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anyone elses DH obnoxious?
I am 6 month pp... and I have lost all of the baby weight... but I used to exercise before the baby and eat very healthy and now I do eat a lot more snacks/dessert and I haven't been to the gym since giving birth. So while I am the same weight as before, my body has changed from childbirth, and with the lack of exercise plus unhealthy eating, I am a bit looser. Anyway, I am exclusively breastfeeding and I feel that makes things a bit hard. Also, DH treats me like his maid, personal chef, sole caretaker of his child, etc... and has high expectations of meals being ready when he gets home, all the chores being done without him helping, etc. So I already am on a thin line with him... but the thing that bugs me the most of all is that DH constantly criticizes me and makes comments about how I don't exercise and that i eat too much junk food. He's always, always commenting on it and questioning me about things. I can't stand it and it makes me feel terrible. I tell him this and he doesn't change. He keeps emphasizing how I need to workout and getting mad at me when he sees me eating poorly. I am not even overweight, I am perfectly healthy according to the BMI charts and hip to waist ratios AND I accomplish what I need to physically, it is not like I am weak or lacking energy. UGH!!!
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Mrs213
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anyone elses DH obnoxious?
No, I am about 60 lbs overweight now and he never mentioned me being overweight
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| Posted 2/25/13 9:10 PM |
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mamasita27
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
no and i'm sorry but that is absolutely terrible! 
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| Posted 2/25/13 9:14 PM |
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Mrs213
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anyone elses DH obnoxious?
I don't think he should be talking to you like that either. What do you say to him when he says these things? Let him know that it's not okay...
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| Posted 2/25/13 9:19 PM |
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alli3131
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anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Nope my DH supports me wether I'm 90 lbs or 390 lbs. I would tell him to F off if he spoke to me like that.
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| Posted 2/25/13 9:24 PM |
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allIwant
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Posted by alli3131
Nope my DH supports me wether I'm 90 lbs or 390 lbs. I would tell him to F off if he spoke to me like that.
I agree
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| Posted 2/25/13 9:27 PM |
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Posted by alli3131
Nope my DH supports me wether I'm 90 lbs or 390 lbs. I would tell him to F off if he spoke to me like that.
This exactly 100000%. This post makes me . Tell him to go scratch!
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MCD0524
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double post
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| Posted 2/25/13 9:29 PM |
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MeowMeow2
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
You poor thing! 
No offense, but he's acting like a complete d0uche!! He shouldn't be badgering you like that whatsoever. I'd tell him to stfu, honestly.
He should get off his a$$ and help you out more. He's not a child, he can help with the chores around the house. I'd seriously sit down and try to end this horrible behavior of his.
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| Posted 2/25/13 9:32 PM |
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tara73
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Posted by alli3131
Nope my DH supports me wether I'm 90 lbs or 390 lbs. I would tell him to F off if he spoke to me like that.
Same here, and he has proven it. I gained 125lbs with my oldest and have struggled to get it off. I've lost some, but not all, and am no where near prepregnancy weight or condition.
You are beautiful just the way you are. Your husband is an ass. Tell him maybe if he lifted one of his princely fingers once in a while you'd actually have the TIME to dedicate to your looks.
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| Posted 2/25/13 9:34 PM |
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Xelindrya
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I feel so bad for you.
Mine has no such expectations as I made it clear when we dated that I don't "serve" him diddly squat. He knows what he married. To expect any more wouldn't be me.
I don't cook for him
I don't clean for him
I don't owe him my attention
I don't live my life for him
We do things because we want to, not because we have to or its expected. Both of us do what we can. If not, and the other one doesn't do it then tough shit it aint getting done.
Sorry but HELLZ no would I LET him get away with something like this... NO ONE is perfect and yeah Id shove that happy shit right back at him. sorry.. just feel so upset FOR you.
i'm still 15lbs over my pre-preggo weight. But I'm on a low sodium, low fat, high fiber diet with two jobs and tons more walking.. THIS body is what I am. It isn't getting any better.. just hope it doesn't get worse! LOL for my sake!
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nycgirl
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Seriously?
You have 2 options:
1. Leave your baby with him to exercise once a day for an hour. You can also stop by the pedicure place. Get creative. It will last 2 sessions... Maybe 3. Make sure the kid is hungry when you leave.
