Does anyone plan on telling your family early into your PG?

If we are PG this month, I will get BFP around the 18th. Christmas would be a perfect time to tell everyone important, because I am hosting it at our house. But I would really only be around 5 weeks PG. Would you say something?

These are people who I would tell if god forbid something happened.

I originally wanted to wait until about 8 weeks for family, but how nice would it be to tell our parents at Christmas they are going to be grandparents.

WWYD?

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Only my mom probably, I'd like to wait till I see the doctor to tell my dad and ILs.

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We will tell our immediate family and respective best-friends only at the beginning and the rest when we pass the 3 month threshold.

Our family and best-friends are well aware of our infertility and how long we have been TTC. They are actually calling after every RE visit to see when the IUI will take place (which will be either Tuesday or Wednesday of next week---hopefully )

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I'm 5 weeks now and only told my parents. By christmas I will be seven weeks and I have a sono at 6 and possibly another by christmas so I will probably tell immediate family and everyone else at 12 weeks.

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We told my mom a week after I found out (5 weeks pregnant). I had to tell someone. We waited until we saw a heartbeat (6 weeks), to tell DH's parents and our siblings. We then told our best friends, but the rest of the world had to wait until 12 weeks .

There is no right or wrong way to do it. It's a personal decision you and DH have to make. Some people don't want to have to "un-tell" everyone God forbid something goes wrong, and others say they would need the support of their close family and friends.

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I am in the exact same boat as you. My last period was November 19th so the 18th is when I would find out if I was pg or not.

Not sure what we will do...we will probably wait til the doctor at least confirms the pregnancy by a blood test (whenever that would be)....

I try not to think about it too much though because i don't want to jinx it

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We plan to tell our parents and my brother and sister in law on Christmas eve. I'll be 6 weeks. I have my first doctor's appt. this Monday, but won't probably have a sono until after we tell them. With our first child, we waited until after we saw the heartbeat to tell our parents, but this time, we decided it would be so nice to tell them for Christmas, plus, like you said, if god forbid something happened, we would tell them anyway, so there is no reason to wait. We'll wait until 12 weeks to tell everyone else though.

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I told my parents at 6 weeks. I would need them regardless of the outcome. Everyone else found out at 12 weeks

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I got my BFP the day before Mother's Day and told my parents, grandparents, aunt and uncle the following day.

Everything was FINE until much later in the 2nd tri.

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i told my family as soon as i got back confirmation of rising betas ~5weeks. they all knew we did IVF so they were all pretty much waiting to find out if it worked, so it wasnt really any kind of surprise. now i feel like everyone knows and ill be 12 weeks next week. i guess i still have the acquaintances to tell, and ill formally come out at work (even though most of them know too).

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We didn't tell our parents and siblings until 8 weeks. We wanted to wait for after the 12 week appt to tell everyone else and thank god we did because everything took a turn for the worst. Next time I get pregnant I will continue the same thing, not tell anyone until after that 12 week appt because it would have been a lot harder telling other family & friends that I was no longer pregnant. I had the support from my parents & siblings... that was enough.

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We absolutely will. With DD#1, we told our families right away. Pregnancy #2- we told our families right away. We ended up miscarrying and it was nice to have the support. Pregnancy #3 (the following month) we DIDN'T tell anyone- not a soul, because of what we had just gone through. We ended up having another m/c and a d&c. It was extremely hard having to tell our families that we were pregnant but lost it. It was so hard carrying that burden alone. I will never subject myself to that again. The minute I get my BFP again, we will be telling EVERYONE; even the mailman- lol... God forbid anything happens, we'd like to have the support of family AND friends

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We plan on telling our immediate family right away. If god forgid something happened, we would share it with them.

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We've always told immediate family and close friends right away. I don't really understand not telling. Wouldn't you want support from these people if worst case scenario you miscarry?

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Theres no way I could wait if I got my BFP shortly before Christmas. I would def. tell at Christmas time if I were in your shoes. I was actually hoping to get my BFP earlier this month so I can surprise everyone at Christmas and it wouldnt have been 8 weeks but that didnt work out. But I def. would not have been able to wait!

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I wont make the same mistake again... i told my mom and she told everyone... next time i will still tell her but i will make sure that she doesnt tell anyone else...

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Im also due the same weekend as you. Although Christmas would be a perfect opportunity to tell our family, Im definitely waiting to see a heartbeat this time around.

As a PP said, it's your own personal choice and it has to be what's right for you. For me, I dont think Ill even fully believe it until I see a heartbeat.

GL!!!

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will prob wait till atleast 6 weeks cause i want to pass where we mc last time

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I will find out on the 22nd. I have every intention of telling my family and close friends if it happens.

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we didnt tell anyone tell 8 weeks...and that was just my parents and DH's parents (and maybe a few liw'ing girls)

but as far as the rest of family...well we just told them this weekend