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soontobemommyof2
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Beautiful...just wanted to share
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LuckyStar
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Beautiful...just wanted to share
I don't mean to be snarky or disrespectful, but reading things like this might do more harm than good if the intention of this "breastfeeding awareness week" is to convince more women to bf. Because, as a FF mom, I read this and thought "that sounds flucking terrible."
Also, I chose to ff, but women who wanted to bf and couldn't might not want to read this and feel like they aren't "doing everything they can for their baby." We're ALL doing everything we can for our babies, regardless of how we feed them.
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Michi
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by LuckyStar
I don't mean to be snarky or disrespectful, but reading things like this might do more harm than good if the intention of this "breastfeeding awareness week" is to convince more women to bf. Because, as a FF mom, I read this and thought "that sounds flucking terrible."
Also, I chose to ff, but women who wanted to bf and couldn't might not want to read this and feel like they aren't "doing everything they can for their baby." We're ALL doing everything we can for our babies, regardless of how we feed them.
EXACTLY My thoughts when I read it as well.
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ANewDayHasCome
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by Michi
Posted by LuckyStar
I don't mean to be snarky or disrespectful, but reading things like this might do more harm than good if the intention of this "breastfeeding awareness week" is to convince more women to bf. Because, as a FF mom, I read this and thought "that sounds flucking terrible."
Also, I chose to ff, but women who wanted to bf and couldn't might not want to read this and feel like they aren't "doing everything they can for their baby." We're ALL doing everything we can for our babies, regardless of how we feed them.
EXACTLY My thoughts when I read it as well.
I didn't even read it. Dd2, almost 1, is ebf and I'm actually sick of all the bf posts about articles and how great it is. To me, and again I ebf, it seems like it's rubbing it in the faces of the ff moms. I also know for a fact these posts are hurtful to some of the posters on here bc they couldn't bf.
Everyone is doing the best they can.
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NervousNell
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Honestly I read it and was like- wow, sounds like my night when I was a FF mom.
I was up every 2 hours with her.
I got ZERO sleep.
She cluster fed.
I sat in a dark room.
I cursed.
I pondered.
And I was alone because DH worked nights.
All night feedings fell on me.
So how is this little tid bit exclusive to BFing?
No one way of feeding your baby is any harder or easier than another.
Having a newborn sucks.
Period
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JDubs
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Posted by Michi
Posted by LuckyStar
I don't mean to be snarky or disrespectful, but reading things like this might do more harm than good if the intention of this "breastfeeding awareness week" is to convince more women to bf. Because, as a FF mom, I read this and thought "that sounds flucking terrible."
Also, I chose to ff, but women who wanted to bf and couldn't might not want to read this and feel like they aren't "doing everything they can for their baby." We're ALL doing everything we can for our babies, regardless of how we feed them.
EXACTLY My thoughts when I read it as well.
I didn't even read it. Dd2, almost 1, is ebf and I'm actually sick of all the bf posts about articles and how great it is. To me, and again I ebf, it seems like it's rubbing it in the faces of the ff moms. I also know for a fact these posts are hurtful to some of the posters on here bc they couldn't bf.
Everyone is doing the best they can.
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KGools
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by NervousNell
Honestly I read it and was like- wow, sounds like my night when I was a FF mom.
I was up every 2 hours with her.
I got ZERO sleep.
She cluster fed.
I sat in a dark room.
I cursed.
I pondered.
And I was alone because DH worked nights.
All night feedings fell on me.
So how is this little tid bit exclusive to BFing?
No one way of feeding your baby is any harder or easier than another.
Having a newborn sucks.
Period
HAHA! Yes... up every two hours with my FF babes.
It's torture. All of it is sleep deprived torture 
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star444
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by LuckyStar
I don't mean to be snarky or disrespectful, but reading things like this might do more harm than good if the intention of this "breastfeeding awareness week" is to convince more women to bf. Because, as a FF mom, I read this and thought "that sounds flucking terrible."
Also, I chose to ff, but women who wanted to bf and couldn't might not want to read this and feel like they aren't "doing everything they can for their baby." We're ALL doing everything we can for our babies, regardless of how we feed them.
