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BabyBMakes3
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Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
How did you decide between finding a nanny/babysitter for your LO's...or choosing a daycare (in home or center)?
Was it based on finances? Convenience? Personal preference?
I'm having a very difficualt time deciding which option is best for me and i'm curious how some of you made the decision!
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Re: Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
I chose a daycare because it was cheaper than a nanny... my sister has 3 kids and she has a nanny because it actually turned out to be cheaper that way vs. a daycare, and its also more convenient for her...now that the oldest is in Kindergarten she does the school drop off/pick ups... you have to do what is right for you and your family.
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| Posted 12/15/15 10:59 AM |
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ElizaRags35
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Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
In home licensed daycare. I wanted her to have other children to play with instead of only an adult. Also it's less expensive and I don't have to worry about taxes and insurance.
I also didn't want someone in my house.
My 21 month old is absolutely thriving in daycare. She has learned so much and loves her friends and teachers. She literally closes the door on me when I drop her off and tries to hide when DH picks her because she doesn't want to leave.
We chose in home because it was significantly cheaper than any center we looked at. They are still licensed, regulated, and inspected by the state. What I pay for 2 kids for 4 days a week is about what others pay for 1 week for 1 kid.
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| Posted 12/15/15 11:25 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
I chose a daycare for a few reasons:
1 I trust no one. I don't care how many references or background checks a person has... you hear too many stories of people snapping. At least in a daycare there are several people around, cameras etc.
2- on that same note, neither I nor Dh are at all comfortable with someone being in our home when we aren't there- other than family
2- at daycare there is no need to worry about the caregiver being sick, having an emergency, going on vacation or just up and quitting and leaving you high and dry. The center is open on set days for set hours- period.
3- I wanted the social interaction. DD learned so much in daycare, they potty trained her, taught her everything, she made friends and learned how to be social. Kindergarten transition was a BREEZE for her
4- price. Daycare does seem pricey, yes, but she was there 10 hours a day so if you broke it down per hour, it was like $7 an hour or something like that. Way cheaper than a nanny
Message edited 12/15/2015 11:31:02 AM.
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| Posted 12/15/15 11:30 AM |
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Jenn79
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Re: Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
Posted by NervousNell
I chose a daycare for a few reasons:
1 I trust no one. I don't care how many references or background checks a person has... you hear too many stories of people snapping. At least in a daycare there are several people around, cameras etc.
2- on that same note, neither I nor Dh are at all comfortable with someone being in our home when we aren't there- other than family
2- at daycare there is no need to worry about the caregiver being sick, having an emergency, going on vacation or just up and quitting and leaving you high and dry. The center is open on set days for set hours- period.
3- I wanted the social interaction. DD learned so much in daycare, they potty trained her, taught her everything, she made friends and learned how to be social. Kindergarten transition was a BREEZE for her
4- price. Daycare does seem pricey, yes, but she was there 10 hours a day so if you broke it down per hour, it was like $7 an hour or something like that. Way cheaper than a nanny
Pretty much exactly this! Mines not in kindergarten yet though, but I know it will be a breeze!
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| Posted 12/15/15 11:58 AM |
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nycgirl
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Re: Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
Nanny.
Daycare hours don't work for us.
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| Posted 12/15/15 12:03 PM |
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SLPRunner
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Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
Same as other posters. It is less expensive but almost more important I felt like it would be tough trusting one person alone in my house. I feel more comfortable at a center. Regardless it was tough leaving DS at first, but the staff at my daycare have been so warm and caring. He's only 18 months so I don't care too much yet if he is learning. I will probably move him to a full day pre-school program next year.
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| Posted 12/15/15 12:16 PM |
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Sparrow
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Re: Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
Posted by Jenn79
Posted by NervousNell
I chose a daycare for a few reasons:
1 I trust no one. I don't care how many references or background checks a person has... you hear too many stories of people snapping. At least in a daycare there are several people around, cameras etc.
2- on that same note, neither I nor Dh are at all comfortable with someone being in our home when we aren't there- other than family
2- at daycare there is no need to worry about the caregiver being sick, having an emergency, going on vacation or just up and quitting and leaving you high and dry. The center is open on set days for set hours- period.
3- I wanted the social interaction. DD learned so much in daycare, they potty trained her, taught her everything, she made friends and learned how to be social. Kindergarten transition was a BREEZE for her
4- price. Daycare does seem pricey, yes, but she was there 10 hours a day so if you broke it down per hour, it was like $7 an hour or something like that. Way cheaper than a nanny
Pretty much exactly this! Mines not in kindergarten yet though, but I know it will be a breeze!
