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Waste06
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
For the sake of not double, triple and quadruple quoting, I agree with those who sided with the neighbors.
I wouldn't want ANYONE living in a car on my street. I'd complain too.
The girl is 21. If she thinks she old enough and responsible enough to leave her parents house, then she should behave like an adult and get a job and rent an apt. somewhere.
Oh and great boyfriend she has who is OK with living like this. Way to be man.
If she wants to live with her boyfriend and mooch of the parents, then let them move into HIS parents house.
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
These parents are doing the old "tough love" thing...and I think they are TOTALLY right.
They didn't kick this 21 year old out and say "go live in a car".
They said, If you want to live here with us without your boyfriend, you can- no prob. You want to live with the boyfriend, then you'll have to find your own place.
What's wrong with that?? This "kid" has probably been pestering them FOREVER about letting the boyfriend move in. The parents won't have it, and I don't blame them.
Where are HIS parents? Can't they live with them?
The kids will wisen up. Either the cops will stop them from living in the car, or they will find it wasn't such a great idea after all.
The fact that they are living in a car PARKED RIGHT IN FRONT OF THE PARENTS HOUSE says it all.
They probably think that either:
a- the parents will get soooo embarassed and will ask them to come live in the house or
b- the parents will feel "bad" that their daughter is in the car.
Hahhaha...I hope those parents stick to their guns. See how long it lasts! 
Oh yeah...ETA- the neighbors are TOTALLY right to complain. If I were the parents, I'd call in some anonymous complaints as well!
Message edited 9/20/2007 4:44:56 PM.
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itkocak
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
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| Posted 9/20/07 4:46 PM |
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NS1976
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
Oh you definately have a right to your opinion..I am not saying anything about that. I just dont understand your opinion is all. I mean, I dont HAVE to..and you dont HAVE to explain yourself but I was just saying I dont get it is all.
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| Posted 9/20/07 4:48 PM |
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Goobster
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
in fact, if the neighbors were complaining, I'D probably encourage them to call the cops myself
Too much of this babying crap going on with these kids today
I was thinkign the same thing. Amazing the parents would turn and get annoyed at the neighbor.
I wouldn't want to have that living on my street.
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| Posted 9/20/07 4:51 PM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
Posted by imthekevinofcindyandkevin
Firstly we do not know what kind of character the boyfriend is. It is obvious though that the daughter is more influenced by him then her parents.
She is 21 years old. She is not a child.
Her parents have most likely, like the majority of parents, tried to instill good values to her.
They told her that the boyfriend can not live in THEIR house. This is their right and I agree with them.
If she thinks she has all the answers and refuses to abide by her parents rules then she is making that choice.
I think, as a parent myself, faced with a similar situation I would not give in and let her have her boyfriend live in the house. What happens next then? You come home from work and find them having sex in your bed?
Let her deal with the consequences of her actions and let's see where the boyfriend is when things get really tough.
Her parents will always be there for her. I doubt the boyfriend will.
It's a hard lesson she will have to learn.
you are right... I def agree w/you.
my only issue is that everyone is so hung up on saying she's a 21 yr old adult. but as a parent, do your kids and their personal safety not matter when they reach that age? 
I just think it is SO dangerous!! there are a lot of sick people in this world. I think the parents should call the cops on them. at least a jail cell is safer than out in the street.
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Goobster
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
obviously she doesn't have the $$ for an apt.
Then obviously she NEEDS her parents still and is not mature enough/ready to make such huge decisions about moving out of their house to live with the bf.
And I assume they are hoping she will come to that reality. So if the neighbor must call, maybe that will scare some sense into this brat who clearly wants to manipulate her parents and break them down to give in. Good for them for not giving in and that is why I WOULD encourage the neighbor to call.
That is where they went wrong, getting annoyed at the neighbor!
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
Posted by Goobster
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
obviously she doesn't have the $$ for an apt.
Then obviously she NEEDS her parents still and is not mature enough/ready to make such huge decisions about moving out of their house to live with the bf.
And I assume they are hoping she will come to that reality. So if the neighbor must call, maybe that will scare some sense into this brat.
why are you defending her parents? they're PO'd at the neighbors for wanting to complain to the town 
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| Posted 9/20/07 4:56 PM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
Posted by Goobster
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
in fact, if the neighbors were complaining, I'D probably encourage them to call the cops myself
Too much of this babying crap going on with these kids today
I was thinkign the same thing. Amazing the parents would turn and get annoyed at the neighbor.
I wouldn't want to have that living on my street.
hell, my father would call the cops himself
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| Posted 9/20/07 4:57 PM |
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
WOW, I didn't think this would turn into 3 pages.
To answer a few questions:
1. The daughter actually does have a job, she's the one who saved up for a car so she can get back and forth to work, since her parents won't do that anymore.
2. The boyfriend (22 yrs old) has left and was kicked out numerous times from his home because of smoking pot, not having a job and stealing.
I have told my friend what Judge Judy has said many times "If his mother is tired of helping him and wants nothing to do with him, he's bad news".
Hopefully the daughter will come around, realize he's bad news and goes home to her parents.
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| Posted 9/20/07 5:01 PM |
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itkocak
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
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jellybean78
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
Posted by Erin0602
For the sake of not double, triple and quadruple quoting, I agree with those who sided with the neighbors.
I wouldn't want ANYONE living in a car on my street. I'd complain too.
The girl is 21. If she thinks she old enough and responsible enough to leave her parents house, then she should behave like an adult and get a job and rent an apt. somewhere.
Oh and great boyfriend she has who is OK with living like this. Way to be man.