I BFed for a whopping 2 weeks... and only exclusively BFed for 4 days before having to supplement because my son was starving and dehydrated and turning jaundice (thanks to the hospital for pointing that one out to a FTM... but that's another debate for another day). He was suffering and it was killing me emotionally and physically as well because I felt I couldn't provide for him. Lots of moms are the sole night caregiver with formula as well (me). At the end of the day, thank goodness my son is thriving and healthy... for me BF ended up not being "worth it"... thank goodness for formula... for both him and me - #fedisbest
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luvmykids8
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by NervousNell
Honestly I read it and was like- wow, sounds like my night when I was a FF mom.
I was up every 2 hours with her.
I got ZERO sleep.
She cluster fed.
I sat in a dark room.
I cursed.
I pondered.
And I was alone because DH worked nights.
All night feedings fell on me.
So how is this little tid bit exclusive to BFing?
No one way of feeding your baby is any harder or easier than another.
Having a newborn sucks.
Period
This was me too and I was a FF mom.
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Mara1017
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by LuckyStar
I don't mean to be snarky or disrespectful, but reading things like this might do more harm than good if the intention of this "breastfeeding awareness week" is to convince more women to bf. Because, as a FF mom, I read this and thought "that sounds flucking terrible."
Also, I chose to ff, but women who wanted to bf and couldn't might not want to read this and feel like they aren't "doing everything they can for their baby." We're ALL doing everything we can for our babies, regardless of how we feed them.
Could not agree with this more. I tried with both of my children to breast feed them but unfortunately my body did not cooperate. I tried everything but my son was dropping weight so I made the decision I think every mother would do was formula feed so that he got the nutrients that he needed. I truly did everything I can for my baby even though I did not breast feed.
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soontobemommyof2
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by NervousNell
Honestly I read it and was like- wow, sounds like my night when I was a FF mom.
I was up every 2 hours with her.
I got ZERO sleep.
She cluster fed.
I sat in a dark room.
I cursed.
I pondered.
And I was alone because DH worked nights.
All night feedings fell on me.
So how is this little tid bit exclusive to BFing?
No one way of feeding your baby is any harder or easier than another.
Having a newborn sucks.
Period
The mom that posted this in my bfeeding group also got the same answer from another poster who ended up ffedding, she experienced exactly the same except for the boob offering, and she along with other moms that weren't successful in bfeeding (even me who ended up only ffeeding DS1), did not take this the wrong way.
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NervousNell
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by soontobemommyof2
Posted by NervousNell
Honestly I read it and was like- wow, sounds like my night when I was a FF mom.
I was up every 2 hours with her.
I got ZERO sleep.
She cluster fed.
I sat in a dark room.
I cursed.
I pondered.
And I was alone because DH worked nights.
All night feedings fell on me.
So how is this little tid bit exclusive to BFing?
No one way of feeding your baby is any harder or easier than another.
Having a newborn sucks.
Period
The mom that posted this in my bfeeding group also got the same answer from another poster who ended up ffedding, she experienced exactly the same except for the boob offering, and she along with other moms that weren't successful in bfeeding (even me who ended up only ffeeding DS1), did not take this the wrong way.
I didn't take it the wrong way.
I didn't even attempt to breastfeed. I don't believe in it. Not even a thought in my head. Not once.
So I don't get offended when people post things like this or say breast is best.
Because IMO it's not..
I am just saying that I wasn't sure the point of this as every mom goes through this - whether they formula feed or breast feed.
so it's kind of ambiguous.
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soontobemommyof2
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Beautiful...just wanted to share
It truly saddens me whenever someone posts anything about bfeeding and these are the responses that are posted. I was not successful at bfeeding my DS1 at all. It actually got to the point where the hospital wouldn't release him if his blood didn't regulate due to not having enough breastmilk. So I had to give him formula, I had no other choice and it affected me in the sense that I really wanted to bfeed him and felt as I was "failing". However I understood that formula was the best for my son and made peace with it. I can truly say I felt happy for my mommy friends (either personally or in my mommy groups) that were able to do something that it wasn't possible for me. I didn't let the bitterness (and believe me, at some point I felt bitter) take away from other moms' doings (either ebfeeding or at least supplementing which didn't even happen for me).