Yes, all of this. Plus I don't have to worry if the nanny is actually stimulating, teaching and interactive with them vs looking at Facebook on her phone, watching tv, etc.
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| Posted 12/15/15 1:02 PM |
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melbalalala
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Re: Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
When DD was born 5 years ago daycare wasn't an option, there just wasn't one on our commute without adding 45 minutes or so. So we had a nanny. (I work p/t)
I thought one day I might consider daycare but I think we'll have a nanny until DS (now 2) goes to kindergarten:
1. I liked them having non-stop one-on-one attention at a very young age, DD started preschool at 3 and DS will do the same and jumped right into the social scene.
2. I liked them being on their own schedule and napping in their own cribs.
3. I'm a germaphobe and wouldn't be able to handle all of the illnesses that come in through daycare.
4. When they do get sick, I can leave them with a sitter. A PP said that a nanny can call in sick or go on a vacation but a daycare is always open. While that may be true I guarantee you lose a fraction of days to a sick nanny than you do to a sick kid you have to stay home from work to take care of because they can't go to day care. Also, I don't pay the nanny when she goes on vacation or calls in sick.
5. It's cheaper for a nanny for my p/t schedule than daycare is, for the most part.
I've had five nannies and they've all been extremely trustworthy. I will say, the only negative, is that I feel the need for the house to be clean before they get here so I become a nut the night before getting everything in order.
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| Posted 12/15/15 2:10 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
I WAH and knew Nanny was the best option for me and my kids. No worries about sick days, they could sleep in, naps at home, less germs etc. The negatives are if the nanny is sick, but I had pretty good luck overall. They started pre-school at 4, but if I didnt have twins I would probably do a small 1/2 day preschool around 2-ish for socialization.
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| Posted 12/15/15 2:38 PM |
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alli3131
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Re: Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
Posted by NervousNell
I chose a daycare for a few reasons:
1 I trust no one. I don't care how many references or background checks a person has... you hear too many stories of people snapping. At least in a daycare there are several people around, cameras etc.
2- on that same note, neither I nor Dh are at all comfortable with someone being in our home when we aren't there- other than family
2- at daycare there is no need to worry about the caregiver being sick, having an emergency, going on vacation or just up and quitting and leaving you high and dry. The center is open on set days for set hours- period.
3- I wanted the social interaction. DD learned so much in daycare, they potty trained her, taught her everything, she made friends and learned how to be social. Kindergarten transition was a BREEZE for her
4- price. Daycare does seem pricey, yes, but she was there 10 hours a day so if you broke it down per hour, it was like $7 an hour or something like that. Way cheaper than a nanny
All of this. And I am happy with my decision and have never 2nd guessed it.
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| Posted 12/15/15 3:25 PM |
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Pomegranate5
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Re: Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
Posted by NervousNell
I chose a daycare for a few reasons:
1 I trust no one. I don't care how many references or background checks a person has... you hear too many stories of people snapping. At least in a daycare there are several people around, cameras etc.
2- on that same note, neither I nor Dh are at all comfortable with someone being in our home when we aren't there- other than family
2- at daycare there is no need to worry about the caregiver being sick, having an emergency, going on vacation or just up and quitting and leaving you high and dry. The center is open on set days for set hours- period.
3- I wanted the social interaction. DD learned so much in daycare, they potty trained her, taught her everything, she made friends and learned how to be social. Kindergarten transition was a BREEZE for her
4- price. Daycare does seem pricey, yes, but she was there 10 hours a day so if you broke it down per hour, it was like $7 an hour or something like that. Way cheaper than a nanny
All of this.
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| Posted 12/15/15 3:47 PM |
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DaniJude
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Re: Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
Posted by NervousNell
I chose a daycare for a few reasons:
1 I trust no one. I don't care how many references or background checks a person has... you hear too many stories of people snapping. At least in a daycare there are several people around, cameras etc.
2- on that same note, neither I nor Dh are at all comfortable with someone being in our home when we aren't there- other than family
2- at daycare there is no need to worry about the caregiver being sick, having an emergency, going on vacation or just up and quitting and leaving you high and dry. The center is open on set days for set hours- period.
3- I wanted the social interaction. DD learned so much in daycare, they potty trained her, taught her everything, she made friends and learned how to be social. Kindergarten transition was a BREEZE for her
4- price. Daycare does seem pricey, yes, but she was there 10 hours a day so if you broke it down per hour, it was like $7 an hour or something like that. Way cheaper than a nanny
Same for me.
