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6yo taken from only parents she's known for being 1.5% Native American

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Have you read this? I want to sob. This is the most horrific thing I've ever read. I am going to try and find a petition. Wtf is wrong with our government???

Posted 3/21/16 10:20 PM
 
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This is just beyond. I can't believe this is real life. How can this be?!?! This poor family.Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 3/21/16 10:26 PM
 

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OMG, I am in TEARS. That poor little girl. How is this is allowed to happen? There is a family that loves her and wants her, who cares for her and you take her to put with a family she doesn't know bc of 1.5%, thats so negligible its ridiculous.

Posted 3/21/16 10:43 PM
 

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6yo taken from only parents she's known for being 1.5% Native American

I read about this and it is beyond devastating for the family and especially the little girl. I tried to get more information because it is unbelievable to read and from what I can read about the laws, I think the county screwed up placement of this child from the beginning. My heart tugs for that little girl : (.

Posted 3/21/16 10:44 PM
 

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They switched to a YouCaring fund:
"Hi all - we have switched to a YouCaring.com account. We were informed they are very supportive of adoption and allow us to provide more funds directly to the Pages. Funds will be used for a Save Lexi legal fund."

They did say all GoFundMe funds are still going to the family.

[L=https://www.youcaring.com/little-lexi-542964[/L]

The Family's FB page - Save Our Lexi

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Posted 3/21/16 10:47 PM
 

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6yo taken from only parents she's known for being 1.5% Native American

They have a Facebook page and go fund me. I will be donating. I wear to god Whoever did this needs to die. This girl stands NO chance in life.

I will tell you a quick story. I don't know details. In the 60s my grandparents took in a distant cousins baby girl. The mother was mentally ill and on drugs. She was raised in my mothers family of 6 kids. When she was about 5ish the mother came back for her against my grandparents protests. They tried to keep her but courts have to biological.

A year later she was dumped in an institution in Brooklyn I think. I forgot the name, creed more or something where they did eugenics on people! My grandparents faithfully visited her. She was sexually abused. There was literally nothing my grandparents could do. When she was a teen she left and disappeared. They found out she was into drugs and mentally ill. My family can barely even talk about it. Literally hands tied and couldn't get her back. It makes me sick, she would have been my Aunt and her life was destroyed. If alive she's only in her early 50s today.

Posted 3/21/16 10:49 PM
 

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How do they even calculate 1.5% and how is that even a valid amount? That child is not native american, not at 1.5%. How does that other 98.5 not override that?

Posted 3/21/16 10:53 PM
 

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Change.org Petition

Posted 3/21/16 10:56 PM
 

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6yo taken from only parents she's known for being 1.5% Native American

This reminds me of Bean Trees by Barbara Kingsolver... The sequel. She goes into all of this. It's devastating.

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Posted 3/21/16 10:58 PM
 

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They are also saying to call and write to the Choctaw Nation leaders to have her sent home

Chief Batton Email;
[email protected]

His FB Page
https://www.facebook.com/Chief-Gary-Batton-613414052036292/

Posted 3/21/16 11:13 PM
 

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Change.org Petition



Please sign! They're trying for 100k signatures this week!

Posted 3/22/16 11:36 AM
 

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Wait- what kind of a law is there that you can't adopt or foster a child that isn't the same race as you?
WHAT?
What year is this? What country is this?
So are you saying that if I wanted to foster a child who was African American and I am not, I can't?

WHAT?

Just read it's because she is part Native American?

What kid of archaic bullshitt racist law is this ??

What about what is best for the child? What ever happened to that?
OMG this country makes me physically sick sometimes

I'm sorry but this is just completey racist. It totally is 100% racist.

That is like saying that a black family can't raise a white child or a white family can't raise an Asian child. Could you imagine the repercussions if there was a law like this in these cases?

But it's ok because it's Native American? Really?

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Posted 3/22/16 12:05 PM
 

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6yo taken from only parents she's known for being 1.5% Native American

3 sides to every story
Their side,
Your side
The truth

Not sure how I feel about this. Given that part of my blood line is American Indian.

Posted 3/22/16 12:05 PM
 

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Re: 6yo taken from only parents she's known for being 1.5% Native American

This is disgusting. They are not even placing her with a Native American family, which is their supposed point in all of this! My heart breaks for this family. I sincerely hope our legal system can see beyond some ridiculous law created 50 years ago and get this girl home to her family.

Posted 3/22/16 12:06 PM
 

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Re: 6yo taken from only parents she's known for being 1.5% Native American

Posted by kristin597

This is disgusting. They are not even placing her with a Native American family, which is their supposed point in all of this! My heart breaks for this family. I sincerely hope our legal system can see beyond some ridiculous law created 50 years ago and get this girl home to her family.



Who are they placing her with?

and how is trying to save a race that this country destroyed ridiculous exactly?

