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Home Party-Food and Drink Related
Please do not move to the food thread......
Am I wrong to ask? (honesty is fine, I won't get upset)
I am having a party and I feel like when I have a party, I should be the one to provide the food and drinks. Everyone has asked what they can bring or they have told me what they are bringing (friends who bring the same things as everyone loves them). Of course I welcome anything anyone wants to contribute as it does help out in every way, financial, time wish, energy wise, etc.
My neighbor made us deviled eggs one time just because and they were really good. I asked them if they could possibly bring them to the party. I usually make them but it would really help me out. They came back and asked me if I could provide the eggs.
Was I wrong to tell them no? IMO, if you can't make it, then just tell me I am sorry I won't have the money or time to do so.
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Posted 11/11/13 10:04 AM  |
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Wow. I don't think you are wrong. I think they are wrong, if tgey can't do it,ddon't do it. I would never have the balls to ask. lol
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| Posted 11/11/13 10:12 AM |
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luvbuffet
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Wait u invited them over and asked if they could make a dish they have made in the past that u LOVED and they asked u to buy eggs? For real? 
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| Posted 11/11/13 10:15 AM |
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Posted by luvbuffet
Wait u invited them over and asked if they could make a dish they have made in the past that u LOVED and they asked u to buy eggs? For real?
Yes. They made them for us for no reason at all. I figured they just enjoyed making them if they did it for no reason so didn't think it would be a problem to ask to make for a party.
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| Posted 11/11/13 10:17 AM |
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luvbuffet
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I think that's so ridiculous. If I was in your position, I would just smile and say "sure!" I still can't get over how tacky people are. Jeeez
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| Posted 11/11/13 10:20 AM |
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Did they ask what they could bring? Or did you ask them to make these without them offering?
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| Posted 11/11/13 10:21 AM |
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Kitten1929
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That's effing tacky. Eggs are what, $3? It's not like you asked her to bring filet mignon.
Asking was not wrong, she should be complimented that you liked them so much. I know I would be.
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| Posted 11/11/13 10:22 AM |
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Posted by MsSissy
Did they ask what they could bring? Or did you ask them to make these without them offering?
No, they did not ask. I just told them that we really liked it and if they could bring them to the party. Then they asked if we could provide the eggs. I would have rather had a no, sorry can't do it then to ask for the ingredients. lol.
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| Posted 11/11/13 10:26 AM |
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orchid24
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I do think that was tacky of them to ask you to provide the ingredients, but I am also not one to ask someone to bring something to a party that *i* am throwing. Now had they asked what can I bring? That would have been a totally different story.
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| Posted 11/11/13 10:52 AM |
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NervousNell
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That is tacky IMO.
I would never ask someone to provide the ingredients for something I was making to bring to a party.
That defeats the purpose.
So odd.
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| Posted 11/11/13 10:55 AM |
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if they offered to bring something and then asked you for the eggs i think that is tacky
if you invited them and said - hey come to my party and can you make the deviled eggs, they may have been caught off guard. i dont think "can you provide the eggs" was appropriate response by any means so i am not sticking up for them...but maybe that is why they answered that way - in hesitation to be invited to a party and asked to bring something.
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| Posted 11/11/13 11:01 AM |
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Posted by orchid24
I do think that was tacky of them to ask you to provide the ingredients, but I am also not one to ask someone to bring something to a party that *i* am throwing. Now had they asked what can I bring? That would have been a totally different story.
I am not either as I feel if you are throwing a party, you are the one responsible for everything. I just asked because they had made them just recently and they are always making something for us and the kids, cookies, cupcakes, etc, etc.
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| Posted 11/11/13 11:08 AM |
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Posted by jams92
if they offered to bring something and then asked you for the eggs i think that is tacky
if you invited them and said - hey come to my party and can you make the deviled eggs, they may have been caught off guard. i dont think "can you provide the eggs" was appropriate response by any means so i am not sticking up for them...but maybe that is why they answered that way - in hesitation to be invited to a party and asked to bring something.