It was also an easy decision for me because I am SO beyond thrilled with the facility I have had my son in since he was five months old.
And, as time went on, what solidified that for me was my son -- he RUNS into school each morning. He sings on the way there, excited to get there. He just loves it.
And at two years old I am in absolute SHOCK at what he has learned -- it is amazing. The alphabet, counting on his own to 30, spelling his name, saying his full name, his address, the months of the year, the days of the week -- he is even learning a second language!! It is CRAZY. He is so outgoing, speaks in sentences, very clearly, and overall is so upbeat and social.
I dreaded taking him there when he was first in the program, I guilted myself, I felt like an awful parent, I cried. Man, if I knew then what I know now I wouldn't have even given it a second thought!!! I still can't believe the peace of mind and how I can go to work and not worry about him.
I'm beyond thankful that this particular place is so close to my home and that they had an opening for him back when.
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| Posted 12/15/15 3:50 PM |
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Mara1017
LIF Adolescent
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Mara
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Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
I wanted to have a facility for the social interaction and learning. They would not learn nearly as much with a nanny.
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| Posted 12/15/15 4:27 PM |
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Maybe-Baybe
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Re: Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
We chose daycare primarily for financial reasons, but I'm glad we did. DD is getting more interaction with her peers and her teachers than she would with a nanny. I also don't like the idea of trusting a single person to take care of my child and having them in my house all day.
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| Posted 12/15/15 5:28 PM |
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Leb
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Re: Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
Posted by NervousNell
I chose a daycare for a few reasons:
1 I trust no one. I don't care how many references or background checks a person has... you hear too many stories of people snapping. At least in a daycare there are several people around, cameras etc.
2- on that same note, neither I nor Dh are at all comfortable with someone being in our home when we aren't there- other than family
2- at daycare there is no need to worry about the caregiver being sick, having an emergency, going on vacation or just up and quitting and leaving you high and dry. The center is open on set days for set hours- period.
3- I wanted the social interaction. DD learned so much in daycare, they potty trained her, taught her everything, she made friends and learned how to be social. Kindergarten transition was a BREEZE for her
4- price. Daycare does seem pricey, yes, but she was there 10 hours a day so if you broke it down per hour, it was like $7 an hour or something like that. Way cheaper than a nanny
All of this.
Also with one nanny you can burn out easily. It is NOT easy to be with an infant/toddler all day every day.
However I will say growing up I had a nanny. She was effing amazing and my family is still close with her today. She was with me for 12 years until I was in school and doing sports after and no need for her anymore.
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| Posted 12/15/15 7:04 PM |
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MrsM84
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Re: Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
Posted by NervousNell
I chose a daycare for a few reasons:
1 I trust no one. I don't care how many references or background checks a person has... you hear too many stories of people snapping. At least in a daycare there are several people around, cameras etc.
2- on that same note, neither I nor Dh are at all comfortable with someone being in our home when we aren't there- other than family
2- at daycare there is no need to worry about the caregiver being sick, having an emergency, going on vacation or just up and quitting and leaving you high and dry. The center is open on set days for set hours- period.
3- I wanted the social interaction. DD learned so much in daycare, they potty trained her, taught her everything, she made friends and learned how to be social. Kindergarten transition was a BREEZE for her
4- price. Daycare does seem pricey, yes, but she was there 10 hours a day so if you broke it down per hour, it was like $7 an hour or something like that. Way cheaper than a nanny
This 100% -- DH and I didn't even entertain the idea of a nanny or an in-home daycare. We were set on a facility.
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| Posted 12/15/15 7:42 PM |
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MrsW2010
Mommy of two!
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Re: Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
daycare all the way... preps kids for school, has educational curriculum, and is structured which i needed... and more eyes on my child the better... alone with someone i don't know well scares me
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| Posted 12/16/15 11:00 AM |
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HeyJude
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Re: Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
We have always been a daycare family until recently when we were sort of “forced” to use a babysitter for a short time. I NEVER thought I’d be comfortable with someone alone in my home who is not family or very close friend, caring for my child, but we were blessed to find a wonderful woman to care for our baby the last 3 months. But he will return to daycare in January. The biggest reason for going back to daycare is money-babysitter is double what we will pay for daycare. Other reasons to go back to daycare-consistent schedule-our babysitter has called in sick twice (but the fact that a babysitter would watch child when sick is a big plus). With daycare, when the baby is sick, you at least know ahead of time and can plan, when the babysitter calls me at 6:30 am and says she can’t work, it is very stressful. Social interaction in daycare is important to us also.
