Facebook is evil [Poll]

I keep hearing that FB is evil and the cause of problems in relationships, friendships, etc.

Do you really believe that?

What I think is that it's merely a medium to bring out feelings in people and that the site is not the problem; it's the people using it.

Whether it be decreased morality, jealousy, secretive emails and comments, forming high school-ish cliques, sharing secrets you shouldn't have, etc. it's the PEOPLE who are doing this, not Facebook. Blame the people responsible for not thinking before they post something or or being less than trustworthy. If it didn't happen on Facebook, it would probably happen somewhere else at some other point.

I'm just so surprised at how often I hear this, like if Facebook didn't exist, suddenly everything would be right with the world.

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If someone has it in them to cheat they would still do it without FB. If FB didn't exist we would be calling something else evil cell phones, bars, chat rooms, instant messenger, telegraphs, smoke signals........

Facebook doesn't ruin relationships people who don't reaspect their relationship ruin them.

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I think that if Facebook didn't exist then people would find another way to cheat/flirt/whatever. They are gonna do it regardless of the forum.

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I agree with you...facebook is not the root of all evil

People cheated before fb

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FB is not evil.

Nobody forces you to say you have a new dog, to contact your old GF/BF, make internet flirtations, critizice your boss/work, etc..

You can remove friends/family.

You can have better judgment and not disclose your personal life/sex life.

It's no different that picking who you talk to at work, gym, family reunion, engage in a hot steamy affair at work, people from the train, etc...

People WILL talk about what you say to others. Plain and simple. FB or not

FB is not to blame. The idiocy of people is.

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I agree that it's the people. I think of it like drunk driving. You can drink, but if you decide to drive then that is a poor choice on your behalf and the alcohol can't be blamed.

One of the most common problems I hear is friending of exes. It's one thing to friend an ex, but it's another to take that to another place. Facebook doesn't do that, the people do.

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I don't think FB is evil. It just makes it easier for people to be evil.

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People are shady with or without FB. FB just makes it easier for some.

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it's not fb, it's the users. yes, fb makes it easier but everyone needs to take responsibility for their own actions. think before you type.

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if FB causes relationship problems, the relationship already had a problem

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Facebook isn't evil, it's a scapegoat.

And to be perfectly honest, whenever I hear that people got caught cheating through FB I want to tell the cheater that he/she is an IDIOT for not realizing that they left a trail.

I say the same thing to every guy I know who was busted by his cell phone. Except for the one guy I knew who trained his wh*re how to respond to a phone call from his girlfriend. His FB page is like Fort Knox.

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I think people are RIDICULOUS with FB. Its crazy. If you are going to let a WEBSITE ruin your life, you already had issues to begin with as far as Im concerned. I think some put WAY TO MUCH into it. ITs a Freaking website. Not another woman/man. Geez.

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I have two ex's as friends, long lost family members, car club friends, old highschool friends, inlaws, ex and current coworkers on FB. Even one from LIF !!!!

Its an interesting mix of friend circles. I have had to actually censor what I say more because of the impressions people seem to have of me.

My lay back cussin friends are cool and a great relaxation to talk to and hang out with but our topics of conversation dont sit well with the inlaws.

No one gets the CAI and TB conversations my car friends talk about except them, FTW!

Its almost more hassel than its worth.

Those mixes I think contribute to misunderstandings and fights.

I just try to keep my comments to a minimum on FB, be as generic as possible and keep stuff to the inbox mostly. Farmville, Tiny Adventures, Soroity Sisters, Happy Aquarium and quizzes only.. haha


ETA: i will say this. I never realized what a wide range of friends I have until facebook. LOL Atheists to Mormons, Moms to College kids, Professionals to bums its a fantastic mix up!

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I didnt vote because I dont think it is evil but I do think it is a waste of time.

I have said it before and gotten flamed I dont have and account and neither does dh, we made the decision as a couple not to.

I love my Dh and he loves me but like all marriages we have our good days and bad days, good months and bad months. And I am sure throughout the duration of our marriage we may have good YEARS and bad YEARS.

It is very easy to get caught up with a relationship you had when things were easier (highschool,freshman year,or in the early days of your career maybe) before the mortage had to be paid, the cc bills came in, the baby needs a bath and the dog needs to be fed. Thinking about the "good times" and not focusing on your marriage - one thing can lead to another and you have a disaster on your hands. not to mention that after the dust clears and you really end up with Mary or Johnny highschoold the bills will still come and the baby will still need a bottle - rinse and repeat.

I also feel it distracts people from real life not only the unpleaseant but the fun of real life - they get to brag about how awesome they are, all the while ignoring the laundry, the work they have to do the actual living they could be doing the good and the bad.

You asked for our thoughts and I feel like ppl cover it up with if a person was going to cheat they would - really then why have I seen and heard A TON of horror stories related to FB in the past 2 years that would curl your hair? Sorry if I offended anyone but if you really think about it if you are not posting to far away family of for business reasons WHY are you wasting away on FB?

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Posted by greenfreak

I keep hearing that FB is evil and the cause of problems in relationships, friendships, etc.

Do you really believe that?

What I think is that it's merely a medium to bring out feelings in people and that the site is not the problem; it's the people using it.

Whether it be decreased morality, jealousy, secretive emails and comments, forming high school-ish cliques, sharing secrets you shouldn't have, etc. it's the PEOPLE who are doing this, not Facebook. Blame the people responsible for not thinking before they post something or or being less than trustworthy. If it didn't happen on Facebook, it would probably happen somewhere else at some other point.

I'm just so surprised at how often I hear this, like if Facebook didn't exist, suddenly everything would be right with the world.[/QUOUTE] I personally dont believe facebook is the cause of all problems,I think it is the "Person" You can alway's work things out between eachother or whoever the person has the problems with, I think now adays there are worse things in the world than to hold grudges against a person because of something that "Could" have happen years ago or recently , Its just plain immature and as adults you should learn to try to work things out, As for me i wouldn't want to have this guilt over my head that i couldn't work out a problem with a friend or someone i done wrong to, Because what if god forbid something should happen to me i would want closure and forgiveness, I think as adults we should talk like civialized human beings and not talk behind peoples back, or e-mails just talk to that person through e-mail or call them on the phone and just have it out.As for cheating if your married and your on facebook than as a commited person that person should know better..So my answer is No facebook is not evil.. I hope i explained it good enough..

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One of my Aunts un-friended another one of my Aunts on FB (they are SILs around 50 years old). DH & I ed and ed when we heard that one.

The interesting thing I have found is the various random mutual friends on FB that I never would have thought in a million years might know each other.

Its like seeing the whole "its a small world" thing in action.

I happen to think its kinda cool!

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i use facebook and have many friends and family on it. it is okay but it causes drama sometimes.