how long will you wait?

for new moms: how long will you wait before TTC your 2nd child?

for 2+ moms : how long did you wait? was it planned? what do you think are good age gaps for kids?

i'm only 4 weeks PP but we are trying to plan the next one! i know we're crazy, but just trynig to get ideas about age gaps

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We waited until Jack turned one and got pregnant a few months later. Baby #2 is due Oct 22, which happens to be the same day Jack was due. He was born on the 19th. So they will be exactly two years apart.

I think it will be a good age difference.

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We started discussing it, maybe next summer we will begin trying.

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Emma is 8 months old - I'd like to wait until she's 1 to TTC #2.

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When he starts sleeping thru the night I will let myself BEGIN to think about #2

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I'm on the fence about this one. I would love to start TTC whne she's 1, however DH feels very different than me, he would like to wait a couple of years. But, the more I think about it, I want to spend as much time with Isabella "alone", without another child. I want her to be only little one for a while. Plus, when I think about paying for 2 college tuitions, weddings, all close together I get a nervous twitch


If it happens, it happens. But I don't think will be TTC for another 2 years.

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we will start trying again when DD is 1 year old. i would prefer to wait longer (until she is 2 or 3), but i am getting "too old"...

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My kids are 21 months apart. It was hard at first but as they get older it's been a lot easier.

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I think we will wait a few years. I would like DS to be about 4 years old when baby #2 comes along.

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I have the urge now but of course we will wait

I used to say 5 years but I love it so much I am now saying 2 years We want to be in a bigger house before having another one and we want me to be able to stay home with them.

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We started TTC #2 when #1 was 5 months old. It took 11 months to conceive #2. My boys are 25 months apart.

If there's a #3 in our future, we better start soon. I'm getting old!

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right now we're thinking of ttc again when DS is about a year old.

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We are "winging it"... when it happens, it happens... we are not trying for # 2, but we really should be doing more to prevent it if we wanted to wait... He would like to start this coming year though, so they would be three years apart. I just want one!

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My son is 2 1/2 and we are just starting to try for # 2. Originally we wanted them to be 2 years apart, but life got so hectic and busy so now they will be over 3 years apart if we conceive soon.

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We waited until our son was a year old. Got pregnant right away (so they're exactly 22 months apart).

I love the age difference. Joseph doesn't remember Maddie ever not being around, less jealousy, no thunder stolen. She potty trained earlier because her brother was potty training when she was 15 months old. Ok so she wanted to stand to pee, but we solved that one.

I think any age difference you go for works.

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My kids are 3 years 9 months apart. I think it is a nice age difference because sammy was more independent and toilet trained when Sara was born. I aactually conceived on sammy's birthday

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We originally were going to try when she hit a year but to be honest we are too exhausted So we will start trying again next summer to plan it that I can be home from March to Sept with them.

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We talked about waiting as much as 4-5 years since ours was an unplanned but definately joyful pregnancy --- we just weren't ready for it financially so we wanted to give it some time to get more on our feet...

However recently DH has talked about trying in a year or so ....

Sometimes I want a new little baby right away, other times I'm wondering how I'll ever be able to handle it. I think the doubtful days are just telling me that the time isn't right yet ... and when it is right it'll happen.

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I wanted to enjoy DS for as long as possible. He is now 3 1/2 and we are trying for #2.

We are both really young so age wasn't a factor when deciding how long to wait inbetween children
I am 1000% happy with our children. DS starts PR-K in September and I didn't want baby #2 until DS started school

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my oldest was 3 years and 3 months when the middle one was born and the middle one was 3 years and 8 months when the youngest was born. IMO this was a good age difference because you can spend quality time with each in a different way and there is less jelousy. if we do go for another it will be sooner though because times a passing!!! i'm not getting any younger!

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I was enjoying my son so much I didn't rush it. I knew that 35 was the big "it might take longer to conceive age" So, we got pregnant when I was 34 (Patrick was 3 1/2 years old) I got pregnant on the second try. Had my twin girls 4 days after I turned 35.

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I would like them to be about 3 years apart so we'll start trying in Jan of 2008 because I would like to be pregnant during the same time of year as I was before.