If she wants to live with her boyfriend and mooch of the parents, then let them move into HIS parents house.
ITA...she's 21 years old..you want to move out that's your business but go get an apt or live in a shelter...don't mess up the neighborhood!
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JessInCA
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
Posted by NewlyMrs
I applaud the parents! They are holding their ground and rules. It can't be easy to constantly be battling with your kids and then to see them choosing to live out of a car. it's not saying much of the boyfriend to let her live like that.
remember she is 21!!! Well old enough to get jobs and earn their own way!
ITA!
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lvdolphins
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
Posted by Mssissy
WOW, I didn't think this would turn into 3 pages.
To answer a few questions:
1. The daughter actually does have a job, she's the one who saved up for a car so she can get back and forth to work, since her parents won't do that anymore.
2. The boyfriend (22 yrs old) has left and was kicked out numerous times from his home because of smoking pot, not having a job and stealing.
I have told my friend what Judge Judy has said many times "If his mother is tired of helping him and wants nothing to do with him, he's bad news".
Hopefully the daughter will come around, realize he's bad news and goes home to her parents.
The daughter needs to wake up and get rid of HIM. She needs to respect her parents.
I agree with the neighbors.
It's "Tough Love' and the parents maybe should get a little "tougher" and not allow her to shower there either.
Sometimes, its NOT the parents, Its the "Friends".
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| Posted 9/20/07 5:38 PM |
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Ophelia
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
Posted by nrthshgrl
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Parents like what? 
Prents that would KICK their daughter out of the house with no where to go...that is awful and they should be ashamed of themselves....I can never understand a parent doing that...period
Actually I think kicking her out was ok. Parents shouldn't be held hostage to the whims of a 21 year old that wants her boyfriend to move in.
I think kicking her out in a half-assed way is the problem.
um me too.
If my adult offspring is disrespectful to me living under my roof, then guess what...kicked to the curb.
get a job. go to school. I would however, also have no problem with the neighbor calling the town.
at some point, you know right from wrong. mommy and daddy can only take so much.
she's probably waiting for her parents to cave in and let them stay (which they have probably done all her life). it would do her some good to get the town called on her.
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| Posted 9/20/07 5:54 PM |
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LightUpOurLife
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
Posted by Whamtastic
She's 21 years old. They're not FORCING her to live that way, she should get a job and rent an apartment like the rest of us.
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Jax430
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
I think the neighbor is absolutely right for complaining. I wouldn't want someone living in a car on my street. I wonder where she will go next. This WOMAN has the choice to respect her parents' rules and live in their house without her boyfriend, or she and her boyfriend can be actual adults and find an appropriate place to live. It's her choice. Her parents did not kick her out, only said that the bf couldn't live there, which is 100% within their right!
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LightUpOurLife
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
p.s. Where is HE taking a shower? 
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| Posted 9/20/07 6:03 PM |
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nicrae
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
I totally agree!!!
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Goobster
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
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obviously she doesn't have the $$ for an apt.
Then obviously she NEEDS her parents still and is not mature enough/ready to make such huge decisions about moving out of their house to live with the bf.
And I assume they are hoping she will come to that reality. So if the neighbor must call, maybe that will scare some sense into this brat.
why are you defending her parents? they're PO'd at the neighbors for wanting to complain to the town
I am not defending them in regards to them having an issue with the neighbor. I am defending the fact that they have not "given in" In regards to letting the BF move in.
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| Posted 9/20/07 6:10 PM |
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
She succeeded in embarassing her parents alright.
I agree with the parents-tough love..more "kids" these days need it. 21 is still a kid in my book. I have a 21 year old nephew and he has much to learn..he is in no way an adult in my eyes. I don't agree with the parents about the neighbors though.
My parents gave my brother some tough love and he decided to live in his car for 2 weeks. He would shower at his job. This does not make my parents awful people. This killed them inside, but they had no choice and it was his choice to live in his car.
I think no matter what the parents do and no matter how much they give, sometimes it's never enough.
My house, my rules..grow up fast and learn the ways of the world sweetie, not everyone can be manipulated.
and if the neighbors call...so be it.
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Goobster
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
Posted by Goobster
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
obviously she doesn't have the $$ for an apt.
Then obviously she NEEDS her parents still and is not mature enough/ready to make such huge decisions about moving out of their house to live with the bf.
And I assume they are hoping she will come to that reality. So if the neighbor must call, maybe that will scare some sense into this brat who clearly wants to manipulate her parents and break them down to give in. Good for them for not giving in and that is why I WOULD encourage the neighbor to call.
That is where they went wrong, getting annoyed at the neighbor!
Take a look at my last line...I was far from defending the parents in regards to getting annoyed w/ the neighbor. I side with the neighbors!!!
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| Posted 9/20/07 6:13 PM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
Simple response:
Their house. Their rules.
Why is this even a debate?
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| Posted 9/20/07 6:17 PM |
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
The parents and the girl are having a standoff. The girl believes that if she stays right by the house, the parents are likely to cave and let her move in, boyfriend in tow. If they do not want the guy living in their house, they should not tolerate him living on the edge of their property.
I side with the neighbor. Also, when I come home late at night, I would not want to know that there is a guy that I probably know nothing about loitering on my street.
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| Posted 9/20/07 6:43 PM |
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Re: Do you think the neighbor is wrong?
Posted by BJandDan
p.s. Where is HE taking a shower?
Exactly what I was thinking. He must be pretty ripe by now.
The daughter is probably going to get tired of this soon enough. How long can someone who is used to living under her parent's roof going to put up with living in a car?
Give me your address, I'll call the police myself. 
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