away so much joy and happiness in this whole process!!!!!! If you have the opportunity to be a normal preggo woman now, enjoy it and complain as much as you want. You deserve it!!!!!!!!!!

Enjoy your moment! <--apple juice

XO

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Posted by prunepie

Posted by AnaMaree77

As someone who is praying for the opportunity to complain about being preggo I think that IF takes away so much joy and happiness in this whole process!!!!!! If you have the opportunity to be a normal preggo woman now, enjoy it and complain as much as you want. You deserve it!!!!!!!!!!

Enjoy your moment! <--apple juice

XO

thanks for the juice.

see thats the prob...not upset that i AM pregnant...but dammmmmn considering all it took to get here...
i feel like...why do i still ahve to take shots and meds and have ms all the time and ankles swell etc kwim?
i could care less about stretch marks..my hair...things like that.
but the sickness and constant worry being high risk is NOT fun no matter what.
i want little dude to be here already so i can switch to my other list of anxieties hah lol
ty for listeneing everyone xoxo

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You should be able to complain about the troubles you have while be pregnant... its really not easy... it can be hard in a lot of ways... and you should absolutely have a safe place to complain without feeling badly about it regardless of how many people would trade places with you!!!

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thanks ladies.
i guess it wouldnt be so stressful if i didnt have to work while feeling so sick..i could just moan to myself in bed kwim?

yeah...just a couple more months...wow.

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I felt the same way.
I, actually, have continued to deal with that anxiety. I wish I had recognized it, and dealt with it earlier. I feel like I shouldn't ever complain about anything to do with my kids or being a mom...which is insane, and impossible!

So, please, try to cut yourself some slack. You dont need to be a saint or, even, constantly grateful. Some days are just hard, and it's ok to let that happen and acknowledge it.

So, complain away girl!

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I think we all swear we will never ever complain for a second once we finally get pregnant. But, if you feel like poo, you feel like poo. It's human nature to complain when you feel like poo. And unfortunately, IF issues often coinside with high risk issues.

In the end you are just another normal pregnant woman complaining about swollen ankles.

From what I hear IF mommys feel guilty when they complain about their baby being annoying or fussy too.

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I think no matter what road travelled IF or just pain lucky we can complain if we want. Our bodies become alien to us and if you want to you should be allowed.
My friend accidentally for pregnant and the entire time she went thru hell with her health to the point where she wouldn't tell anyone to do it.
My point is with all that's going on hormonally it's not always going to be sunshine and roses. Vent away.

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I felt the same way....I had a pretty awful pregnancy. Puking for 20 weeks 5 or 6 times a day, bed rest starting at 10 weeks, cerclage, insane swelling and high bp. I tried so hard to hold it in and put a big smile on but my DH wound up getting the brunt of it. I would cry to him bc I didn't want anyone to think I was ungrateful. Bottom line is just because you are feeling crappy doesn't mean you are ungrateful. Hang in there....I would do it again a million times to have my ds and dd.