ETA: not saying *THIS* situation is perfect but the law itself trying to restore what's been destroyed by this country's forefathers need for utter domination being called 'ridiculous' is a bit much don't you think? Loop holes should be closed, yes. But the intent of the law isn't ridiculous.

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Posted 3/22/16 12:13 PM
 

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Re: 6yo taken from only parents she's known for being 1.5% Native American

Posted by Xelindrya

Posted by kristin597

This is disgusting. They are not even placing her with a Native American family, which is their supposed point in all of this! My heart breaks for this family. I sincerely hope our legal system can see beyond some ridiculous law created 50 years ago and get this girl home to her family.



Who are they placing her with?

and how is trying to save a race that this country destroyed ridiculous exactly?

ETA: not saying *THIS* situation is perfect but the law itself trying to restore what's been destroyed by this country's forefathers need for utter domination being called 'ridiculous' is a bit much don't you think? Loop holes should be closed, yes. But the intent of the law isn't ridiculous.



how is ripping a CHILD from the only family she has ever known saving a race, exactly?
How will that "save a race"? What exactly will that do for the Native American race?

Posted 3/22/16 12:16 PM
 

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Re: 6yo taken from only parents she's known for being 1.5% Native American

Posted by Xelindrya

Posted by kristin597

This is disgusting. They are not even placing her with a Native American family, which is their supposed point in all of this! My heart breaks for this family. I sincerely hope our legal system can see beyond some ridiculous law created 50 years ago and get this girl home to her family.



Who are they placing her with?

and how is trying to save a race that this country destroyed ridiculous exactly?

ETA: not saying *THIS* situation is perfect but the law itself trying to restore what's been destroyed by this country's forefathers need for utter domination being called 'ridiculous' is a bit much don't you think? Loop holes should be closed, yes. But the intent of the law isn't ridiculous.




They are placing her with a non native family but who is related to the biologcal father (who is native) by marriage.
And rhe bio father has a lengthy criminal record. So thats better for this child?

And IMO being 1.5% Native is a big stretch for this situation.


Message edited 3/22/2016 12:29:13 PM.

Posted 3/22/16 12:27 PM
 

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Re: 6yo taken from only parents she's known for being 1.5% Native American

Posted by MsSissy

Posted by Xelindrya

Posted by kristin597

This is disgusting. They are not even placing her with a Native American family, which is their supposed point in all of this! My heart breaks for this family. I sincerely hope our legal system can see beyond some ridiculous law created 50 years ago and get this girl home to her family.



Who are they placing her with?

and how is trying to save a race that this country destroyed ridiculous exactly?

ETA: not saying *THIS* situation is perfect but the law itself trying to restore what's been destroyed by this country's forefathers need for utter domination being called 'ridiculous' is a bit much don't you think? Loop holes should be closed, yes. But the intent of the law isn't ridiculous.




They are placing her with a non native family but who is related to the biologcal father (who is native) by marriage.
And rhe bio father has a lengthy criminal record. So thats better for this child?

And IMO being 1.5% Native is a big stretch for this situation.





And if this is the law and the case, then WHY was she allowed to be placed with this family in the first place. And left to be raised by them for 5 years. And become attached to them . ANd them to her.
If this is the law, then they EFFED UP big time.
And to try to enforce this law now, 5 years later, is just unconscionable

Posted 3/22/16 12:32 PM
 

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Re: 6yo taken from only parents she's known for being 1.5% Native American

My understanding of the law is that it was created with good intentions, but on the margins in practice it is a failure. Historically, Native American kids were being adopted out of tribes causing a loss of culture, tradition, and harming native families. The NA are recognized as sovereign. In an effort to preserve culture, the law was created to give tribes a sort of right of first refusal.

Now for this particular case. The mom and dad were not together. They had agreed to put the child up for adoption. And then about a year after this child was born, the father, who is 2.8% of this tribe said he did not realize what he was agreeing to and that he was on drugs so invalidate the foster agreement. This guy, is not the most law abiding person. But he claimed that through the NA law he should get the baby. Then he said it was reply for a family member who could not have kids. In the mean time, this kid was still with the foster parents who had said they would intro NA to the kid. Let the bio dad family visit and see the kid. The courts let this go on for five years. This child is six years old. Now, at six the courts have said give the kid to the other family. They have been fighting for five years. It is a terribly difficult situation and this unfortunate child is stuck in the middle of it all.

Posted 3/22/16 12:51 PM
 

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Re: 6yo taken from only parents she's known for being 1.5% Native American

Posted by LSP2005

My understanding of the law is that it was created with good intentions, but on the margins in practice it is a failure. Historically, Native American kids were being adopted out of tribes causing a loss of culture, tradition, and harming native families. The NA are recognized as sovereign. In an effort to preserve culture, the law was created to give tribes a sort of right of first refusal.

