DD getting scratched in daycare

Just wanted to get some advice on how to handle this. My 2 year old DD has been coming home from daycare with scratches on her face and neck in the past few weeks. Daycare is aware because when my DH went to go pick her up the first time this happened she was scratched on her face/eye area, DD said in front of the daycare workers "Girls name" scratched me... and the daycare workers acknowledged that yes the other girl had scratched her. She has come home with more scratches two more times since then on her face & neck and said it was this girl that scratched her. Now daycare has been texting me that my DD has seemed nervous in the past few weeks and wanted to know if anything has changed at home. It hasn't. I'm guessing it's because of this girl but I am not sure how to handle this. WWYD? Should I ask for them to be separated?

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I'd go to the director and see what they suggest.
I'd definitely want my DD separated from this girl though- as hard as that is in a daycare setting.
I get that they get scratched, bit, hit etc and you can't really control it at that age but repeat offenders should not be tolerated and if you DD seems nervous too- man I'd be furious.

DD getting scratched in daycare

Has it been documented at the daycare? I know at our center it gets documented. I would stress your concern and ask them what actions are being taken to avoid this and then ask what actions they plan to take if issue cant be resolved.

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Thanks. I know they are supposed to document each mark/scratch. I will request that they separate my DD from her if they have not already.

DD getting scratched in daycare

I would be very clear that no nothing has changed at home and it is most likely from this other kid and the situation that she is nervous. Have they been documenting the scratches? We hafta sign off on things like that.

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We went through this with DS - a girl in his group was biting him every other day. Unfortunately there was nothing that could be done; the other parents were aware, all teachers/director was aware. They tried to really "shadow" her but a bite happens SO fast they couldnt always stop it. They had come up with a "punishment" for her that the parents agreed with (not sure what it was, I know they started with a time out) but that didnt work. They tried rewarding her when she had days she didnt bite...that didnt work. It was just a phase for the girl which she outgrew.
Your case is different because it is impacting your daughters actions; she absolutely should not feel nervous or uneasy about daycare. That is not acceptable! I would ask to separate the kids/switch classes if possible. If not possible, ask them to shadow the other girl to try to prevent it/limit her interactions with your DD.

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OMG. No advice.. but just watching my 2 year old go at it with another 2 year old with both parents watching and intervening at a class for the older siblings.... I feel for you! 2 year olds are animals!!! "Mine, mine" the screams! Lol!

Long story short, I ended up separating the two kids. No reason to prolong torture. Not sure you can separate everyone at daycare.

DD getting scratched in daycare

So my DD was the scratcher last year in her 2's class. I got an email and a talking to by her teacher and director asking that we make sure her nails are cut really short, so she can't really hurt anyone, and to please reiterate and enforce no scratching/hitting at home. After a week of constantly talking about how we don't hurt our friends and tell the teacher if something is bothering her, she would proudly come home everyday and say "I didn't hit or scratch anyone today!" We have never had a problem since.
I think you need to let them know that you think her behavior is directly related to this little girl and that they need to talk to the parents. As a parent who was on the other side, I was mortified that DD was acting that way and wanted to put a stop to it immediately.