gender surprise

I can find out next week the gender of my baby. DH wants to know the sex and family is telling us to find out. I like the element of surprise, just because there are few god surprises in life. I'd like to have that "hospital moment" where DH shouts and tells me the gender. However, I am the biggest planner and I hate yellow and green clothes. What are your thoughts on this matter.

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in my opinion... pink/blue clothes can wait.

if youre up for waiting...try to.

i plan to not find out because i want that surprise too.

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We didn't find out with our first bc my DH didn't want to and felt really strongly that there are so little "good" surprises in life. I wanted to know, but he felt so adamant about it that I let it go with intentions to find out with our second. I LOOOOVED LOOOVED the whole experience so we are 35 weeks with our second team green baby. The delivery room surprise was so amazing! Obviously, I can't say it's better or worse than knowing because I've never known, but it's really so exciting and the video of him telling our families is priceless.

I'm a huge planner, HUGE. Total type A. I wanted to know very badly for both pregnancies at about 28-32 weeks. When the urge to nest was really getting to me, but other than that it was fun to imagine both scenerios.

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I would LOVE to have the surprise in the delivery room, BUT will prob end up finding out because i have zero willpower!

In my opinion, the clothes thing isn't a big deal. If you can wait, do it! You can always buy a few pink/blue things that you love and return whatever you don't need. Or just get a few gender neutral outfits and then really go shopping once the baby is born. I'm sure family and friends will buy stuff as well. My cousin was team green and her family went nuts buying clothes for the baby while they were in the hospital.

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I said from the beginning that I wanted to find out and now at 13 weeks knowing I can find out in 3 weeks I am having some reservations for some reason. I hate yellow/green also. My mom never found out with any of her kids and she said people bought gender specific clothing as a present at the hospital. When I bring up that my dh doesnt want his child growing up with a yellow room like him everyone tells me that it only takes a day to paint a room. I don't know it is true you only get so many good surprises. I am might be swaying to team green myself.

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i am team green and i think it is a great decision!!! If you and your husband can wait - i suggest you do. sure, you cant prepare as well as if you knew the gender...but you get things done. we have a green nursery that works for boy or girl and some gender neutral clothing. once the baby is born we will have family or friends do us a favor and run out and get us a few gender specific outfits.
as you mentioned, there are not many surprised in life anymore...enjoy this one!

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We are also team green. My husband is dead set against finding out and though I can go either way, I want to support him in this! We werent planning on doing a gender specific nursery anyway and prefer the more neutral accessories in case we have future children of the opposite sex. Of course buying cute clothing would be fun but for us it doesn't outweigh the desire to be truly surprised in the delivery room!

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I hate the green/yellow clothes too. I had my mom and MIL try to put the word out there for my shower (as politely as possible) that we were waiting until the baby was born to buy clothes. It mostly worked, very few people actually bought us clothes. We had a few things on hand like white onesies and a handful of gender neutral things to get us by but really, you can wait to shop. I never was at a shortage for clothes and really didn't get any until DD was born.

The gender neutral nursery bothers me more but it is what it is. I wish I would have thought of this sooner, but I've since heard of people doing a blue room with the intention of adding pink or more blue depending on the sex. I would have much rather gone that route than the yellow/green. Live and learn!

As for the big reveal, I was like ehhh unfortunately. I had such STRONG feelings that DD was a girl that when the doctor said "It's a girl!" I was just like "Yeah, I know". Wasn't very climatic but I really did it for DH. He is much more adamant about being than I am.

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OK I am going through this now except our whole family and DH really want to be surprised and I want to know sooooo bad!!! Its really hard not finding out and I agree about planning and not wanting all green and yellow. .however I have learned to except this and am keeping the surprise element cause it is turley exciting everyday thinking the baby might be a boy some days and some days I think girl.. I like that everyone is placing bets and just as excited to find out. It will hopefully give me that extra push I need to get the baby out so I can find out! It will keep me going:)

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team green. you wont regret it!!

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I didn't want to know and DH wanted to know. We were both so adamant about it neither one of us were going to change our minds. We decided to do "rock, paper, scissors" and that would be the end of the conversation. The other person could not bring it up and could not rub it in the others face. It would be final decision.