Now for this particular case. The mom and dad were not together. They had agreed to put the child up for adoption. And then about a year after this child was born, the father, who is 2.8% of this tribe said he did not realize what he was agreeing to and that he was on drugs so invalidate the foster agreement. This guy, is not the most law abiding person. But he claimed that through the NA law he should get the baby. Then he said it was reply for a family member who could not have kids. In the mean time, this kid was still with the foster parents who had said they would intro NA to the kid. Let the bio dad family visit and see the kid. The courts let this go on for five years. This child is six years old. Now, at six the courts have said give the kid to the other family. They have been fighting for five years. It is a terribly difficult situation and this unfortunate child is stuck in the middle of it all.



I could swear there was another high profile case last year or so (or maybe this is the same child?) but it is ridiculous that they will take this child out of a home b/c she is not even 1/8 part NA. Really. this is not what the law was made for.

My heart aches. and as someone who is toying with the foster to adopt option, I just think that I will have a kid and then bam..will be taken away. I feel terrible for the foster parents and the little girl.

Posted 3/22/16 1:00 PM
 

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This is one of the most heartbreaking things I have ever read! The foster system is BROKEN! This law is ridiculous!!!! What should race have to do with who can foster anyone? I don't understand any of it. That poor baby girl. My dd is almost 6 I cannot imagine the pain, the fear, the sadness that little girl is going through.

I seriously considered becoming a foster parent. I just hate that the system is so messed up. My grandparents were foster parents for over 30 years and they always said the system does not look out for the best interest of the child. My cousin and her husband have a 1 month old baby right now who was born to a drug addicted mother who tried to commit sucuide while pregnant and her father is in jail. They are working towards getting supervised visitation for the mother. It's just crazy!

Posted 3/22/16 1:01 PM
 

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This story is incredibly sad. The guardianship of this girl has been ongoing for a long time. I understand the courts stress reunification, an this article TRIES to paint the father in a good light who despite poor decisions knew what diaper rash looked like, but how can an ex-con who is still not stable be the best choice for this girl?

She is leaving stability, love, and the possibility of a normal life. I hope and pray the family members that are taking this girl in are stable and loving; we just don't know. One thing is for sure is that it is a very confusing time for this girl, and I pray that somehow she comes out ok and strong in the end.

The foster system is difficult. My parents fostered children for many years, and there was one girl they had from 0-5 years old. The mother would not relinquish rights, and the court would not take them away. Each time this girl visited her mother, she came back to my parents more broken. Eventually she went back to live with her mom; and thats all we will ever know about her. My parents stopped fostering soon after this girl left (only after adopting their last foster child...my awesome brother) because the red tape and the politics and the LACK of putting the child first were just too much for them to contend with anymore while trying to create stability for the children in their home.

I pray for this girl....this is where my thoughts lie.

More info. about dad and family

Posted 3/22/16 1:24 PM
 

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6yo taken from only parents she's known for being 1.5% Native American

This is a bull shit law and will only do more harm than good for the child.

Posted 3/22/16 1:26 PM
 

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6yo taken from only parents she's known for being 1.5% Native American

Horrific. Disgusting. And a nightmare. This poor family and little girl. Absolutely and 100% wrong to tear this little girl from the only family that she has ever known and loved. I truly hope and pray they get Lexi back.

Posted 3/22/16 1:31 PM
 

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Re: 6yo taken from only parents she's known for being 1.5% Native American

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Posted by LSP2005

My understanding of the law is that it was created with good intentions, but on the margins in practice it is a failure. Historically, Native American kids were being adopted out of tribes causing a loss of culture, tradition, and harming native families. The NA are recognized as sovereign. In an effort to preserve culture, the law was created to give tribes a sort of right of first refusal.

Now for this particular case. The mom and dad were not together. They had agreed to put the child up for adoption. And then about a year after this child was born, the father, who is 2.8% of this tribe said he did not realize what he was agreeing to and that he was on drugs so invalidate the foster agreement. This guy, is not the most law abiding person. But he claimed that through the NA law he should get the baby. Then he said it was reply for a family member who could not have kids. In the mean time, this kid was still with the foster parents who had said they would intro NA to the kid. Let the bio dad family visit and see the kid. The courts let this go on for five years. This child is six years old. Now, at six the courts have said give the kid to the other family. They have been fighting for five years. It is a terribly difficult situation and this unfortunate child is stuck in the middle of it all.



I could swear there was another high profile case last year or so (or maybe this is the same child?) but it is ridiculous that they will take this child out of a home b/c she is not even 1/8 part NA. Really. this is not what the law was made for.

My heart aches. and as someone who is toying with the foster to adopt option, I just think that I will have a kid and then bam..will be taken away. I feel terrible for the foster parents and the little girl.

this is not the same child. The other child the father never had custody or supported the mom. Also, the other father was in the military and had deployed to Iraq. In the end that child was ultimately adopted by the non biological parents, but it was the only placement for the child. In this case, the child has been in multiple homes while the bio father was in jail. He did care for the child as a single dad for a while.

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