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I am so sorry you have to make this decision. In my opinion I would only put two back, mainly because that is what your DH wants you to do. I know you said you did not give DH much of a choice when going ahead with IVF, so maybe you should listen to his heart on this decision.

I have read about your financial situation, and understand that this is your last chance for a while, but ask yourself this, which would hurt you more? Having to wait some time to try again or possibly being faced with selective reduction?

Maybe talk to your Dr. and ask if you did get pg with triplets if he would suggest selective reduction?

Whatever you decide, we are all here for you!

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I know someone who could not get pg, and she did IVF
She froze 4
The first one did not take on her first try of IVF

She did IVF 4 more times and every single one took.

I duno, i think maybe the first one for some reason doesnt take and then the 2nd will. I have alot of hope for you!

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Wow this is a really tough decision and I wish that i had the answers for you. Whatever it is that you choose I wish you the best of luck. I truly think that you are an amazing person who deserves the best. I truly am praying that this works for you! I know that you don't know me and I am sure that you have many many people supporting you but I will offer an ear if you ever need someone to talk to.

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Wow..it must be such a difficult decision for you. I can't put myself in your place but I would listen to your heart. I hope that you find peace in which ever option you choose. I wish you all the best and like many other posters have said you have helped so many on this board and you deserve all that you hope for and more.

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What a tough decision Hayley. I don't know if this is helpful or not but I think whatever you decide is what's meant to be. Go with your gut and try not to look back and say what if. You are obviously going to choose what you think is BEST. Don't doubt your insightfulness... as so many others have said it on this board you are incredible! I wish you so much luck!

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Sorry you have to make such a tough decision If I can offer any insight (on the decision part, not medical) it would be for you to ask yourself one question... Which outcome would be worse in your eyes and in your heart? Would you rather be told that nothing took and you now have to wait or that all three took and you may have to make the other choice? I guess the only way you are really going to know what is in your heart is to think about which outcome would hurt more, KWIM? Good Luck!!

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