There will always be something moms get attacked for; bfeeding, ffedding, bfeeding in public, cio, baby wearing, etc. We should all learn to be happy for each other and not let our insecurities get the best of us and and outshine others.
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soontobemommyof2
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by soontobemommyof2
Posted by NervousNell
Honestly I read it and was like- wow, sounds like my night when I was a FF mom.
I was up every 2 hours with her.
I got ZERO sleep.
She cluster fed.
I sat in a dark room.
I cursed.
I pondered.
And I was alone because DH worked nights.
All night feedings fell on me.
So how is this little tid bit exclusive to BFing?
No one way of feeding your baby is any harder or easier than another.
Having a newborn sucks.
Period
The mom that posted this in my bfeeding group also got the same answer from another poster who ended up ffedding, she experienced exactly the same except for the boob offering, and she along with other moms that weren't successful in bfeeding (even me who ended up only ffeeding DS1), did not take this the wrong way.
I didn't take it the wrong way.
I didn't even attempt to breastfeed. I don't believe in it. Not even a thought in my head. Not once.
So I don't get offended when people post things like this or say breast is best.
Because IMO it's not..
I am just saying that I wasn't sure the point of this as every mom goes through this - whether they formula feed or breast feed.
so it's kind of ambiguous.
Oh I didn't mean to insinuate that u took it the wrong way, really.  I quoted u because that mom also went through the same thing as the original poster, and just like u she ffed.
But others clearly did take it the wrong way, unfortunately.
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Maybe-Baybe
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by soontobemommyof2
It truly saddens me whenever someone posts anything about bfeeding and these are the responses that are posted.
Agreed. If the post doesn't apply to you, why bring the rain cloud in? No one is saying anything Like breast is best or BFing is better than FFing. It's just something for people to relate to.
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BsMomma2014
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Beautiful...just wanted to share
I am going to start by saying you will not like my response and that's ok.
First off I am extremely happy you are having a positive experience BFing your child. I BF my son for almost 13 months and support you in your decision to do so as I support any other mother who chooses different.
With that being said, I ask you to sit back and search your posts you have posted on the boards. The majority have breast is best, I EBF, I wish I cant leave my child because I BF blah blah blah. The way you talk about and push BF on others is horrible. All mothers struggle with feeding their children weather it is BF or FF. Children aren't easy!
I can't stand the way people try to push their own beliefs on people weather it be religion, politics or in this instance
BFing.
I am sick of so many posts that make other moms feel less adequate. When in reality we should be encouraging other moms on their journey.
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soontobemommyof2
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by Maybe-Baybe
Posted by soontobemommyof2
It truly saddens me whenever someone posts anything about bfeeding and these are the responses that are posted.
Agreed. If the post doesn't apply to you, why bring the rain cloud in? No one is saying anything Like breast is best or BFing is better than FFing. It's just something for people to relate to.
Exactly!
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ANewDayHasCome
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by Maybe-Baybe
Posted by soontobemommyof2
It truly saddens me whenever someone posts anything about bfeeding and these are the responses that are posted.
Agreed. If the post doesn't apply to you, why bring the rain cloud in? No one is saying anything Like breast is best or BFing is better than FFing. It's just something for people to relate to.
I think it's bc of the OP posting so many posts on the topic. Nonstop.
I can't go to valentines dinner bc I ebf
My kid can't sleep bc he's ebf
Ebf is best bc if your baby is sick they exchange saliva with your boob to create antibodies
A mom was nursing her lo in a fitting room and they were making slurping noises
And those are just the ones I can recall
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soontobemommyof2
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by BsMomma2014
I am going to start by saying you will not like my response and that's ok.
First off I am extremely happy you are having a positive experience BFing your child. I BF my son for almost 13 months and support you in your decision to do so as I support any other mother who chooses different.
