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J9-13
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
This sounds like my night every single night and I stopped BF my twins after 3 months.
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J9-13
We're gonna be big sisters!
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by gina409
I don't care how many bf topics someone posts bc I'm sure someone can relate to it
What i hate about a post like this is the words while all else are sleeping/brushing heir teeth etc. for me it implies a ff mom isn't up every 2 hrs and feeding and burping and having a fussy baby etc
I'm just all for the motto parenting is hard. No matter how you do it
Yeah...this is what rubbed me the wrong way.
My twins are 13 months and might possibly wake more times than a breastfed baby. I wish I was joking.
We ALL have our struggles and like you said, parenting is F*&k!ng hard!
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| Posted 6/22/16 3:30 PM |
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Mara1017
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by Kitten1929
Posted by NervousNell
I think this got off the rails.
Now we are arguing over if we see ourselves as heros or not.
I think the point was, the original post was supposed to be about the struggles of a breastfeeding mother, but in reality it's the struggles of ALL mothers.
Breastfeeding, formula feeding, adoptive mothers. All mothers. And fathers.
Having a baby is no walk in the park.
Night feedings and getting no sleep suck.
Whether you are feeding that baby at midnight and 2 am and again at 4 am from a bottle or you boob.
The original posting and it's depiction of nighttime with a newborn was not exclusive to BFing moms.
It's the night in the life of a newborn's mom.
But why can't a breastfeeding mom post about her experiences without a formula feeding mom getting pissy? Why can't she have her own unique experience without it getting taken the wrong way by someone else?
A breastfeeding mom can absolutely post about her experiences but that is not what was done. It was a post taken from facebook from some unknown person and posted here.
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| Posted 6/22/16 3:33 PM |
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soontobemommyof2
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by KateBennetReel
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by alli3131
Posted by KateBennetReel
Posted by mrsboss
Because moms who breastfeed are some sort of hero? Always needing some sort of affirmation or congratulations. Please. Getting so tired of this sanctimonious breastfeeding crap.
We all feed/fed our babies. We were all up at ungodly hours. We all patted, shushed, sang to, soothed and catered to their every need. We all win. Get over yourselves and this "movement".
yes.
but aren't we all heroes, mrs. boss?
aren't we because we are moms?
if i adopted my kid, would birthed kids' moms be more of a hero? no - we all are.
if i foster a child for years - does it mean i'm less of a mom?
if i have 1 kid, not more - does that make me less?
if i post how amazing having one of each is....
it's sharing. not shaming.
and it might feel like a movement because it is.
society is changing. and that's ok.
it always will....
Honestly no none of us are heros. We are moms. We signed up for this job.
Yep. I'm far from a hero.
FAR from it.
When you have a kid, your life changes. You know that going in.
maybe my kids see me as their hero...
maybe my husband see's me as a hero.
in my world, in my immediate family - that makes me feel like a hero.
my kid has a t-shirt that says "Dad is my superhero".
i can't see dads coming on here saying.... actually, no....
kudos to you, hero or not. however you see yourself - good on you. i support you.
This is exactly what my mil says to me...in the eyes of every lo, their mom is their hero  til they hit puberty 
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soontobemommyof2
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by NervousNell
I think this got off the rails.
Now we are arguing over if we see ourselves as heros or not.
I think the point was, the original post was supposed to be about the struggles of a breastfeeding mother, but in reality it's the struggles of ALL mothers.
Breastfeeding, formula feeding, adoptive mothers. All mothers. And fathers.
Having a baby is no walk in the park.
Night feedings and getting no sleep suck.
Whether you are feeding that baby at midnight and 2 am and again at 4 am from a bottle or you boob.
The original posting and it's depiction of nighttime with a newborn was not exclusive to BFing moms.
It's the night in the life of a newborn's mom.
Actually it started to get off the rails when a few ppl started to take my post totally the wrong way and a couple even erroneously accused me of "nonstop", and "almost always" posting about bfeeding and pushing it down ppl's throats.ni invited them to show me which posts are the many they're talking about and also the ones where I push ppl to bfeed, I have yet to hear anything.
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| Posted 6/22/16 4:14 PM |
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soontobemommyof2
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by KateBennetReel
I hope posters aren't deterred to share their experiences of Parenting by the judgements of other parents.
I hope so too! It'd be a shame
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| Posted 6/22/16 4:19 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by soontobemommyof2
Posted by NervousNell
I think this got off the rails.
Now we are arguing over if we see ourselves as heros or not.
I think the point was, the original post was supposed to be about the struggles of a breastfeeding mother, but in reality it's the struggles of ALL mothers.
Breastfeeding, formula feeding, adoptive mothers. All mothers. And fathers.
Having a baby is no walk in the park.
Night feedings and getting no sleep suck.
Whether you are feeding that baby at midnight and 2 am and again at 4 am from a bottle or you boob.
The original posting and it's depiction of nighttime with a newborn was not exclusive to BFing moms.
It's the night in the life of a newborn's mom.
