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OMG we get this all the time. DH and I have been together as a couple for 10 years and ALL of his brothers and cousins have children. We're the only childless couple in his whole family. So, we get asked this question a lot. We used to just giggle it off and say "later". Then when we were trying we'd say "we're working on it!". Well, thats a mistake too! Because every time we saw them afterwards they would ask, "So are you preggers yet?". Now that we're trying again, we're pretty much bracing ourselves for the comments. People can be so insensitive (without meaning to be...sometimes). sighhhhh!

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I would say things like, "Its not up to us, it is up to the big guy," pointing at this ceiling. I am not a very religious person at all, but it seemed to make the person asking the question feel as awkward as I did being asked it.

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I personally have found that 99% of the time its a woman who is a mother asking me that question. If I respond with "I have a very demanding career that is important to me and I have certain personal goals I want to meet before I have to give it all up to be a mom" (I don't really believe that) you can actually see the asker think about that and it shuts them up. I realize its b!tchy and catty but it works.

Of course, when I actually do get pregnant I have better accomplished something!

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i hate the questions.....when we first got married we were planning to wait a few years so I would just make a remark like "oh maybe in 5-10 years" even though i knew it wouldn't be that long.

now that i know i have some issues and we are seeign a RE the question annoys me even worse...it makes me feel bad each time someone asks it....so i kinda of just ignore the question or just answer with a "maybe someday" type thing.

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we are ttc #2
DD is 15 months
we havent been doing anything to prevent baby #2 ever since DD was born
so i get this question a lot
ive been saying: when are are blessed with a gift from God.
thats all
it shuts them up

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Unfortunately, that question never stops...even after you have a baby. Ever since our son was around a year, now I get..."so, when are you giving him a little brother or sister?" And more recently, when my brother and sister in law announced that they pregnant again (their son is only 8 months), I totally felt like my in laws were looking at us like "so, when do you plan to have more?"

We wanted our kids about 3 years apart so we could enjoy one kid before having to worry about another. So, we're doing things by our schedule and I just tell people that it will happen all in due time.

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It's usually DH's family that say these things so I just reply, "When you're ready to pay for daycare."

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I usually beat around the bush.. I say, yeah when it happens it happens.. or if someone asks "r u planning".. i say.. i'm always planning something.. or if they as when.. my response is once married.. its always in the back of your mind.. and they let go.. and get the picture..

if they pester me.. or touch my belly i literally walk away... its rude, I know.. but my community has no qualms about belly watching, or belly touching..

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I just respond that we aren't even thinking about it but hopefully one day.

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