2. Hit him where it hurts. Did he gain any weight? Getting some grey hairs? Losing some sexual stamina? Play ugly and then tell him that no one is perfect.
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headoverheels
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Is he for real?
No my DH does not speak to me like that or treat me like that.
If he did he'd be sleeping in his car until he could afford his own place.
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| Posted 2/25/13 9:38 PM |
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Budjeg11
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anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Yes! DH makes certain comments about my body post baby and I tell him to F off and point out his own gut and lack of carrying a baby as an excuse =) However a) I KNOW I need to work on losing some of my baby weight etc and b) I know that it doesnt change the way he feels about me and he thinks he is being funny, so I dont take it to heart-- I did however tell him that as confident as I am even when overweight, I am a bit touchy about my weight right now and I am not one of his buddy's to joke around with -- so if he could leave the ha ha jokes aside I would appreciate it. He did.
Is it possible that he is unhappy about something else and taking it out onyour weight/eating ? is he generally very controlling/perfectionist or a complete health nut ? Has he always been like this? Is he supportive in other things ? I would look at the bigger picture to see what is going on.
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
My DH would never say something directly, but he'll make comments here and there about the fact that I snack a lot. My worst issue with DH in that area is that he checks out girls who look like the former me. That is the biggest blow to my ego, because I certainly can't turn back the hands of time and I don't think I could ever be that skinny again unless I starved myself.
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Posted by headoverheels
Is he for real?
No my DH does not speak to me like that or treat me like that.
If he did he'd be sleeping in his car until he could afford his own place.
Yep... Exactly this! I am angry for you just reading this! That is total BS.
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| Posted 2/25/13 9:57 PM |
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Posts like these make me realize how grateful I am to have a kind, considerate husband.
You don't deserve to be spoken to that way. Being a new mother and adjusting to your new role as a mommy is difficult enough. We are all so hard on ourselves already about the way we look, if we are doing a good job as a mother and wife... How dare he make you feel that way.
He is lucky he isn't married to me... He would be toothless and homeless
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anyone elses DH obnoxious?
I lost my baby weight but my body shape is different now. I have a pouch where I didn't before. It's very hard to find time to go to the gym for an hour when working full time having to pick up dd taking care of her etc. I want to be healthy but have limited time. That being said, dh has made comments here and there about when I'm gonna start going to the gym, wanting to start weight watchers together, etc.
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Posted by headoverheels
Is he for real?
No my DH does not speak to me like that or treat me like that.
If he did he'd be sleeping in his car until he could afford his own place.
This.
I cannot fathom DH treating me that way. So sorry for what you're dealing with.
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headoverheels
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He is lucky he isn't married to me... He would be toothless and homeless
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Posted by headoverheels
Is he for real?
No my DH does not speak to me like that or treat me like that.
If he did he'd be sleeping in his car until he could afford his own place.
No kidding - same here.
I am more than 100 lbs overweight and DH never makes negative comments to me. He doesn't encourage my eating or lack of exercise but he would not say anything blatantly negative either.
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ANR1211
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anyone elses DH obnoxious?
That's terrible! I would punch DH in the face if he ever said anything to me like that!!!!!!
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MrsKelly
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Posted by nycgirl
Seriously?
You have 2 options:
1. Leave your baby with him to exercise once a day for an hour. You can also stop by the pedicure place. Get creative. It will last 2 sessions... Maybe 3. Make sure the kid is hungry when you leave.
2. Hit him where it hurts. Did he gain any weight? Getting some grey hairs? Losing some sexual stamina? Play ugly and then tell him that no one is perfect.
i have my own issues with dh... his selfishness, lack of help etc - but he def doesnt comment on my weight. Its fluctuated through the years, before the baby and i gained 60lbs with her. Its a really sensitive subject with me and i can and do tolerate a lot, but if he went there, i think it'd be the 1st and last time. Im sorry you're dealing with this... so not ok
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Strawberry2468
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Oh DH would NOT be coming home to a cooked dinner if he did that. He is WAY out of line. I'm sorry he is being such an azz. You need to give him an ultimatum because thats just BS.
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