Actually it started to get off the rails when a few ppl started to take my post totally the wrong way and a couple even erroneously accused me of "nonstop", and "almost always" posting about bfeeding and pushing it down ppl's throats.ni invited them to show me which posts are the many they're talking about and also the ones where I push ppl to bfeed, I have yet to hear anything.
True. I am not sure about what you post because I honestly don't pay much attention to the themes of other's posts.
I guess it went off the rails in all kinds of directions!
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| Posted 6/22/16 4:24 PM |
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Maybe-Baybe
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by Kitten1929
This is something so indicative of our society.
Nowhere here did it say "breastfeeding moms are better and formula fed moms are worse." People are interpreting it that way because somewhere, deep down, I think it triggers an insecurity, guilt or a sadness or an emotion. Then, they attack.
If you don't care about breastfeeding, don't respond to this. There is nothing for BF moms to "get over" and nothing that FF moms need to feel bad about.
This is coming from a FF mother. Some of you moms on here should be ashamed of yourself and how "sanctimonious" you sound trying to put down others.
Such a shame that women are trying to tear each other down, very sad.
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| Posted 6/22/16 4:47 PM |
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soontobemommyof2
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
I have to agree with this.
Also I don't see the original poster is trying to show the struggles of a bfeeding mom but rather the struggles of a mom who happens to bfeed, this is the reason why others can relate to this whether they bfeed or they ffed (well I guess except those whose LOs sttn)
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MrsD121011
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
I BF and FF fed my kids. Baby #1 my DD I was wracked with guilt because of the pressure to BF when I had to give her formula. It is hard, its damn hard. I had to supplement after 8 months of being chained to a pump in a dusty supply closet while co-workers banged on the door. We nursed for 14 months. The month after I stopped nursing I found out I was pregnant with DS and my first thought was I can't do this again. I made it 5 months nursing and supplementing. I felt guilty at first but you know what I got over it. He is healthy and fed! Do I get pangs of guilt and jealous when I see posts like this because I could not do it again or I "gave up" and most of all I NEVER enjoyed it? Sure, but that does not give me the right to lash out or begurdge another Mom her right to share something that struck a cord with her. Its a post about a mothers tireless love for her child. This one just happened to be about BF. If it was about her being up all night with a sick child or a colicky child or any other reason whe would have viewed this very differently. However, because it was about BF people get all defensive. NO ONE was critcizing anyone else's mothering style. No one was taking away from the way you feed your kid. No one said a word about BF being better, worse, different than FF. Its just that people read into it based on thier own need to justify or sanctify their own experience or their own insecurities. Why are people on these boards so quick to attack each other and get nasty? Its a post..on a chat board! If you don't like it keep scrolling, let it go. Attacking someone or getting nasty just makes you look bad. Sometimes I just wonder if people lash out because they have no one else to do it to in their own life and it's very easy to do behind a keyboard when you aren't face to face.
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Summergrl14
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by MrsD121011
I BF and FF fed my kids. Baby #1 my DD I was wracked with guilt because of the pressure to BF when I had to give her formula. It is hard, its damn hard. I had to supplement after 8 months of being chained to a pump in a dusty supply closet while co-workers banged on the door. We nursed for 14 months. The month after I stopped nursing I found out I was pregnant with DS and my first thought was I can't do this again. I made it 5 months nursing and supplementing. I felt guilty at first but you know what I got over it. He is healthy and fed! Do I get pangs of guilt and jealous when I see posts like this because I could not do it again or I "gave up" and most of all I NEVER enjoyed it? Sure, but that does not give me the right to lash out or begurdge another Mom her right to share something that struck a cord with her. Its a post about a mothers tireless love for her child. This one just happened to be about BF. If it was about her being up all night with a sick child or a colicky child or any other reason whe would have viewed this very differently. However, because it was about BF people get all defensive. NO ONE was critcizing anyone else's mothering style. No one was taking away from the way you feed your kid. No one said a word about BF being better, worse, different than FF. Its just that people read into it based on thier own need to justify or sanctify their own experience or their own insecurities. Why are people on these boards so quick to attack each other and get nasty? Its a post..on a chat board! If you don't like it keep scrolling, let it go. Attacking someone or getting nasty just makes you look bad. Sometimes I just wonder if people lash out because they have no one else to do it to in their own life and it's very easy to do behind a keyboard when you aren't face to face.
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| Posted 6/23/16 11:15 AM |
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lululu
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
I think that people get bent out of shape because it seems like it's addressed only to breastfeeding mothers - which it's probably only addressed that way because it's on a breastfeeding group, however when posted here it's out of context. But also because it implies that breastfeeding moms should know that they are doing "everything that they can for their baby" by breastfeeding. The implication of that is that if you don't breastfeed you aren't doing everything that you could do for your baby. That's the way I took it anyway.
I don't really care either way. If you want to pat yourself on the back and think you're a great mom because you breastfeed your kid, great for you! I breastfed my first and it was the most miserable experience of my life. Didn't breastfeed the next two and I was a much happier and better mommy! do whatever works for you and don't care about what people think of your parenting decisions!
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