Yeah, I would have rather had no, I can't make them due to whatever the problem was making them.
I guess I am just used to my friends and family saying you are bringing such and such to the party because everyone loves it. I always ask someone what I should bring though as that is just how I am.
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| Posted 11/11/13 11:10 AM |
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KristenRSF
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Home Party-Food and Drink Related
This is so bizarre. lol
When I have people over and they ask if they can bring something, I usually only request liquor or wine. That's it. I like to make all of my own food and do not like to make anyone have to cook. If they would have asked what you wanted them to bring, then I could see you saying, "I love your deviled eggs, can you make those?". But they didn't ask you, and asking for the eggs is just ridiculous. LOL
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| Posted 11/11/13 11:24 AM |
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ElizaRags35
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Posted by jams92
if they offered to bring something and then asked you for the eggs i think that is tacky
if you invited them and said - hey come to my party and can you make the deviled eggs, they may have been caught off guard. i dont think "can you provide the eggs" was appropriate response by any means so i am not sticking up for them...but maybe that is why they answered that way - in hesitation to be invited to a party and asked to bring something.
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| Posted 11/11/13 11:29 AM |
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ThePinkGoose
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That is really strange. I guess i'm going to go out on a limb here and say that because they didn't offer to bring anything and you went ahead with the request for them to make eggs, they saw it as you asking for a favor (not the alternate view of you asking them to just contribute) if any of that makes sense? Still weird though........
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| Posted 11/11/13 11:29 AM |
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Posted by ThePinkGoose
That is really strange. I guess i'm going to go out on a limb here and say that because they didn't offer to bring anything and you went ahead with the request for them to make eggs, they saw it as you asking for a favor (not the alternate view of you asking them to just contribute) if any of that makes sense? Still weird though........
Possibly. They should have probably just said no then. I wouldn't have taken aback as much as I was by that request.
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| Posted 11/11/13 11:34 AM |
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VERY bizarre!
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| Posted 11/11/13 11:47 AM |
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PearlJamChick
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This whole thing is weird. I think it's presumptuous to tell someone to bring something to a party without them asking "what can I bring?" I also think that by them asking you to buy the eggs, they are either on really tough times financially or they just don't want to make them, so that was their way of saying they didn't want to.
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| Posted 11/11/13 11:57 AM |
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DiamondGirl
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I just find that really weird. If someone loved a dip or something I made and asked me to bring it I would be flattered. I could see if you were requesting FILET MIGNON or something really expensive--but EGGS?? lol
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| Posted 11/11/13 11:59 AM |
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Millie3
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I would never ask anyone to bring anything to my home, no matter how much I loved the XYZ they made.
I would feel surprised about being asked to provide the eggs, but I would have. I can't tell which is more tacky, asking for eggs to be provided or saying no to providing 3.00 eggs
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| Posted 11/11/13 12:10 PM |
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Posted by PearlJamChick
This whole thing is weird. I think it's presumptuous to tell someone to bring something to a party without them asking "what can I bring?" I also think that by them asking you to buy the eggs, they are either on really tough times financially or they just don't want to make them, so that was their way of saying they didn't want to.
We are close with them and they are always bringing food over for us and the kids so I didn't really think twice about it. I wouldn't have done it with someone I didn't really know (which that type of person wouldn't be invited to my party anyway. It is all close friends and family who go back and forth at parties and do the same thing).
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| Posted 11/11/13 1:21 PM |
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Um... that is weird. I would have just told you I wouldn't be able to prepare anything for the party. How many deviled eggs did you need? A dozen eggs makes 24!... So I don't get it... that costs like $3! geez louise
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| Posted 11/11/13 2:28 PM |
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halfbaked
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Um, no. That's weird. I would never agree to bring something with the caveat that YOU provide the ingredients.
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| Posted 11/11/13 2:36 PM |
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stinger
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Are they having money issues that you don't know about?
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| Posted 11/11/13 2:51 PM |
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