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claudiaycc
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Birthday Party Dilemma.. Please advise!!!
Hello everyone 
I just recently moved to Long Island and I'm living in a house for the first time so I'm not very familiar with the customs between neighbors. In Astoria buildings you can live next to the same person for years and don't even know their name.
So here is my question.. My friend is having her son's first birthday party in my backyard. She has a small budget and was having a hard time renting a place for the party.
Should I invite my neighbors kids?? I feel bad having a party and not inviting them even tho is not even my party. They now I only have a 2 month old daughter. At the same time they'll be 4 adults + 6 kids and I now my friend's budget is thigh and she doesn't even know them.
I don't want to seam rude or make their kids feel bad. What's should I do?? Please advise! 
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Posted 7/15/15 8:00 AM  |
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luvbuffet
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Re: Birthday Party Dilemma.. Please advise!!!
ask your friend first. im sure its no big deal. perhaps you can invite your neighbors last minute as it really isnt your party. "my friend is throwing a party for her kid, youre more than welcome to join us tomorrow, this afternoon" etc and you do NOT have to invite your neighbors over every time you have a gathering.
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| Posted 7/15/15 8:07 AM |
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StaceyWill
It's a girl!!!
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Stacey
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Birthday Party Dilemma.. Please advise!!!
You're very sweet, but I wouldn't even think of inviting my neighbors, unless I was very close with them.
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| Posted 7/15/15 8:12 AM |
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EricaAlt
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Erica
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Re: Birthday Party Dilemma.. Please advise!!!
I don't think you have to. We are friendly with our neighbors, but the kids are different ages. We'll usually say something like... we're having some people over if you want to stop over for a drink or if the kids want to go swimming. Their kids are in sleep away camp all summer so don't have to worry about that. We also have new neighbors and their kids are closer in age to ours. I didn't invite them over for my DS's birthday bc we don't see them so much, but when we have seen them we asked if they'd like to come over. The second time we asked they were free and did take us up on the offer to stop over for some wine and desserts for the kids.
After all that said I don't think it's necessary. You can invite them over a separate time to get to know them. This isn't your party to really invite others over. If you do want to then you should offer some money to your friend.
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| Posted 7/15/15 8:18 AM |
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CallaLily
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Birthday Party Dilemma.. Please advise!!!
Unless you are very friendly with them, I wouldn't invite your neighbors.
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| Posted 7/15/15 8:30 AM |
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claudiaycc
LIF Zygote
Member since 7/15 4 total posts
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Birthday Party Dilemma.. Please advise!!!
Wow this is a relief.. I don't think I'll be inviting them then.. My friend feels more constable that way.. Thank you guys for the advise!
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| Posted 7/15/15 8:59 AM |
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Sweetlax22
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Re: Birthday Party Dilemma.. Please advise!!!
I agree with your choice, maybe down the road for your child's party, but I certainly would not for someone else's party.
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| Posted 7/15/15 12:06 PM |
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BlackJack96
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Re: Birthday Party Dilemma.. Please advise!!!
Even though it's not "your party" it is since its in your backyard. Personally I'd invite the neighbors but offer to pay your friend (just pitch in) for their food/beverages.
Having good relations with the neighbors is key if you're in a jam. This is is a good way to start.
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| Posted 7/15/15 12:32 PM |
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LuckyStar
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Birthday Party Dilemma.. Please advise!!!
I see no reason why you would invite neighbors your barely know.
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| Posted 7/15/15 12:38 PM |
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Otherme
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Re: Birthday Party Dilemma.. Please advise!!!
Would never even occur to me to invite my neighbors to a kids party where they don't know the people having the party. Why would they want to come?
I think you're fine, especially since you said you don't really know them well
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| Posted 7/15/15 1:09 PM |
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Strawberry2468
It's summatime
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Re: Birthday Party Dilemma.. Please advise!!!
We talk to our neighbors but we never invite each other to bbqs or parties. It's not expected and a little awkward since you don't talk to them and its not your party.
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| Posted 7/15/15 7:04 PM |
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twicethefun
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Re: Birthday Party Dilemma.. Please advise!!!
i would not.
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| Posted 7/15/15 10:31 PM |
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Poppyseed79
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Re: Birthday Party Dilemma.. Please advise!!!
Posted by CallaLily
Unless you are very friendly with them, I wouldn't invite your neighbors.
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| Posted 7/16/15 8:51 AM |
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JennCo
My greatest joy is my baby boy
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Re: Birthday Party Dilemma.. Please advise!!!
that is very thoughtful of you but i wouldn't invite unless we were close to the neighbors
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| Posted 7/16/15 9:57 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Birthday Party Dilemma.. Please advise!!!
I wouldn't.
And if my neighbors invited me to something like that I wouldn't want to go.
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| Posted 7/16/15 10:28 AM |
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Poppyseed79
LIF Adult
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Re: Birthday Party Dilemma.. Please advise!!!
Posted by NervousNell
I wouldn't.
And if my neighbors invited me to something like that I wouldn't want to go.
I wouldn't either. I've been invited many times and I always politely decline. Want to keep boundaries. We keep to ourselves.
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| Posted 7/16/15 1:39 PM |
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Lara&Aidansmommy
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Re: Birthday Party Dilemma.. Please advise!!!
No way
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| Posted 7/16/15 1:57 PM |
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