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bayla
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Re: Did I overreact (spanking related)
Posted by MrsRivera
Posted by twinkletoes807
I think you totally did the right thing. 
ITA, I don't think you were out of line at all. You warned her as to what was coming if she did it again--she chose the consequence
I agree you did what you had to do.
My DS has done the haha thing too, 2x's exactly and I got sooo freakin mad. One time I first tried to to take toys away, he just laughed more, so I ended up ignoring him (very very hard-literally went room to room, any room he was in or followed me I moved to the next one while ignoring the laughter), b/c I kept walking away and not paying attention, he got so mad not to get a reaction from me, he eventually stopped. The 2nd time he got timeout. I put the chair facing the wall, sort of cornered in and put him in it. Their was no where to escape too. He laughed a couple more times, then stated to cry b/c he saw i meant business lol. Gotta love the timeout chair
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Posted 6/12/10 8:17 AM  |
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Re: Did I overreact (spanking related)
Posted by JennyPenny
I am not BTDT, but NO I do not think you overreacted. She needs to know that her behavior (downright defiance in this case) is absolutely unacceptable. I feel that if a swat to the butt is the only way she'll know who's boss- then that's what I would do!
agreed.
I dont think a few swats on the bottom are a sin in life. and if need be I will do the same.
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| Posted 6/12/10 8:43 AM |
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Janice
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Re: Did I overreact (spanking related)
heading down to my pool around 11ish today. alllllll the way down in waxahw.
bring the kids down if you want!
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| Posted 6/12/10 9:05 AM |
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: Did I overreact (spanking related)
Posted by SweetApril
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Well it seems like it worked so ....
my theory has always been whatever works.
ITA you didn't spank her hard, she learned her lesson. My parents occasionally spanked me as a child and I harbor no resentment and am quite normal!!
ITA!! I was spanked as a child and I am quite fine.
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| Posted 6/12/10 9:29 AM |
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Xelindrya
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Re: Did I overreact (spanking related)
Posted by JennyPenny
I am not BTDT, but NO I do not think you overreacted. She needs to know that her behavior (downright defiance in this case) is absolutely unacceptable. I feel that if a swat to the butt is the only way she'll know who's boss- then that's what I would do!
I agree. I am not against an occasional spank here and there. I do believe it sends a very clear message.
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| Posted 6/12/10 9:49 AM |
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SoinLove
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Re: Did I overreact (spanking related)
Posted by nrthshgrl
Well it seems like it worked so ....
my theory has always been whatever works.
ITA. As a parent you do what works for you. I think people telling you otherwise are just going to make you feel guilty.
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| Posted 6/12/10 9:51 AM |
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Dani922
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Re: Did I overreact (spanking related)
I don't necessarily think spanking is that horrible if you aren't really hurting the child. I personally prefer not to do it, but I don't think you overreated. Kayleigh is going through a HORRIBLE anti-listening phase. She is all about pushing my buttons & testing her boundaries. I'ts TOUGH. I feel like all I do is yell at her these days & then I feel so bad every night, but really, at the time, there just wasn't much as to do. She doesn't believe I mean business until I start yelling. For Miki, it seems the spanking was a sign that you were serious. 
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| Posted 6/12/10 10:19 AM |
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FelAndJon
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Re: Did I overreact (spanking related)
I agree with most of the AP, if it worked for you, then it worked It is obvious from your post that this isn't something you are going to use as a "typical"punishment, you used it as a last resort. Additionally, I think what is most important is the Miki understands that mommy is going to follow through on the treat and she knows the consequences.
Last night I had to threaten with "calling Aunt Stacey" if J misbehaved. It worked! I don't even put J in time out anymore, it is the threat of it that works. Hopefully this was a one time thing for her and the threat of it will be what works in the future
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| Posted 6/12/10 10:44 AM |
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KateDevine
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Re: Did I overreact (spanking related)
Don't feel bad
The TO wasn't worked, and you didn't beat her, you smacked her tush. I've done it.
I was spanked, just like that, and my parents are the most loving, best parents I could ever ask for.
I hate that spanking is made akin to beating these days, a smack on the tush is a lot different than a kid having bruises
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| Posted 6/12/10 10:48 AM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Did I overreact (spanking related)
No, you absolutely did not overreact. However...I have a VERY VERY strong willed little girl who can be fresher than fresh on many occasions and I have found that if I completely ignore things like Miki did with the "haha", etc., that she eventually realizes it doesn't get a rise out of me and isn't remotely worth doing.
It's SOOOO hard to keep my cool sometimes, but I've gotten pretty good at ignoring her behavior like that because I was constantly punishing her for doing things like that and I realized that I was just reinforcing the behavior with negative attention, which was just fine by her.
So, it's drastically reduced her behavior to consistently ignore it. I don't ignore everything, but things like Miki did, I do because I know Ava's just trying to get a rise out of me.
Hang in there, it does get better
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| Posted 6/12/10 11:56 AM |
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