C-section support

Any other ladies on here having a scheduled c-section? Or maybe there are some BTDT moms that have some advice?

I feel like throughout my pregnancy, I've been reading about going into labor, childbirth, etc. I kind of feel cheated that I don't get to experience childbirth b/c I'm having a c-section.

I've heard stories from both sides. I've heard horror stories and women that wouldn't want it any other way. My mom had 3 c-sections.

I'm just nervous about it and looking for support. Wondering how others are doing who found out they also need a c-section.

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I had a hard time getting pregnant then got pregnant through iui with multiples had to make a tough decision to reduce to twins and had a rough pregnancy. I also felt cheated in the beginning thinking about a c section, but it wasn't bad at all I didn't feel no pain had no anxiety. Afterwards I got up when they said and I was fine. I also ha a cost removed after the c section. You will be so in love that you won't think twice about anything once baby is here. The good thing is baby won't cause you any burning pain

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Is there a reason you are having a c section?

As far as recovery, im 3 weeks out and im pretty much back to normal with little to no pain. I had my staples out at 8 days post and it was like night and day after that. Most people dont even need staples and recoverybis even quicker. And i barely see my inscision line so no scar.

I was very against c section because I felt cheated and didn't want surgery. My situation was different with 90% of twin deliveries bein c section even if its after laboring. For me it was safer for the babies so I went with it. I was not a fan of the c section because I was so neauseas and out of it after but I'm pretty sure they put me under general after they delivered the babies. One thing I can tell you is let the anesthesiologist know you are nervous and they can give you something. I was so anxious I because the position of baby b and my position on the table was hindering my breathing since baby b was on my Lungs. They assured me all was ok and gave me something and gave me neasea meds too. It was kinda surreal. I was in and out of it the whole time and tuned in at the important parts. Baby's crying, weights announced, them showing me babies, baby a going to nicu. It was 2:30 when I was in recovery so I didn't even see the babies that night. (could have seen b since she was in the regular nursery but I was too out of it and dh had left so I declined).


After all, I don't really feel cheated but if I do have a singleton a few yrs from now I will try for vbac. Simply because of the neasea of surgery but most people don't get that way. My roommate was totally fine after her c section and this was her 3rd. And I have friends who were totally fine and preferred c section. One labored and needed a cs after all and wished she just did the cs from the beginning. I think everyone is different.

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I was devastated when I found out I needed a C-section. My baby was breech and I tried EVERYTHING to turn her and avoid a C-section. I was so sad about not having that unexpected rush to the hospital "natural" birth. I was also so scared about the pain, horror stories I read about, added risks, not being able to hold the baby right away, etc. etc... But then it came and went, and I am very happy and grateful for my C-section. My best friend gave birth 2 months after me, and she labored and labored and then ended up needing an emergency c-section anyway. And since it wasn't planned, her DH wasn't in the room and she had to be put out with gas and missed over an hour with her baby. A planned C-section is great because you can pack and prepare for it mentally and physically. DH gets to be in the room with you. You get to have control over which doctor will perform the surgery. Etc. Etc. My C-section went great. It was quick and I was fully aware. Nothing hurt and they let DH hold the baby near my head immediately after and take a family picture before they kicked them out to finish stitching me up. The only negatives in my own opinion was not being able to get up and walk around to change DD's diapers and take care of her in the hospital/bassinet. DH and the nurses basically cared for her, but I got to do everything else (hold her, feed her, etc). And my abs became separated after the birth so that is my only long term complaint because now my body is different and it does cause lots of back pain, etc. But that probably won't happen to you, I haven't met/heard about anyone else it has happened to... so just breathe and relax. If that is how your LO has to be born, then let it be. Good Luck!!

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idk...maybe cause i knew from day 1 i was having a c section

i never felt cheated..i just chalked it up to hey every problem imaginable getting pregnant,getting them out will not be any diff

it is nerve wracking but i think any kind of labor is

i will never feel cheated bc bottom line my babies will be here the safest way for them

does not matter if u give birt,have a c section,have a surrogate give birth,adopt etc

hwo they come out imo has no effect on ur birth experience

and yea i know the ones who say my drug free vaginal birth was the most amazing experience ever and everyone who does not have that is missing out

that is when u say my c section was the most amazing experience ever and if you did not have that u r missing out

u will hear horrow stories either way..i could tell u personally from my sis who hated a c and my other one who begged for one during her v birth

either way no matter what u did it,and he is going to be here going to be perfect and u will be so in love how he got here will not matter

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I was not scheduled for a c section, I had to have one last minute when I stopped dialating and they determined that the baby was basically stuck in my pelvis and there was no way I was having a natural delivery. Honestly... I CRIED LIKE A BABY when they told me I had to have a c section. I completely understand what you mean when you say you feel kind of cheated. But the minute I laid eyes on my DS the feeling of being cheated went away and I felt like the luckiest person in the world.