Really, I’ve been very happy with both. My older 2 kids did great in daycare. If money were no object and I could keep the lady I have now(or someone just like her), I’d stay with the babysitter at least until he was 3 or 4. Good luck with your decision and just go with your instinct.
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| Posted 12/17/15 10:00 AM |
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BabyBMakes3
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Re: Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
Thank you all so much for your responses!!
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| Posted 12/17/15 10:03 AM |
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IVFmiracle
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Re: Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
I am a super picky person. I weighed all options and didn't discount any possible option. We researched Nannies, Nanny shares, in home day day, au pairs, big national chain day cares, and schools specialized in a specific model.
We ended up going with a Montessori school because it met my 3 main criteria
1. Educational model where the focus was on learning
2. Discipline was provided consistently in a way I agreed with and could follow at home.
3. Socialization opportunities
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| Posted 12/18/15 8:41 AM |
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TheDivineMrsM
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Re: Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
Money - a daycare/preschool setting was more cost effective than a nanny.
Availability - I can't call in sick every time my nanny gets the flu / hits traffic / her cat dies. Daycare is always open. Also, DH and I are teachers, so our work hours were in line with daycare. (Granted, we had to pay for early drop off).
Age - DD1 was 2y9m when I went back to work. She needed to be stimulated in a school setting. DD2 was 10m and all the activities were great for her too.
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| Posted 12/18/15 9:22 AM |
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ali120206
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Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
We chose daycare and haven't regretted our decision.
Yes, I've had to take off work when my kids are sick but, I have coworkers who have had to take off when their nannies are sick.
Also - with sickness - I know people who's children that did not attend daycare who have been sick a lot more than mine have!
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| Posted 12/18/15 9:53 AM |
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nicrae
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Re: Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
I've had both.
My DD was in daycare until she went to Kindergarten. We loved it there and it worked for us.
When I had DS #2 we continued to use the same daycare. Two kids in daycare was $$ but again it worked for us.
When I had DS # 3 DD was now in Kindergarten so I had two in daycare and one in a before and aftercare program and we were bleeding money.
The first year of DS # 3 was hell for us. He was sick all the time and we had snow, snow and more snow. Daycare would close because of snow, school would close because of snow, added in the fact that he was sick every other week killed us. We were in a state of panic trying to find someone to watch them all the time and I think all I did was stress out and cry for an entire year.
That is when we decided to get a nanny!
It changed our lives. We were very fortunate that we have a 1 bedroom apartment in our house so she lives with us. She is way cheaper than daycare by over $1000 a month. I never have to worry if someone is sick or there's a snow day because she is always there. I went from taking 15 sick days in one year to taking NONE! The stress level was reduced, my DD could come home on the bus and when my DH goes on business trips I don't need someone to be at my house at 5am so I can leave for work.
I was worried at first that DS # 3 wouldn't be as well developed socially and academically but have found that not to be the case at all. He meets all the same milestones as his brother and sister. He goes to nursery school twice a week for 1/2 a day and has lots of playdates and activities. He's not lacking in anything for not going to daycare.
So I guess it really all depends on your situation 
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| Posted 12/20/15 11:06 AM |
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jessnbrian
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Re: Choosing between Nanny and Daycare...
Posted by NervousNell
I chose a daycare for a few reasons:
1 I trust no one. I don't care how many references or background checks a person has... you hear too many stories of people snapping. At least in a daycare there are several people around, cameras etc.
2- on that same note, neither I nor Dh are at all comfortable with someone being in our home when we aren't there- other than family
2- at daycare there is no need to worry about the caregiver being sick, having an emergency, going on vacation or just up and quitting and leaving you high and dry. The center is open on set days for set hours- period.
3- I wanted the social interaction. DD learned so much in daycare, they potty trained her, taught her everything, she made friends and learned how to be social. Kindergarten transition was a BREEZE for her
4- price. Daycare does seem pricey, yes, but she was there 10 hours a day so if you broke it down per hour, it was like $7 an hour or something like that. Way cheaper than a nanny
All of this. DS is doing AMAZING at daycare, loves his friends, teachers, etc. He loves his time with us, too and there are special mommy daddy weekend traditions we are starting. Our God daughter is with a nanny and they need to change because of major issues at the beginning of this year, but for them it's a fraction of the price of daycare. BUT, they have had major issue may recently. One day she got to the house and was asking where her daughter was... She was in the bathroom with her head in the toilet
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