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MrsT809
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Posted by headoverheels
Is he for real?
No my DH does not speak to me like that or treat me like that.
If he did he'd be sleeping in his car until he could afford his own place.
This.
You are allowing him to treat you this way. If I were you I wouldn't cook him another meal or do a stitch of his laundry, etc until he gives you a serious apology and has some major attitude changes.
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Naturalmama
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anyone elses DH obnoxious?
No. And if he did I am not sure how much longer he would be my husband. I am so sorry he is treating you this way!
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HoneymoonBaby
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
He should watch the baby while you go out to work out. Let him take care of the baby...he may never criticize you again...lol
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| Posted 2/26/13 8:06 AM |
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Jax430
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. He is treating you terribly, and you should not put up with that. The only time DH comments on my weight/body is when I am complaining about it, and he is trying to be helpful. DH and I both work full time, but I get home 3 hours earlier. Even so, he never expects dinner to be on the table (although I try to have it ready), and is fine if I say that it's too much today and we need to order in. You and your DH need to have a serious conversation about how he is treating you.
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ThreeforTea
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anyone elses DH obnoxious?
so sorry he is treating you this way. You seriously need to talk to him about this. This is not ok. He is being verbally abusive. Please talk to him about it.
as I read this again, it's pissing me off more and more. I hate hate that certain men have all these expections of a women- maintaining weight, appearance, style, whatever, when the man should really take a good look in the mirror- just saying. I really hate this. Does he have a belly? gray hairs? I mean come on. ugh
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wo0shply
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anyone elses DH obnoxious?
DH said something once and I ripped him a new one and now he never says anything to me because I do pretty much everything you do.
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NervousNell
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
If DH ever made a comment about my body like that- ESPECIALLY considering your body changed due to the fact that you were busy creating HIS child inside of you and now you are running ragged trying to care for that child, and him, and the house- I would probably never speak to him again.
that is ballsy.
SOOO ballsy
He would never though.
I can't believe your DH would be that superficial
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maybebaby
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Your DH's words are verbally abusive. I was near tears reading your post...
You had his CHILD..carried a baby for 9 months and have a lot going on..it's a lot of work carrying a baby, giving birth, and falling into this new life routine. He sounds like a jerk, I don't mean to offend...but he should be your biggest supporter right now. Even if you were 50 pounds overweight, he should never approach you like this.
A good friend of mine from college has a DH who acts very similarly...he goes as far as to grab food out of her hand while she's eating. She looks wonderful and is a great person, but she is treated like a child and made to feel badly about a LOT of things. It's very similar stuff to what you wrote about. You need to end the behavior now!! I wouldn't tolerate any of it, and I'm sorry you have to deal with this!!!
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JDubs
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Posted by alli3131
Nope my DH supports me wether I'm 90 lbs or 390 lbs. I would tell him to F off if he spoke to me like that.
ITA!
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RocPin
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
No way would I put up with DH talking to me like that. He knows better. Period.
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| Posted 2/26/13 10:14 AM |
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Posted by headoverheels
Is he for real?
No my DH does not speak to me like that or treat me like that.
If he did he'd be sleeping in his car until he could afford his own place.
Exactly this!!
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IAMMRSBROWN
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
This is so sad.
I want to say that I feel bad for you but you are totally allowing him to act this way.
I dont want to insult anyone by comparing but honestly, my DH would never speak to me like that. But more importantly, he would never even think along those lines. Thats awful. Commenting on your weight and expecting you to be his servant.
You are his wife not some subordinate off the street. His behavior shows that he lacks respect for you.
Im sorry but i would talk to him and make it clear that things are going to change. You should be proud of yourself, not be put down all the time.
Disgusting.
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MrsDrMatt
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
You have posted in the past about similar treatment from your husband on the realationship board. Please don't think I internet stalk you I only remember because the post was so sad.....
Please know that you deserve to be respected as a wife, as a mother, and as a human being. You have a CHOICE here. You may not be able to change him but you sure can change yourself.
Take control of your life and your child's life. Tolerating this treatment will expose your child to an unhealthy environment that will affect his/her futrue relationships.
Yes it will be scary to stand up to him but it is also scary to think ahead to years and years of similar treatment.
Maybe its time for a wakeup call for him.
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KimberlyScott
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anyone elses DH obnoxious?