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I'm one of those people who feels very cheated. No one has ever told me I'm less of a mother or anything like that due to me not going into labor and "giving birth." I've totally put this onto myself. It's silly, I know it.

The good thing is that if you're just having a C because the baby is breech, you'll be a good candidate to try for a VBAC. I'm trying for a VBAC now even though I'm not as good of a candidate - I was induced and never made it past 1/2 a centimeter after 25 hours, cytotec and pitocin.

I had a great recovery once I was home from the csection. My best advice is to WALK! In the hospital, do as much walking as possible. That will relieve the gas. And trust me, there will be gas! My second day I was home, I took a ten block walk with the baby. You started off in good shape, you'll be just fine! Good luck!

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Thank you so much for all the support!! I really needed it!

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I had a csection and knew it was a strong possibility when I developed blood clots.

Looking back I am glad I had one. I had an amazing recovery and was able to stay home an extra 2 weeks with my DS. I just I would think differently if I had a horrible recovery but I do not feel cheated at all. Irbid still an amazing experience when you first see and hold your baby.

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I had a scheduled C-section, they told me my DD was measuring big (over 10lbs) and if she got stuck in the birth canal they would need to crack her shoulders/collar bone to get her out. I freaked out and scheduled the C-section...........she ended up being only 8lbs 8oz so needless to say, I was already upset about the C-section and realizing I could've delivered her made me feel worse.

The night of my C-section my water actually broke and I went into labor. I was excited to have had that experience prior to the C. It made me feel a little better to know what true labor felt like. I won't lie to you, I was disappointed that I had to have a C-section and my DD is now 4, and it still bothers me. I know everyone says that it doesn't matter as long as your baby is born healthy but it mattered to me, I felt (feel) cheated. It's just not how I pictured it all going. Of course in the end my DD arrived healthy and that's the important thing but I really was disappointed that I didn't get to deliver her myself.

I don't want to scare you or make you worry, I just would rather be honest with you so I will say..................

I think the worst past for me was the recovery. It was painful, I was miserable and although each day was better than the last, it wasn't fun. Some people have no issues with the C-section and bounce back fast but for me, I thought the whole experience was just kind of cr@ppy. I was okay throughout the procedure, I remember everything (just had a spinal) but it was in recovery where it all went down hill. They gave me a morphine drip for the pain and gave me the biggest dose allowable which was a mistake. As someone who has NEVER taken pain meds, that knocked me out. I had my DD at 5:40am and didn't see her again until almost 6pm that night because I was SO sick. Flat on my back, queasy, and completely out of it. After that first day I was able to move around and take care of her but it was painful. Your abdomen will HURT but it does get better. Within a few weeks I felt more like my old self.

Anyway, I know how you're feeling. I felt the same way too. It stinks to have to have a C-section when you were hoping it would all go another way but you'll be okay. With this pregnancy, I would like to try for a VBAC but I am preparing myself for the possibility of another C-section. It's not ideal and not what I want but if it's what I have to do then I will.

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I felt a little cheated when I had DS...but it was an emergency C, and I was put under general anesthesiology, so I really missed everything..which prob. ended up being a GOOD thing, as he was born quite sick. Now that I have a healthy son...I don't feel cheated at all, and am just grateful for all the medical staff was able to do for him and I.

I am again haveing a section, because I am having twins this time, and really want to have a no surprise delivery...but I am SUPER excited to be awake, and see them right away..that will be my blessing.

Recovery first time around was not so bad, but i think i was so so focused on my son I barely noticed my pain. Hopeing recovery goes just as well this time.

GOOD LUCK!!

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The only reason I felt cheated was because I had to go under general anesthesia.

I had some complications after but they were not due to the c section (due to a fever from being sick/anesthesia and I had to be on magnesium for pre eclampsia)

The recovery was not bad at all! I won't lie the first time I got out of bed I didn't think I would ever stand straight again but I was determined to walk down to the NICU to see my babies all day long so the more I got up the better I felt. Honestly the gas was the worst!

A week after they were born I was at my apartment packing boxes with my dh (they were still in the nicu and we were in the middle of moving).

I am going to try for a VBAC this time around but I won't be disappointed if it doesn't happen.