With that being said, I ask you to sit back and search your posts you have posted on the boards. The majority have breast is best, I EBF, I wish I cant leave my child because I BF blah blah blah. The way you talk about and push BF on others is horrible. All mothers struggle with feeding their children weather it is BF or FF. Children aren't easy!
I can't stand the way people try to push their own beliefs on people weather it be religion, politics or in this instance
BFing.
I am sick of so many posts that make other moms feel less adequate. When in reality we should be encouraging other moms on their journey.
Wow! I really don't know how to take ur post. It is a bit weird I must say because u either have purposely and lenghtly searched my posts or have an excellent memory. Maybe u can help me search those posts where u said I've talked about either breast is best or I've pushed others to bfeed. I centainly have posted comments in posts that are somehow related to bfeeding but NOT because I'm trying to push it on anybody but because I relate to those posts since those are MY experiences with DS2. I hope that in ur search, u also found the ones I've made about formula feeding since those are the experiences I have with DS1. I absolutely do not push bfeeding on anyone because I know sometimes bfeeding doesn't happen to everyone (including me with DS1, u'd know this if u happen to read my previous post). If someone posts a question about it, I'd encourage bfeeding but DEFINITELY not push it because ultimately it's a decision that only a mom can take.
I do not appreciate comments like urs where someone's deliberately attacked. That's what should actually bother us because that's indeed putting someone down, so I will not entertain them, they lack substance, fairness, and tend to turn this type of post into a mommy battle.
*The memory of some of these moms really amuses me! It'd be so much better if some of those memories were accurate though. Interestingly enough some of these posters are the same ones that generally post in drama posts.
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ANewDayHasCome
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
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BsMomma2014
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Beautiful...just wanted to share
Your posts must make a lasting impression on me since they are almost always about BF
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soontobemommyof2
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by BsMomma2014
Your posts must make a lasting impression on me since they are almost always about BF
I think I'm a pretty active poster and just to make sure I wasn't going crazy, I searched my own posts and what I found about bfeeding is way far from "almost always" or "nonstop", u're more than welcome to double check though 
I want to kick myself for again entertaining this type of answers but like I said I just needed to make sure I wasn't going crazy
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LIRascal
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Posted by Michi
Posted by LuckyStar
I don't mean to be snarky or disrespectful, but reading things like this might do more harm than good if the intention of this "breastfeeding awareness week" is to convince more women to bf. Because, as a FF mom, I read this and thought "that sounds flucking terrible."
Also, I chose to ff, but women who wanted to bf and couldn't might not want to read this and feel like they aren't "doing everything they can for their baby." We're ALL doing everything we can for our babies, regardless of how we feed them.
EXACTLY My thoughts when I read it as well.
I didn't even read it. Dd2, almost 1, is ebf and I'm actually sick of all the bf posts about articles and how great it is. To me, and again I ebf, it seems like it's rubbing it in the faces of the ff moms. I also know for a fact these posts are hurtful to some of the posters on here bc they couldn't bf.
Everyone is doing the best they can.
We are all doing the best we can.
I mean, come on. The original post comes off as "I'm better than you because I ebf" Or "Your bond with your child isn't as strong because you FF"
Everyone's situation is different. What if someone has a physical reason they can't bf? Medical condition? Baby won't latch? Milk too lean? Not enough milk? It's not for them?
I'm not going to divulge my medical history. I'm not going to go into my bf history.
I just don't get the (sometimes) lack of community feel...
We are all doing the best we can.
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Pinkisles
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Beautiful...just wanted to share
Wow whatever happened to if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all? These boards barely move as it is, and now we are going to criticize and critique what others post? I don't know the Op, but clearly She's proud of herself for breast feeding her second after failing with her first, why come in and poop on her thread? If you don't care, or don't care to read it, skip it and move on.
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Re: Beautiful...just wanted to share
Posted by Maybe-Baybe
Posted by soontobemommyof2
It truly saddens me whenever someone posts anything about bfeeding and these are the responses that are posted.
Agreed. If the post doesn't apply to you, why bring the rain cloud in? No one is saying anything Like breast is best or BFing is better than FFing. It's just something for people to relate to.
It's not even bfing, so many threads people just come in to crap on them for seemingly no reason.
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