I can relate somewhat to everything you've mentioned. My DH didn't directly say "you need to workout" he said "when you start working out". I took it the same way. I'm 9M PP and I'm selling my treadmill bc I don't use it and honestly, I would rather spend time with my DD then on it or at the gym bc I'm a FTWM. I could tell he wasn't as attracted to me anymore bc he didn't want sex that often. Still made me feel horrible. I joined weight watchers to get me back on track bc I wasn't eating I was snacking and it was on junk and I wasn't loosing any weight. I dropped 10 lbs and Im now back to my pre preggo weight.
The thing that is obnoxious about my DH is he is the one overweight.........by 50 lbs BUT, that's ok!
As long as YOU are happy with the way YOU look and feel---F*&K him!
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
It sounds like he has some control issues. It's not only what you eat, it's like he wants to be in charge of everything you do.
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lvdolphins
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Nope. I've always been overweight. I joined WW and lost 60lbs.
I gained some back and when I told DH I was going back to WW, he asked "Why"?
If he ever pulled something like your DH is pulling and he didn't change, then our relationship/marriage would change. I would never ever put up being treated like that. I'm sorry.
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Bearcat
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ElizaRags35
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Posted by alli3131
Nope my DH supports me wether I'm 90 lbs or 390 lbs. I would tell him to F off if he spoke to me like that.
Exactly.
Sorry but he'd be eating his balls if he ever expected anything like you mentioned or said anything about my looks and I'm about as loose and flabby as they come.
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Posted by headoverheels
Is he for real?
No my DH does not speak to me like that or treat me like that.
If he did he'd be sleeping in his car until he could afford his own place.
This, after I kicked his ass.
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JennZ
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anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Oh and tell him maybe if you helped a little more I would want to go to the gym, until then shut the fcuk up.
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eroxgirl
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Add me to the list of women who would react violently..
You DO NOT deserve that... the average woman hasn't even lost all her baby weight by 6 months, nor has she slept a straight 8 hours in that time. He should be praising you and complimenting you for being able to keep it all together as well as you have so far.
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ModDot
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
Posted by Xelindrya
I feel so bad for you.
Mine has no such expectations as I made it clear when we dated that I don't "serve" him diddly squat. He knows what he married. To expect any more wouldn't be me.
I don't cook for him
I don't clean for him
I don't owe him my attention
I don't live my life for him
We do things because we want to, not because we have to or its expected. Both of us do what we can. If not, and the other one doesn't do it then tough shit it aint getting done.
Sorry but HELLZ no would I LET him get away with something like this... NO ONE is perfect and yeah Id shove that happy shit right back at him. sorry.. just feel so upset FOR you.
i'm still 15lbs over my pre-preggo weight. But I'm on a low sodium, low fat, high fiber diet with two jobs and tons more walking.. THIS body is what I am. It isn't getting any better.. just hope it doesn't get worse! LOL for my sake!
pretty much this. If he can dish it out he better be able to take it, in my book. He wants to criticize, he better be effing PERFECT
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| Posted 2/26/13 12:30 PM |
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skinny
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
He sounds like an asshole.
I hope you are able to get to a place where you find happiness.
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| Posted 2/26/13 12:49 PM |
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Leb
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
It sounds like "his issues" aren't just about your body but the changes that have come with having a new baby.
I'd definitely tell him you agree! You'd love to go to the gym, so he gets to watch the baby and on your way home you'll stop to go food shopping for healthy meals, and like a pp suggested stop for a pedi! You deserve it.
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gina409
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Re: anyone elses DH obnoxious?
this really really upsets me..
lets forget that he wants the house clean and dinner ready while u are ebf a 6 month old...forget that a sec bc that is a whole new ball game
this is your husband...for better or for worse..how dare he say things like that to you
is he self conscious,is he jealous that u lost all the weight but can still eat what u want? is he just a jerk
only you can answer this..but if you do not address this now i can only say it will get worse
be honest,be upfront and let him know how hurtful this is
ask him how he loves you,from the inside or just the outside..say it all,everything u have felt
i will not ie,i think ur dh is a real jerk..bringing weight up to your wife is a **** move no matter what but 6 months pp? and you lost the weight?
i will just say if my dh ever spoke to me like that he would be walking around with 3 shoes...2 on his feet and one in his as$
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