sad vent

I can't stand this whole process... the disappointment of the BFN month after month is devastating... so much anticipation and hope and expectation, so much excitement to test only to just get let down over and over again... It's really starting to take a toll on me. I know there are those of you out there who have been trying much longer than me and I truly feel for all of you, so I feel bad complaining, but this is really hard, much harder than I ever thought it would be

Message edited 6/5/2012 2:45:06 PM.

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i feel the same way, the way i look at it, it doesn't matter how long you've been ttc, it still hurts every month and people getting pregnant so fast around you, boggle your mind. especially if they are close to you, you feel upset. i know 9 people i know are pregnant it makes me sad. i try to deal with it and focus on the positive things in my life.

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its ok to vent TTC is nuts! its an emotional roller coaster..its absolutely the most stressful thing next to buying a house..I swear it sucks.

Hang in there, take a deep breath and try to relax. I wish you lots of luck

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This is the best place to vent! Get it out of your system so you don't take it out on people close to you. We are all here for you and many of us are in your shoes!! Try not to stress too much and enjoy what you can of this awful process. Good luck

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Can I share my story with you?

I was a member of this board in '08 when I was trying to conceive DS. When I was on this board, I was a charter, a temper, an opk and pre-seed user...the works! I tried everything I could to get pregnant. When it didn't happen in month 1, I cried. When it didn't happen in month 2, I cried again. When it didn't happen in months 3 and 4 I was devastated. My whole world was sadness. Why do I tell you this? Because on the next try, we got pregnant. And I wouldn't change a THING! Even though at the time I was so sad, it brought me to the wonderful place I am now. I always think to myself that if I hadn't gotten pregnant that exact month I wouldn't have my beautiful, precious boy. I truly think that I was meant to have him. So please don't feel sad if you got a BFN this month, you'll get your BFP soon and get the child you are meant to have!! Now that I am TTC #2 I try to keep this same sentiment in mind. It will happen when it should happen!

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i struggled for 2 and a half yrs with infertility and multiple losses

i will say by far it was the hardest thing i have ever gone through..i do not even think i can put into words what i felt

i wam telling u bc i want u to know it is ok to feel sad and or mad and frustrated..when ttc does not happen like we want it deflates u...it can be so hard

i just wanted to say do not give up hope..i will not tell u to relax lol bc to me it is one of the worse things u can say to someone ttc ...but do not give up...i am living proof of u never know

best of luck to you

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thank you all

It helps to know i'm not alone

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Posted by Teachergal

Can I share my story with you?

I was a member of this board in '08 when I was trying to conceive DS. When I was on this board, I was a charter, a temper, an opk and pre-seed user...the works! I tried everything I could to get pregnant. When it didn't happen in month 1, I cried. When it didn't happen in month 2, I cried again. When it didn't happen in months 3 and 4 I was devastated. My whole world was sadness. Why do I tell you this? Because on the next try, we got pregnant. And I wouldn't change a THING! Even though at the time I was so sad, it brought me to the wonderful place I am now. I always think to myself that if I hadn't gotten pregnant that exact month I wouldn't have my beautiful, precious boy. I truly think that I was meant to have him. So please don't feel sad if you got a BFN this month, you'll get your BFP soon and get the child you are meant to have!! Now that I am TTC #2 I try to keep this same sentiment in mind. It will happen when it should happen!

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ITA!

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you are not alone. this is one of the hardest things i have to go through. i find myself crying every now and then. but i know it will happen for ALL of us. and it is completely normal to feel this way.