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Re: What the heck is going on
Posted by maybeamommy
Posted by MRSBA
I am truly sorry if this makes this thread get pulled again but it seriously irritates me when people say "just relax".
1) The fact is I know MANY people including ones on this board who temped, used OPK's, and obssessed over timing who DID get pregnant. So "just relaxing" was not a factor for them.
2) I absolutely HATE when someone mentions that someone they know was going through IVF or infertility and then "relaxed" and got pregnant. Infertility is a medical issue it does NOT get solved by relaxing.
3) It is a fact that the longer that you are trying in that first year the more likely you are to be pg. If 70-80% of people get preggo in year one than by continuing to BD you just upped your odds. I do not believe relaxing had one iota to do with it.
4)Often men who have low sperm counts don't know it. So if you are BD every day and then "relax" for a month - you may have unkowingly upped your chances. It's not because you relaxed it's because his sperm count was better
ughh. I could go on and on. I really think it's a horrible thing to say to someone and actually puts the blame on women for not getting pregnant....
A girl after my own heart! 
I agree with all of this.
ALSO- it VERY OFTEN takes AT LEAST 6 months to get pregnant. That is COMPLETELY normal. It is even normal, although frustrating, for it to take up to one year.
Do not listen to anyone who tells you to "just relax" or "not over think things".
If you are worried, you're worried and that's that. Simple tests can help ease your fears. Not "relaxing".
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Re: What the heck is going on
Posted by JennyPenny
Posted by maybeamommy
Posted by MRSBA
I am truly sorry if this makes this thread get pulled again but it seriously irritates me when people say "just relax".
1) The fact is I know MANY people including ones on this board who temped, used OPK's, and obssessed over timing who DID get pregnant. So "just relaxing" was not a factor for them.
2) I absolutely HATE when someone mentions that someone they know was going through IVF or infertility and then "relaxed" and got pregnant. Infertility is a medical issue it does NOT get solved by relaxing.
3) It is a fact that the longer that you are trying in that first year the more likely you are to be pg. If 70-80% of people get preggo in year one than by continuing to BD you just upped your odds. I do not believe relaxing had one iota to do with it.
4)Often men who have low sperm counts don't know it. So if you are BD every day and then "relax" for a month - you may have unkowingly upped your chances. It's not because you relaxed it's because his sperm count was better
ughh. I could go on and on. I really think it's a horrible thing to say to someone and actually puts the blame on women for not getting pregnant....
A girl after my own heart!
I agree with all of this.
ALSO- it VERY OFTEN takes AT LEAST 6 months to get pregnant. That is COMPLETELY normal. It is even normal, although frustrating, for it to take up to one year.
Do not listen to anyone who tells you to "just relax" or "not over think things".
If you are worried, you're worried and that's that. Simple tests can help ease your fears. Not "relaxing".
Thank you! 
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mcl916
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Re: What the heck is going on
Posted by MRSBA
I am truly sorry if this makes this thread get pulled again but it seriously irritates me when people say "just relax".
1) The fact is I know MANY people including ones on this board who temped, used OPK's, and obssessed over timing who DID get pregnant. So "just relaxing" was not a factor for them.
2) I absolutely HATE when someone mentions that someone they know was going through IVF or infertility and then "relaxed" and got pregnant. Infertility is a medical issue it does NOT get solved by relaxing.
3) It is a fact that the longer that you are trying in that first year the more likely you are to be pg. If 70-80% of people get preggo in year one than by continuing to BD you just upped your odds. I do not believe relaxing had one iota to do with it.
4)Often men who have low sperm counts don't know it. So if you are BD every day and then "relax" for a month - you may have unkowingly upped your chances. It's not because you relaxed it's because his sperm count was better
ughh. I could go on and on. I really think it's a horrible thing to say to someone and actually puts the blame on women for not getting pregnant....
Trust me, I was FAR from relaxed during my IVF cycle and that was the only one I got pregnant on 
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JennyPenny
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Re: What the heck is going on
Same here!
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maybeamommy
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Re: What the heck is going on
Posted by JennyPenny
Same here!
Funny... because I was SO relaxed for my first IVF. I mean, I was CONVINCED that it would work. I didn't even think twice about it! And of course as relaxed as I was... didn't get pregnant.
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JennyPenny
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Re: What the heck is going on
Posted by maybeamommy
Funny... because I was SO relaxed for my first IVF. I mean, I was CONVINCED that it would work. I didn't even think twice about it! And of course as relaxed as I was... didn't get pregnant.
Maybe you should NOT relax!
Up your stress level girl!
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Re: What the heck is going on
Posted by JennyPenny
Posted by maybeamommy
Funny... because I was SO relaxed for my first IVF. I mean, I was CONVINCED that it would work. I didn't even think twice about it! And of course as relaxed as I was... didn't get pregnant.
Maybe you should NOT relax!
Up your stress level girl!
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Tinyswife
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Re: What the heck is going on
I always miss the drama. I hate sleeping during the day. Anyone want to start drama at 2am when I am up??
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Re: What the heck is going on
Posted by Tinyswife
I always miss the drama. I hate sleeping during the day. Anyone want to start drama at 2am when I am up??
Sure, but it might just be you and me-I am up like clockwork at 2am!
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