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I think the people that blame FB for cheating are the same ones that blame the "other woman" or "other man" for their spouse cheating.

Hate the player, not the game.

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ITA with the OP.

Facebook is not the problem in any relationship nor does it make it easier to cheat. I think that if someone is going to cheat they'll do it at any time and in any means avaialble to them. It doesn't cause the drama people cause the drama.

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Other, it's some of the people who are evil

Message edited 10/23/2009 1:43:19 PM.

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People will blame every problem in their life on someone or someTHING else. FB is just an example. People were cheating on their partners long before social networking sites existed. It is foolish to think otherwise.

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From my perspective, the problem with FB is not so much that people are cheating or whatever, but more that people devote more time and energy to it than it deserves. Sometimes that manifests itself in searching out former friends or exes, sometimes it's just wasting time screwing around on there.

My DH and I both have accounts. The thing I think we both get annoyed with is the time the other one spends on the computer, but I think if FB weren't there, it would be LIF, or email or all the other geeky computer sites my DH goes to. It's time that could be better spent about 80% of the time.

I have to say I am shocked at some of the info I see my FB friends putting out there. It's not that I don't think these things aren't shared IRL, it's more that there is a much wider audience and I think people should use more discretion, not less, when they post things as opposed to telling them to people.

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IMO Facebook is what you make it.

The privacy settings allow you to customize.

You have the option to ignore requests from people.

For me I only accept real friends/family.

I am always mindful of what I post.

I keep my status updates simple...literally what I am eating or a joke or something like that..sometimes a quote.

Any private business..I send a private message.

I do not accept friend requests from ex bf's or anyone I dated.

I do not accept requests from anyone I would not share pictures with.

It is pretty simple.

People who put their life story on there, accept people they dont like/drama...friend request ex's and hang out...etc...are the same people who pull that $hit IRL w/o FB...

JMO

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Posted by BabyBoy

if FB causes relationship problems, the relationship already had a problem

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I read some of the comments and how FB takes away from family time.

What about football when some DH are glued to the TV for hours and you can't interupt or ask to help with the kids?

What about video games?

There is always something.

It's FB now! It was video games 10 years ago. It's the football/baseball [insert game in season] widow thread, etc...

If you think your spouse is spending too much time on the computer, have a talk with him/her. But don't blame a website.

Is LIF evil????? Because a lot of poster here spend a lot of hours here every day.

Message edited 10/23/2009 6:12:05 PM.

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Message edited 11/29/2011 2:29:50 PM.

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Facebook isn't evil, the people who use it in a manner that is evil are the problem. Don't know how that's not clear. If you're a cheater, you're a cheater. If you're a drama queen who starts sh-t, you're a drama queen who starts sh-t. Facebook doesn't just make you those things.

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Nah. If you are a good person with a solid marriage, I don't think a simple website is capable of destroying you or your marriage.

HOWEVER, if you lack certain responsibility, maturity or morals to begin with, or your marriage is on shaky ground, well, then, yes I think facebook may lead to future problems, but it's not just facebook - it could be ANYTHING.

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I do not AT ALL see it as an evil. Some people are just WAY too immature and use any medium to act like teenagers

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One of DH's cousins gave him some wise advice years ago. He told him that it's important to protect your relationship - don't put yourself in a situation where temptation could arise.

It doesn't mean that you can't have lunch with someone, or friend them on FB, but by the same token, you shouldn't be secretive about it or in a situation that could lead to more.

Lunch with a group of work friends is different than a twice a week, one on one lunch with someone of the opposite sex where it's too easy to start sharing hopes, desires, problems, etc. that could lead to an emotional bonding.

FB makes it easier for something casual to develop into more because it doesn't require someone to physically be present, but in the end, it's the players, not the game, that causes or could prevent the problem.

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at another point of my life, I could see it being drama filled...but it has been drama free for me - but I am happy that most of my life is drama free as well.

for me, it's keeping in touch with family and old and new friends - oh and wasting time...