My sister if an OB and DH found out that she can tell the sex of the baby from a sonogram. She said she would slip at some point and DH can be VERY annoying when he wants something this bad. I gave in and told him the second baby we will get that element of surprise and he agreed! So this one we will know (I'm registering for all gender neutral anyway) and the next one we won't.

I did decide to do a gender reveal party. We are going to have the tech write it down in an envelope and him and I are going to open it at home. This way we still have just the two of us and we'll see what the sex is and have that moment. Then I'm having people over my parents house for some cupcakes that will be pink or blue.

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We were team green and it was really the best surprise ever. I squealed with such delight when I heard, "It's a girl!" especially since everyone's guess was that I was having a boy.

The gender neutral clothes are for such a short time that she was wearing "girly" clothes very quickly. Plus, once you have the baby people start buying all sorts of clothes and I got a lot of gift cards so I did a lot of online shopping in the wee hours of the night...

If we have #2, DH and I are both decided to go team green again!

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We had the same back and forth with my first and ended up finding out. I too wanted that big hospital moment and let my husband run into the waiting room with the news... well, I am glad we decided to find out early bc the actual delivery it was SOOOO far from what I had imagined. I ended up having a crash c-section that I was barely awake for in the middle of the night so no one else was even there but my DH and I. I think I would have been upset if I waited 40 weeks to have this big special moment and end up how it did.

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I found out both ways and let me tell you waiting for that moment in the hospital was sooo worth it and wish we would of not found out again. Nothing like that moment where you and your husband know together what your having after waiting so long and no one else knows but you to. Go team green!!

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We are finding out mainly because I DO NOT want a closet full of green clothes!!! haha! or course if it's a girl we would do alot of yellow anyhow since I'm not a huge fan of PINK OVERLOAD! haha! But I find out next week and I can't wait!!!

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Crashing!! We didnt find out with the twins and it was THE BEST experience! We didnt get a ton of clothes at the shower, we did however get a ton of clothes after the girls were born. We painted the room a rich kelley green and added a feminine touch after they were born.

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I was team with my first and I will never forget my mom calling my step-dad from the LDR and saying "she's had the baby and it's a boy!" We're staying team and I keep replaying that moment in my head to get me through the temptation! Good Luck!

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It's a surprise either way -- You either find out at 16 (or 20w) or at 40. I wanted to find out because I am a planner and I wanted a gender specific room. I also love being able to refer to him by name -- I've grown so much closer to him because of it! This being said, if you really want to be team green, go for it!

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This is my 3rd...I was team
for #1 and found out with my second.
I'm staying this last time! I found finding out to be kind of anticlimactic. But, that being said, I'm not really a planner and don't really care about the yellow and green clothing.

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I am a HUGE planner. I am staying team this time. I am so excited to find out during the delivery/csection.

I found out with my twins and sort of regret it.

You will get plenty of clothes when the baby is born.

I am doing a grey and white nursery and then waiting to decorate until the baby is born and then adding pink accents if its a girl and aqua/orange if it is a boy. I have stuff picked out for both and will just order it when I have the baby.

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A good friend told me that you are going to be surprised in the delivery room no matter if you know or not

I would find out, IMO. It's still the "it's a..." moment, just sooner.

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Just to add a bit more, I didn't have a gender neutral nursery. I painted the room a pale blue/grey and picked out sheets for both, one was blue and yellow and the other was blue and coral. I just purchased the set after the baby was born which is fine because the baby wasn't even in there. I decorated the rest of the room with pinks after she was born. Also IMO if you are team green you really don't get many clothes at your shower, but people send them or bring them after the baby is born. I got almost no clothing items at my shower save for a few onsies and neutral sleepers. It worked out awesome because I got almost every single item I actually needed! I think when you know the gender you get a ton more clothes and non necessities.

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Posted by MaPetiteLoutre

in my opinion... pink/blue clothes can wait.

if youre up for waiting...try to.

i plan to not find out because i want that surprise too.

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If you can wait, then wait. I am not sure what I will do yet.

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I found out with #1 and felt so close to him the entire pregnancy because I referred to him by name. When he came out, it was like I already knew him. I found out this one is a baby girl and I'm already starting to refer to her by her name and I love it! For me, I love that I'm going to have this relationship with her now for the rest of my pregnancy. I also wanted to be able to paint DS's room purple if it was a girl and buy her cute new clothes since almost none of his will work! It's totally personal decision. Good luck!!